calliecritturs
Posted : 5/12/2009 11:21:42 AM
Absolutely NOT - in fact it bothers ME tremendously when people think everything has to "match" -- I hate to see human twins dressed alike, I hate to see people get another of the same breed just because they "match".
It diminishes the individual -- if you're talking about your purse and your shoes FINE. Match if *you* want to. But don't feel compelled -- THAT is bondage dear. It's all externals. It matters not beyond this moment in time.
If you want another of a certain breed just because you LOVE that breed and it fits with your life, great. Do it. But PLEASE don't just try to have bookends. (Stuffed toys are cheaper and don't require vet bills.)
They are individuals. They are absolutely unique. Dogs and humans aren't accessories. They love, they hurt, they each choose US to love (not because we matched the other human we live with!!)
I know I come on strong with this but I guess because I've always been somewhat handicapped it was very easy to feel like I didn't measure up because I wasn't perfect. And that's just plain wrong. I'm ME ... I'm the culmination of all my experiences and all my genetics. I LIKE me. Just as I am.
In kindergarten two of my best friends were twins. To me they were complete individuals. Mark was Mark and Mike was Mike. The two of them even at that age began to be hurt when people spoke of them as tho MarkandMike were one person.
I can do no less for dogs. We picked Billy after a long, hard search -- we nearly didn't take him BECAUSE he was a buffy coat cocker and Muffin the Intrepid had been a buffy cocker. Muffin was a complete and incredibly wonderful inique individual -- it was actually that Foxy wanted Billy that made us take him.
Luna we CHOSE because she was perfect for what we wanted to do, and she was something different. An opportunity to learn and grow.
Kee we took because she needed US. It "fit" -- her breed had absolutely zero to do with it (it was actually a concern ... but her personality won her a place with us).
Tinkerbell -- Ms. Fairy Dust herself -- she needed us. We decided a project would be healthy.
Why would anyone care about "matching" breeds? Honestly I just can't glom onto that -- how can love "match" -- unless they are only ornaments?
Life is a gift. The extreme absolutely ONCE-IN-A-LIFETIME gift. There will never EVER be another of either of your two dogs.
If you want to "match" buy them matching collars or coats. That's external. But let them be unique. And by golly -- if one of them is rough and tumble and would rather play in the mud and the other likes their hair brushed and neatness -- they don't make them wear the same collar either *grin* ... My four fit together perfectly because we're a family. A family specially chosen to be together and love each other.