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Will things ever get better for us

Posted : 8/1/2008 2:05:00 AM

Will things ever get better for us? Seems like every time we start doing good something brings us back down.

BF lost his job about 2 months ago they called him up told him they didn't need him anymore. When he asked what was the reason they told him they could let him go for any reason in his 30 days probation period. He has been putting his application everywhere and it doesn't help that Airborne/DHL is about to close their door leaving 10,000 jobless around in the next months so what jobs around here are even slimmer pickings.

Money is getting tight since I'm the one that is bringing in money bills are due soon and I'm just lucky that we are paid up on rent till September or we would be screwed. Thankfully BF has a drug test and physical come Monday if he gets the job he will be cement driving which is what we need. He is also has some temp places he is going next week to put his application in as well if that falls through. As for me, I'm going to going with him to the temp places to begin looking for another job since I might be without one as well within the next few days. Last week at my work we had a meeting to tell us that Sugar Creek isn't going any where that are jobs are secure. LOL. Come Tuesday we have another meeting saying things have changed we aren't getting the big orders they were excepting so they have to lay 40 people off. The funny part they except to let these people get layed off and think these people will come back in two months. Tonight they laid off 3 more people and there is talk of them about to lay off more the way they are laying off is the time you where hired. Meaning there is only 3 or 4 people under me and then I'm without a job this isn't what we need. I need this job so bad for us to get ends meet and we aren't living off of anyone, we just got this place.

Right now every time my cell rings I'm so scared to see who is calling because I'm afraid it's work saying we are sorry, but we got to let you go. Tonight when BF picked me up from work I just let go and cried my heart out after trying to hold it together for the last half hour of work. We are both stressed enough from him not finding work and then to add this we are stressed to the max. I can't wait until June gets here hopefully we will have enough money saved up we can move from this area to better area with more jobs then what will jobs we have available now.

So we need all the job vibes that we can get that BF gets a job and I'm able to keep my job or find another job.

Bonita of Bwana

Posted : 8/1/2008 4:05:49 AM

They will kiddo, they will. I have a candle lit and prayers sent up to help you in anyway the Universe can. I have been where you are. And somedays am not all that far from being there again. but life does get better. Try to find 5 things that are working in your life right now... sounds cliche I know but it really does help in the turn around department. Just from your post I can think of several.. BF is out actively looking for work so you aren't having to step over his lazy butt to go to the job you have. You do not mention kids so you can work any shift you can get. Life gets so much harder when you are balancing children in the mix. You have your pride and are not having to sponge off or family or welfare.

You BF is clean and sober . You have a few people lower on the hiring rung than you so you may make it through one or two more layoffs or firings.

BF actually listened to you when you needed to vent rather than picking a fight or going out to mess up life even worse. There are a lot of pluses in your life right now, it may not seem like it but there are. One day in the future when you are back on your feet we can play the Who had it worse game... I swear I can whip 98% of the folks out there yet I still think I have an awesome life filled with adventures and amazing people.

Just remind yourself of the following two pieces of advice from my mom and MIL

They can kill you but they won't eat you, and this too shall pass........................

Hang in there and write often some days it just seems as if the challenge to the fates , universe whatever is almost comical. You think and say things can't get any worse....and bingo bango there you go....

Bonita of Bwana

Been there , done that and own the T shirt.

willowchow

Posted : 8/1/2008 4:06:31 AM

We are wishing you good job vibes from Lori and Willow. We are going thru a rough financial patch right now too with my DH being temporarily disabled and Willow's been sick needing frequent vet visits. I'm just waiting for my car to die now, it's bound to happen. It will get better!

janetmichel3009

Posted : 8/1/2008 4:10:17 AM

good job vibes for you! things will get better!

BEVOLASVEGAS

Posted : 8/1/2008 8:25:59 AM

Sending job finding, & job keeping vibes Texas.

huskymom

Posted : 8/1/2008 8:58:12 AM

Sending good vibes from up here too. I hope things work out for you really soon.

gradyupmybutt

Posted : 8/1/2008 9:30:16 AM

So many good vibes coming from all of us here.

westiegirl3

Posted : 8/1/2008 9:33:33 AM

I am hoping that things turn around for you. The sun will shine again for you!

swamper

Posted : 8/1/2008 9:58:27 AM

I'm sending some job-finding vibes your way.

VanMorrison

Posted : 8/1/2008 10:04:19 AM

Sending job and relocation vibes your way. Hang in there... sounds like you and BF are strong enough to get through this together.

((((( Hugs )))))

marlania

Posted : 8/1/2008 4:59:59 PM

Brett and I had it so rough when we were first married. We were living away from family and friends, and we worked constantly but still didn't have enough money. And I was in grad school, so it was just too much going on at once with too little money. Eventually, things got better once we moved back to La., but I'd say we had about 3 years of non-stop sucky-ness. So hang in there. I know you've probably hear stuff like that 100 times by now, but there is a light at the end of the tunnel.

bluelighting

Posted : 8/23/2008 3:03:35 AM

Thank you guys for all the kind words it has helped me out knowing that things could even worst for us and I always try to look at the brighter side of things yet there is times it's hard to find the brighter side when your face with just so much stuff threw at us.

I didn't mention that my mom and I where not getting along around mom's birthday in July since I found out she was trying to get my dad to do her dirty work by trying to break us up since BF had no job. It's not the first time she did something like this since she was wanting us to break up and leave him homeless on Valentine's day. My mom still wont talk to him she acts like he isn't their even there though we been together for 9 months and we live together. Maybe one of these days she will get off her high horse and start treating him like an actual person.

Actually two days after I posted this they started to bring few people back and now we are getting more people back each day we are almost back to the same amount of people we had before they started lay offs. So once again my job is safe for now and hopefully we will be getting more people back so we don't have to work so many days or late nights. As for BF he went to place where one of my pals at work told him to go see about a job and well he start work come this Sunday. So I just go to hang in their get bills paid and hopefully we have enough to swing for rent it will be so nice once he starts work having another income. I'm just hoping nothing goes wrong in the 30 days for him since he is getting a job throw a temp place until he can hired through the company.

We are both are thrilled with him getting a job after 2 months of no luck and BF is happy since my birthday is next week so he can finally get me something for it when his first check comes, though I told him I got the best thing he could give me which is him.

So yeah we getting threw thing just a little tight right now can't wait until next month when we can both breath a little easier

ron2

Posted : 8/23/2008 9:19:19 AM

Good luck to BF on the driving job. He'll get some overtime and odd hours. Most concrete pours start before the cows come home.

I don't have any guarantees in my trade. For one thing, Texas is not a union state. Secondly, we are on a gargantuan job with an impossible deadline and bills for wire approaching a half a million dollars, to date. The boss is, in effect, play high stakes poker. This one job could make or break us and the boss won't be shy about terminating employment. So, I hear you on the stress bit.

But you guys are young and healthy and are not scared off by real work, so you are going to pull through. Like "Finding Nemo," "just keep swimming, swimming, swimming..."

2shelties

Posted : 8/23/2008 11:12:50 AM

I'm sorry you guys are having a rough time...it doesn't help that your family isn't being supportive. Things have been tough for us here too, my DH was fired a few months back, and he's been through a couple jobs since, plus we've had a bunch of other crap come up, like medical bills and car repairs. The good thing is my job is very secure, the bad thing is I can barely cover the bills on my income alone. I'll keep my fingers crossed for you guys, I know it sucks.