calliecritturs
Posted : 8/25/2008 9:38:31 PM
Cita is absolutely right --- now *I* used to handle it a bit differently (because I taught in a private school and lots of times people were strapped financially and keeping the kids in school was already 'dear';).
The deal is that often if Mom 'n Dad are already paying dearly and they have to shell out for tutoring (especially with a teen) it may be because *they* perceive the kid hasn't applied themselves, so it can get kinda ugly and the student feels 'beat up' before you start.
So *my* suggestion used to be that the student earn part of the money to pay the tutor. I usually had that conversation with Mom 'n Dad in private but I also would 'barter' with the student -- things like getting my car washed, laundry done, etc. (depending on the age and sex of the student and how close I was to them) But suddenly it put a whole new spin on how they "valued" their time and mine.
But there are lots of things you can barter depending on their age -- lawns mowed, things watered, floors vacuumed, dogs washed, dogs walked, etc.
But if you can, as Cita says, make your services valuable, you'll find out they're much more apt to work.
The other thing - don't just stick with text books - particularly with that age kid -- find out from the get-go what THEY like to read, and encourage at least part of the time you spend with them, to be reading things that excite them.
I remember back when I was teaching, one summer I tutored a 15 year old boy who was well on his way to becoming a juvenile delinquent. He resented the fact that he had to be tutored, had been pretty well consigned to the "dumb class" (special ed) at school and his mother was a single parent with NO money and she was trying to keep him from failing 8th grade *again*.
I didn't know this kid at all but I suggested she have him 'earn' some of the money to pay me. She thot that was great. But he was sullen when he sat down with me. HE thot it was futile.
I did some beginning phonics with him (I've always liked A Beka if you're using a private school curriculum) and used a very basic McGuffy reader 'primer' with him literally to teach him phonics sounds. He'd never heard of phonics but I promised him right off since he told me "comics" were his favorite reading material that we'd do some every time I came.
But by the time I did the alphabet chart with him in phonics, I had him "sound out" the word "bed".
He turned to me and said "wow ... I kNEW that word was 'bed' but I never knew there was a WHY ... those letters all have SOUNDS! No one ever told me that before!"
By the end of the summer I had him reading Tolkein (we blew past comics pretty fast *grin*) -- and not just the Hobbit -- but he was starting on the Lord of the Rings by the end of the summer ... and GETTING it.
I felt like I'd really done something -- but if you can get them over the "I hate to read" thing you've got it made.