What is THE most Romantic thing you have experienced??

 I am not a romantic person!  At all!  So I don't do very romantic things and I don't think I recognise them when I'm on the receiving end either.  I will have to rack my brains hard to think of something....

Niether DH nor I is romantic, but this moment sticks out...

I typically make dinner every night, even when we were dating.  After a particularly hard day I did not feel like making anything, but knew we couldn't afford to go out.  DH had called me right before I left work to see what was going on. I gave him the 2 minute "my day sucks" speech and said I would see him at home and would he be on time for dinner...never mentioning I did NOT want to make something. 

15 minutes after I got home (before I had a chance to start dinner) he waltzed in with a huge dougble cheese and sausage pizza (My favorite) from this out of the way pizzieria that I loved.  All he said was he thought I could use one of these.   In order to get the pizza that quickly, he had to have gotten off work early and drove 15 miles out of the way to get home that early.  I had a pretty good feeling then this man knew who I was without me having to explain anything and without asking. 

Some girls like flowers, I like pizza

audkal

When my boyfriend says things like, "Let's meet up and just hold hands all day".

May I just say.....AWW, that is very, very sweet. 

Seems to a be theme here,  romance happens when someone else, "steps" out of themselves and into the others shoes.  It can be simple or complex, expensive or not.  It might just even be that we can share romance with folks who are not our partners.  It just has a different label.  It can be volunteering, or rescuing, or visiting, or donating......  Nice sentiment no matter what.  Thank you for a thread that reminds me of that.

 Michael

Bonita of Bwana

It has to have been YOU...not something you read in a magazine ... ( no Ron I am not picking on you  hee hee) or a relative

I am laughing with you. I always appreciate a good jab, even if it's at my expense.

You asked for it, you got it.

With my first wife, there were some moments that seemed romantic, at least to me. Before we were married, she was returning a coat to one of her previous male friends. This guy had other ideas. She called in desparation. She had run away from him, leaving her car there and hitched a ride to her father's place. I had a '70 LTD with a 351 Cleveland Police Interceptor (motor) and traction bars on the rear end and I took a turn under an overpass at about 45 mph, beveling off the end of my tailpipe. I get there and he's standing outside in 28 F (it was February) high on cocaine and full of himself. DiDi was in the car with me. I was trying to reach for my gun, a Smith and Wesson nickel-plated model 19 combat frame .357 Mag with a 6 inch barrel and loaded with .38 hollow points. She was wrestling her whole body against my right arm so I figured, fine, I'll do this by hand. I get out and face off against the guy, inches from his face and manage to convince him to go away, this is not going to go well for him.

So, later, DiDi got married at the justice of the peace, 3-23-87. And we have a drink in the restaurant on top of Reunion Tower. That was neat.

With my current wife, DW, I had snuck the engagement ring into my pocket and she never noticed. I grabbed out of my briefcase while she was busy getting dressed. We were looking for places she would like the proposal. We went to Turtle Creek in Dallas and she found a place where she once had a nice lunch with a friend. There was a bench to set and rest a moment. So, I pulled out the ring, which surprised her.

Another time, I bought us tickets and we got to see Dan Fogleberg at the Will Rogers Coliseum.

Feb 14, 2008, I called DW at work and called her Grandma.

A few days later, her daughter, E, emailed a snapfish link and I was able to print off some pics and take them to her at work. What's a grandma without grandbaby pics?

 BF and I aren't stereotypically "romantic." We've had a few vacations that I thought were romantic, but no particular earth-shattering romance moments. More like lots of small things that show he's thinking of me and being loving and kind. Like packing up most of the apartment while I was visiting my family last week, because we were moving the next weekend and he knows I despise packing. Or on that same day we moved, which was my birthday, stashing presents around our new apartment so I would have something to look forward to while we were moving.

Three things stick out to me....."The Waffle Story" in which I asked Jon why he didn't like chocolate chips in his waffles, but BEFORE he got to start explaining I automatically went "Ohhhh!  You don't like the gooey with the crunchy!"

I knew without him having to say anything.

The other things that stick out were the FIRST time I went to visit him (and the first time I actually met him xD) he was allllll the way downstairs studying for one of his classes (it's a big freakin' house), and I was up in his room messing around on the computer.  He came all the way upstairs and I said:

"You done already?"
No.
"Do you need something?"

