parentstuff-need a pep talk

Kids don't develop every skill at the exact same chronological age as every other kid.. I'm sure for every thing he's a little "behind" in he's WAY ahead of the other kids in something else. And scissors take a lot of practice, so it might not even be a fine motor thing so much as a SCISSORS thing. I still can't cut perfectly with scissors.

Eli's fine...he'll get it down pat soon, I'm sure.

 No one is great at EVERYTHING, Elias is not Superman   He's going to be fine and I think the only reason she has noticed it after "only" 2 days is because they do A LOT of it in this year of school.  And they do A LOT of it in this year of school.... because it's something a lot of kids his age struggle with!!

My niece used to LOVE cutting and sticking. Give him an old catalogue and a scrap book, some lefty scissors and some sticky stuff and let him get at it!  As often as he wants.  It's just kid stuff.  Your son is not abnormal. 

I feel like doo doo mainly because I think maybe we picked the wrong thing to focus on this summer. We thought school=social stuff and following orders and such and baseball was GREAT for that...and here we miss something that seems more important.

I need more whacks to the head ladies thank you for getting that started LOL...I need more...

I can't even remember if I freaked out like this, with Lily because I know at her conference (and the teacher asked us to come in which is worse you'd think than a sit down casually at lunch)...she said Lily was behind in numbers and letters and couldn't rhyme so her reading would be late....*waaaah!*

Gina I don't have kids or know anything about motor skills, but it's encouraging to see how involved you are in his education.  My husband would DIE to read a post like this, his students are all abused or neglected.  Maybe he just needs time?  Me and my sibs each had our own problems.  My mom was very aware of them, but didn't push or fret too much and in time, we all caught up.  I think she did work with us on things at home but she did it in a way that we didn't know we were different.  When I was in preschool, I never talked.  I was shy and scared of my teacher.  They wanted to hold me back for social reasons (and I started school the week I turned 4) but my mom enrolled me in kindergarten and after a while, it was fine.  I liked my teacher and made friends.  My brother and sister both had problems reading that lasted for more than one grade but now they are fine.

 Gina, just keep practicing with him.  Switch to something else when he looks like he might be getting frustrated.  There's glueing, drawing, folding, all kinds of things to work on if it truley is a fine motor thing and not like Chelsea says, a scissor thing.  Even those cut-outs with the holes punched around the edges that you weave the piece of yarn through. 

I think its nice that the teacher took the time to notice things about Eli, rather than just throwing him to the dogs as so many other kids get.   The teacher Kale had 2 years ago, I had to practically drag things out of her.  It was frustrating.  It was almost like she didn't even notice Kale was there most of the time.

Oh, I assume Eli has Lefty scissors to use at school right?  and at home?  No point making things harder than they need be.

huskymom

Oh, I assume Eli has Lefty scissors to use at school right?  and at home?  No point making things harder than they need be.

Yes I think so??...they say "left/right" and don't have a "hand" to them that I can see. I know some have a different shaped thumb hole but these just have two equally sized and shaped. omg...SEE? I don't even know what lefty scissors look like....

 Gina are you pregnant?  You're being crazy.  Why would you know what lefty scissors look like?  If they don't say right on them, and they say left/right, then they are fine.  You can get Lefty scissors that are only for lefties, but you don't have to.

I don't know what they LOOK like either... if they work in the left hand they are lefty scissors!  Just try cutting with those scissors with your left hand. 

Yeah if you're not sure, put them in your right hand.  If they feel OK to you, then he needs a new pair.  My bro is a lefty and always needed his own scissors. 

huskymom

Gina are you pregnant?  You're being crazy.  Why would you know what lefty scissors look like? 

LOL...no...I am tho...majorly hormonal right now...on top of this empty house business...*deep breath* okay...calming down. I will work with him tonight with the ones we have...they'll work.

If he's a stinky cabbage from being told what to do all day like yesterday I might wait and make dad do it when he gets home

Honey - DO NOT STRESS.  You do not need a PhD in scissors LOL!  My dd is a lefty and did just fine with whatever was on hand - in public school they use universal scissors (same size holes - no difference in scissoring action - they are dull and just plain suck after several years use).  She is now 12 and a straight A kid in middle school (crossing fingers) which is amazing considering how much I thought I ruined school for her pushing her to read/write (never made straight A's in elementary).  Just support him where you can and let the rest GO!  You have some excellent suggestions here so focus on that.  You will be fine and so will he - children need to learn a little frustration so that they grow and understand how to deal with it appropriately.  It is called brat-proofing!

You can Google "scissors for left-handed people" or something similar and see images of what they look like.

My lefty boy is almost 13 now.  His handwriting and other fine motor skills are fine, but he still gets frustrated with scissors at times!

Lots of boys still struggle with fine-motor stuff in kindergarten.  Especially at the very beginning!  I predict he'll make tremendous progress by the end of the school year.

First piece of advice  if you have kids Learn to Drink.... serioulsy    Life with kids is one of the most challenging things any of us will ever have to deal with!!    

If your child is not struggling with something you'll get a call saying they are so far ahead they are bored, or the they aren't making enough friends call or the they have too many friends call....

There is nothing wrong with a Kindergartner not handling scissors well  on the second day of school!!  This summer my onvioulsy advanced group (by this worry ) mananged  to cut Caity's hair it is past her bottom and hadn't been cut  since the last time she got her hands on scissors and cut her bangs at the root  or her brother "stlyed her hair!  The 4 year old handled her scissors with great ease cutting the main and tail off of every pretty pony in a 28 year old collection !!   Count your blessings !!

Kids are exhausting and honestly if they were not related to me I would have an all animal household!!!   With 5  count them 5  under the age of 9  3 in school and 2 at home there isn't much that would not drive me nuts. We are potty training this week and I have cleaned more pee spots then when I have a litter of puppies!   And that young one busted my  bust of Buddah this morning.....  you know what it is almost 2:00 and I don't have to drive anywhere this afternoon so I think I will take my own advice and mix up a pitcher of Margaritas !!

Keep the Faith my Friend.. Is he clean?  Potty trained? Has decent tablemanners for his age?  Does he get happy when he sees you and does he enjoy school??  Then he is LOVED...you are doing a great job ....relax.

Bonita of Bwana

You guys are greatness...see? this is why I posted this here...

I need someone or many someone's to kick me, or go upside my head...with reality. I was spazzing...I know...thank you for indulging my spazz attack. Like you had a choice hehe.

I am going to calm down and work with him. We both are...or actually all three of us...Lily is very helpful when it comes to her brother and I realized just now, that I don't always allow her to help. She's the one that taught him some simple addition...just memorization but still they played school a lot this summer and she did teach him things...and he's more patient with her at times...and he with her.

thanks guys