OK, here goes. Grrr!
I have this friend called Carl. He is not the one I am mad with! He's really nice and he has organised this party for tomorrow night. The theme is Vikings, he has hired a pub specially and gone to a lot of effort with a guest list and everything. He had 125 people confirmed and then in the last week loads of people dropped out including the DJ and the doorman. The landlord said if he didn't get more guests then we could no longer have both floors that he originally booked, because there were too few people, he'd have to employ x2 barstaff and wouldn't make a profit. So Carl was stressing out and I offered to invite a few friends - as long as he got their names on the guest list and they got SOME sort of viking attire (eg helmet/horns) it would be fine. He was dead grateful and told me to go ahead. (Party shops are all sold out of viking stuff due to this party, but that's another story!)
So I invite this "friend" (amongst others). Let us call her Miss X. She confirms she will come and bring a friend with her - either Tracy or Sue, she will confirm which as soon as she knows. Tracy couldn't make it and she was hoping Sue would come as Sue "might need cheering up". And then Sue couldn't come either so X is coming on her own. She won't know anyone else there bar me, but at this point, that wasn't going to be a problem.
So we were chatting on line tonight and she mentions how mad she is at Sue for not replying to any of her messages. I am concerned and ask what is the matter with Sue. Turns out Sue's JUST split up with her boyfriend, who she's been with for years and was engaged to - this was why she "might need cheering up". So X is badmouthing poor Sue saying she had to find out thru Sue's sister why Sue hadn't replied (although I would have thought anyone with a brain could have figured it out!) So I say - hey, give her a break. She's grieving, give her time, just let her know you are there if she needs you but give her space if thats what she needs.
So then X gets pi$$y at ME!! She's not sympathetic to Sue at all, just mad because she feels ignored. Well, boo flippin hoo! This is not the first time this has happened.... she was like this with another friend when their mum died! Really annoyed that she kept inviting this person out and getting turned down... and I said the same thing to her then. It's not personal, she is turning everyone down at the moment, it's just the way she is handling her grief.
Well this time I am REALLY mad, because I'm getting so fed up of her attitude - she always complains folks don't come out with her, but she can't see that this might be because she is SO uptight all the time and not in the least bit compassionate to others when they are in trouble - but always wants a shoulder to cry on if SHE'S having a bad day at work!
And the rub is - I have already invited her to this party and she is going to come and want to stick near me the whole night - becasue she won't know anyone else! And I am so mad at her and don't want her around at the moment, but how do I uninvite her? I can't, I'm not that mean! And I can't ditch her when we are there either because that is also too mean!
Sorry I just needed to rant. I am done now. 