Lies, take it from a fellow control freak....let some of your responsibilities go. Tell your DH that he's going to have to help out. Then give him a list. I've learned that dry erase markers work great on the fridge. You write his list up on the fridge daily, & then he can erase it when it's done. I was in the EXACT same position only about a month ago. I was so stressed over the overwhelming amount of work that needed to be done that I was making myself sick. A great friend finally made me understand that, even though the magazine on the coffee table isn't perfectly straight like I like it to be, it really isn't that big of a deal.
All right, my turn to whine...
Our contractor has completely ruined the cabinetry in our new house. For some reason they went out & bought almost black stain for the cabinets. I had already picked out the stain that I wanted used, bought it, & delivered it to the new house for use. The contractor has agreed to pay for new cabinetry, but since it was custom made, I am looking at 3-4 weeks before it is ready. We were hoping to move into the house in 3-4 weeks.
Apparently, I now have a stalker. I am not usually nervous or easily spooked, but this has me really scared.
I still have a nasty gaping hole in my leg from a stupid spider bite. It still hurts, & I can't run, bike, or ride without considerable discomfort. Since I can't exercise, I am bouncing off the walls all the time. I'm having to watch what I eat so that I don't end up gaining tons of weight. For a girl who eats 6000 calories a day, & then runs them off, this is a tough situation. This damn bite has also put a damper on "extraciricular activities" if you catch my drift. It's in a terrible location & any time that I move my leg, even a little bit, I am worried that I am tearing the little bit of healing tissue that I have.
My best friend has been dead for over 4 months & I am still paying her cell phone bill so that I can call her & hear her voice on the voice mail message. I used to talk to her 3-4 times a day, & I know her voice, but I'm terrified that if I have the phone shut off, I will forget what she sounded like. DH thinks that I am being ridiculous & that I should just have the phone disconnected. We've had more than one disagreement over this, & I know that, logically, he is right, but I refuse to worry with logic right now.
When my grandfather died, I was left in charge of his estate. I am the decision maker for my grandmother as well. Nothing was organized, & I'm having a very difficult time wading through everything. I had to put my grandmother into an assisted living facility, & I feel very guilty about it. I know that she can't take care of herself, & her alzheimers is progressing, but still... My family is fighting over stupid stuff, & I am supposed to be the person to help hold them together, but I really want to tell them all to go jump off an overpass into rush hour traffic.
My mother & I don't speak. I haven't spoke with her since she blamed me for my best friend's death. She wasn't a great mother to me, & I have zero respect for her, but I do wish that I could call her from time to time to ask for her opinion. I used to do this with my grandma, but now instead of asking for advice, I just hope that she remembers who I am.
DH & I have different parenting styles, which cause arguements from time to time. He is laid back & has a "boys will be boys" attitude. I don't. He is also not as committed to working with DS#2 on his reading as I would like him to be. DS needs to work on it every night, & skipping a few nights because "we'll catch up over the long weekend" is unacceptable in my opinion.
DS#1 is exactly like me. His mother used to tell me this when he was young, but I discounted her as crazy. Now, I can watch him & totally know what is coming next. He is too smart for his own good, & trouble should be his middle name. I love him so much, but some days he makes me crazy.
Lastly, Lies, I think that we use the same bc. I opted to have a period this week after 3 period free months, & it is not going well.