Bonita of Bwana
Posted : 8/22/2008 8:38:17 AM
Here is another tale that may make you wonder..
My Mother was ALWAYS a believer. Little People and I mean Leprechauns , Ghosties ...you name it. We were not allowed a Ouji Board.
She was devoted to her 6 kids but my daughters were beyond special to her. My youngest was and is our Wild Child. The Teflon Kid in trouble a ton but nothing ever seemed to stick. Mom died 2 weeks after the Wild Child's 18th birthday. It was so hard on her she got into mess after mess and I could have strangled her. Just when I was about ready to wash my hands of her she began collecting Elmos. Beyond wierd really since my kids were not Seseme Street Kids. But Elmo dolls, figures, socks, scarfs t shirts you name it... Somehow seeing this rowdy brat dressed in Elmo stuff gave me hope. So when This daughter asked to move back home after a year out on her own I was thrilled. Within an hour of her coming in the door I "knew" she was pregnant. It took her another two months to realize it herself. We decorated her room with Elmos , the little Red dude was every where, I found material for the baby blankets, sheets ..you name it, I drew him on the wall she painted him in.
Everything seemed to be going as well as could be hoped for, and then the National Specialty came up. It was 4 weeks before the baby was due so everyone pressured me into going all to the way to Colorado leaving my Wild Child at home to care for the 2 dogs that we did not take. You can sooo imagine my paninc when on the last night of the Specialty at the Awards dinner I get a phone call telling me she was being sent to the hospital because she had pre eclampsia and there was a big danger for her and the baby. The Specialty was on a mountain in Colorado and they had shut the roads down after dark due to construction. I called a good dog friend and asked her to go to the hospital in my place and be ther with my girl. Later I asked her to make sure Crystal had flowers , nothing specific just flowers.
I arrived at the hospital less than 2 days later ( yes the darling Hubs had driven all night and all day to get me there) We had stopped briefly at a Target and Knowing the baby was a premie and the going home outfit I had already bought him would not fit him for another 2 months I insisted he take a quick nap while I shopped for a new one. They only had one Preemie outfit in the whole store for a Boy , it was covered in Elmos.
At the hopstial we rushed up to the NICU and on her door was a balloon with , guess who?? Elmo. In the room was a beautiful floral arrangement with an Elmo stuck in it. ( My friend had no idea about the Elmo thingy going on)
The Baby had a rough few days but at 12 days old he was at his first Dog Show, He is my heart and lives with us still....
The Wild Child went on to make more bad choices. And ended up as a Drug Addict with legal problems. Her heart is huge and sincere but she slipped down a horribly slippery slope. Later we received my mother's death certificate in the mail, there had been a long delay in getting it, I hated to open it, and when I did I almost fainted . Mom had told me my entire life she was born on Lady's Island South Carolina. She was very proud of that and described it many times....
The Death Certificate said My mother was born in ELMO Missouri........
Okay give you any chills?? Move it up to this year. The Teflon Kid had several years of sobriety on and off, produced a half sister for the grandson, ( yes we are raising her too) and was doing pretty great ..then late last year relapsed. She got busted trying to buy the drugs close to home. In our house we have a strict policy... we do not bail you out or get you an attny. PERIOD. We went to the jail and talked with her and she cried and apologized. It was an old story but this time she was looking at doing time. She only had a year left on her probation from the first problem... They transfered her from the local to the county facility She was there for almost a week. She was signed out on a signature bond!! ??? This made NO sense, she should have been in jail till they transfered her back to the original city jail for breaking probabtion. She came home and had an important talk with her kids. Then moved to a near by state to get away from all the poor choices that were haunting her here. She calls the kids and comes home every 10 days. The days rolled around and her court date came up. IT was almost definet she would have her probation revoked and would not be coming home. Her attny , a really good one took her case at a very, very low fee. And even he told her to dress for jail. She was at work the day before her trial .... She worked for a temp agency that provides labor for road crews etc. and on this day instead of working the survey crew she was picking up trash. As she worked she felt life was so messed up that staying may be a mistake, maybe, just maybe she should do what associated before her had done and run? She had pretty much made up her mind to do this and decided to finish out the day so she would have a full day's paycheck... she went back to the point she had stopped at the lunch break and there laying face up was a card. It had not been there 20 minutes before She bent to grab it and almost fell down It was an Irish Blessing ! On the other side there was a memorial for a departed person who was dearly loved.... She stood holding it and knew it was once more her Irish Grandmother telling her to trust , if she flipped she only had the death of every thing important to her, if she took things at face value then the Blessing would be there. Instead of running away she showed up at court, holding this little card in her hand. She answered every question put to her honestly and was ready to take what would be coming.... She is still free, still working hard and was here for her son's 9th birthday. She knows one day she will have to pay the piper but is calmer an more able to accept it. Hey I soooooooooooo believ it isn't funny.
Bonita of Bwana