And then he kissed my forehead, my lips, and every single finger on my left hand.

"Just that," he said. ....And then he left the room to go study again.  I was SO confused!!! I'd never had anybody do something like that before.

And the last thing was on my last visit there.  I was godawful sick the last two days...could barely stand up.  But I absolutely REFUSED to spend my last two days sick in bed without him.  It was pretty late Thursday night, and he had mercifully drugged me with Nyquil.  He'd gone into the movie room to play some video games, and I went in to watch him.  Was I interested in the game?  No.  But I wanted to be with Jon.  I ended up falling asleep in his lap.  It was the best rest I had in a long time, and it was nice to feel wanted :-)

CoBuHe

audkal

When my boyfriend says things like, "Let's meet up and just hold hands all day".

May I just say.....AWW, that is very, very sweet. 

Something else I realized, too, that's kind of romantic. We cook together, sometimes. I was watching "Down Home with the Neelys" (a cooking show) and realized we are kind of like that, too. They were making beer can chicken and red beans and rice. I gues you had to be there.

VanMorrison

Horsing around in the waves on a secluded beach in Hawaii, in the dark.  It was probably dangerous but we laughed so hard that our stomachs hurt.

It was silly and fun and I did it with my best friend.

I have VERY fond memories of Barking Sands Beach in Hawaii!!  Very secluded and yes Bathing suits were not important. Bob and I have been several times, the last time was for 6 weeks.. Amazing times in Hawaii, we have stayed on all of the islands except the little one , starts with a L ,  brain fart can't think how to spell it. I had a tape and later a cd of the Hawaiian Style Band, a local group who had a song called "Love and Honesty" Still makes me tear up when I hear it. There is something really special about being au natural in such a beautiful Place!!

Bonita of Bwana

Bonita

Xeph

"You done already?"
No.
"Do you need something?"

And then he kissed my forehead, my lips, and every single finger on my left hand.

"Just that," he said. ....And then he left the room to go study again.  I was SO confused!!! I'd never had anybody do something like that before.

Xebbie -- this is SOOOOO it for several reasons!!

"romantic" is a definition that ... of necessity ... changes for the person involved.  Because it's all about being "touched" (not physically -- but emotionally or spiritually somehow) by some thoughtful thing.  It might be 'classic' romance like flowers ... but more typically it's just some little thing that makes you feel incredibly valued. 

In this, he wanted to simply be "with" you on a really elementary level.  He was honest enough to make the effort to fill that need to feed HIMSELF, but he also let HER know at the same time what she meant.  And the reason is was so "romantic" to Xebbie was because it touched such a deep responsive chord in her.

THAT is what it's all about.  for some of us flowers and dinner and "words" are what we need.  For others of it it can be anything from Nyquil to feeling 'safe' -- but it's always an effort. 

I have a very sweet DH. He remembers small dates that I forget, such as the day that we met, the day we went on our first date, along with other dates that are important us as a couple. He sends flowers "because it's Tuesday" or "because it's dreary outside, & I wanted to brighten your day." He celebrates our anniversary monthly. He's sweet & romantic most of the time. There are a few instances that stand out as romantic or, at least, extremely sweet moments.

My mother vehemently objected to our engagement. Then moments later, she started planning for the wedding. In order to keep from having to deal with her, DH & I decided to elope. We planned a Vegas wedding with three days notice. (It was a normal, traditional ceremony with 30 of our friends, & family with us.) After working, & planning the wedding, I was quite stressed, & having second thoughts. DH came to pick me up from work to go to the airport & , I was a nervous wreck. I was shaking, & trying to not to cry. He met me with a bouquet of flowers. He told me that, even if I wanted to call off the ceremony, he loved me, & wanted to share the rest of his life. Him being willing to give me an out like that, was one of the sweetest things that he could have done for me.

After the second miscarriage, I kinda fell apart.  I pulled away from DH, because I felt guilty about what had happened.  I decided to take the horse to a state park for a ride, & was gone for around 16 hours.  I left my phone at the office because I didn't want to talk, so DH had no clue where I was or if I was ok.  When I arrived home, DH looked quite mad, but just said "you could have called me."  Then he wrapped his arms around me, & let me cry. 

It's amazing the things our SO's do for us or to us isn't it?

When I was visiting Jon, we would lay in bed together and just talk and touch.  He has a thing about touching my  hands...he really likes touching my hands.  Lots of times he'll cup my cheek too, and stroke with histhumb...it's endearing.

We talk about anything and everything, and kiss, and hug, and snuggle, and just enjoy the company of each other.  He HAS to go to sleep with us touching...it's not optional.  We of course get our "alone time" during the night because we naturally roll away from each other, but most times we'd wake up spooning,  or I will have curled up ON him sometime during the night with my head tucked beneath his chin, or resting on his chest.

I remember being so nervous the first time we shared the same bed, but really, the moment he was next to me, it felt like the most natural thing in the world, and we'd been doing it for years.

Sometimes I'm ashamed that he surprises me so much with how sweet he is.  For a man that loves guns, and knives, and hunting, and blowing things up, he himself is rather quiet and introverted.  Extremely sincere and honest, and wouldn't hurt a fly unless it tried to hurt him first.  Sometimes he can be a bit of a hot head, but it doesn't take much for me to talk him down, although in general he's calm and centered, and wants to do nothing more than watch a movie with me on the couch and cuddle.

I remember being in Kay Jewelers on 34th street in NYC, and we saw the ring we had picked out for my engagement ring online.  He asked to see it, and slipped it on my finger so I could see what it looked like.  It was a total o.O!!!!!!!! moment, because I realized in a few months he'd have a ring for me, and he'd be asking "the question".  It was an interestingly wonderfully overwhelming feeling.

I'm hoping I spend the rest of my life getting to snuggle with him on the couch, and to have days filled with random kisses "just because", and to enjoy a cup of chai with him in front of the fireplace with a few Shepherds.

By the way, in the event that you guys don't realize how absolutely perfect Jon is for me, we were discussing our honeymoon and had this conversation:

"I'll have to find somebody to watch Strauss for me.  I can't board him."
He's not coming with us?
"Do you want him to come?"
Do YOU want him to come?
"You'd do that for me?"
I'd EXPECT him to come!  You love that dog, and I love you.  He won't hurt anything.

<3 <3 <3 <3 <3 <3 <3 <3 <3

And because Strauss will be coming along with us, Jon has happily agreed that we will drive to Colorado instead of fly :-)  Mouse will be eight by then!

hmmm, i am not a romantic person, and neither is the BF. i find the whole roses and poems thing very cheesy. it seems pretty impersonal to me, cause it's right out of a movie... (not trying to down those of you who love it! if it makes YOU happy, then that's all that counts!!) i told the BF right at the start that he shouldnt bother with flowers. if he WANTED to give them, i'd appretiate it, but if he never gave me flowers, i'd be ok.

anyhow. i think TO ME the most romantic thing he did was last year when i was very very very sick. i had an aweful caugh one night, to the point were just talking would throw me into caughing fits, so he left my house early so i could go to sleep. the next day i woke up so sick, i dont remember how i got on the couch (when to sleep in bed...) i didnt drink anything, cause i couldnt THINK that far. didnt take the dogs out. when BF called, i just mumbled some stuff. first he thought i was still sleeping and let me be. when he called me the second time, i was the same. he just came over (btw, i dont really remember the phonecalls. all of a sudden he was just there) he took one look at me and declared he's taking me to the ER. he asked if i had taken the dogs out, and i said something like "i dont think so....". so BEFORE taking me to the ER he took the dogs out for me!! this is a guy who is SO not good with dogs, but he knew that it was important to me!

then when we got to the hospital, they were out of parking spots and BF parked in a no-parking zone, blocking access for school busses behind the hospital (not emergency access, no worries). the parking attendant came running saying if he didnt move his car it would be towed... you have to understand my BF is litteraly IN LOVE with his car. i have never had to be jealous over a girl with him, but i DO get jealous of his car a LOT... he just said: "then tow it" and got me out of the car into the ER...

he really surprised me that day... TWICE! it left a big impression to me. and even though going to the ER isnt romantic to some, i thought it was THE most romantic gesture (well the 2 most romantic gestures) to me....