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Posted : 5/28/2008 8:32:06 PM

Hey all,

well a lot of you know from past posts of mine about my issues with my brother. He is still living here much to my dismay. I don't know what to do anymore. We got into an argument tonight and as usual he just says mean stuff...telling me I need to be in a straight jacket, that I'm ugly, I need to be slapped across the face, f*** me, someone needs to shut me the f*** up, I don't have any friends, nobody likes me, and making fun of me for taking "happy pills" (his words, not mine...I take anti-anxiety/depression meds...ironically which I'm taking because of the way he has treated me)

And he kicked Riley to get him out his way as he was trying to go outside...I told him not to touch my dog (well, more like screamed it). It does no good though. If I say more he'll just get more po'ed and if he decides to hit me I'll be screwed. A few years ago when in argument with my family, he picked Cadie up and was about to throw her when my mom stopped him. Yeah. And I need to be in a straight jacket????

I might go talk to my school counselor tomorrow. I have a psychologist I've been going to for many months (mostly because of all this stuff) but I want to let my counselor know as well. Maybe she can talk to my mom (or dad, but he's traveling for work).

My mom was sitting on the couch witnessing this happen tonight, but it's nothing out of the ordinary and my brother has never ONCE gotten punished all these years. Then my mom told me that I provoked him and if it weren't for me, the whole argument would not have ocurred. She just doesn't get it. At all. It's not abuse to her.

*sigh* It's just neverending.....

erica1989

Posted : 5/28/2008 8:37:08 PM

Yikes. I would talk with your councelor, definetly.

Maybe print out some stuff for your mom - animal abuse leads to much greater abuse problems. I have a ton of links and research done on this topic - I just did a paper on it and a speech. Most of your famous serial killer started with basic animal abuse (not saying your brother is headed in this direction, but maybe it's enough to get your mom to get her head out of the sand).

I'm sure more people will be alone with much better advice....

*hugs*

Liesje

Posted : 5/28/2008 8:41:40 PM

Yes, talk to the counselor! Hopefully they will intervene on your behalf. You should not have to defend yourself and your dog from your own brother! It sounds like your mom is in denial and/or is scared of your brother. I don't know...if my bro treated me like that consistently, I would REALLY wonder if there isn't something major going on with him. It sounds like HE is the one that needs a major intervention. Your mom is just enabling him, whatever his problem is, by not stepping in. I don't like to talk down on people I don't know, but since this is not the first time you've posted about this, I think your mother should be ashamed. There's only so much she can be responsible for as far as your brother, but shame on her for standing by while you are treated like a doormat and a punching bag! What a hard position for you to be in, your brother treating you like scum and your mom turning her back on you like that....

janet_rose

Posted : 5/28/2008 9:31:31 PM

Do you know someone who is into hi-tech? There are very small cameras (hide-able) with mics that can beam video to a nearby computer.

Then you can edit the video, put the evidence on CD, and show it to whoever you need to.

It might take a while for something to happen in front of the camera, but it is worth a try!!

tiffy

Posted : 5/28/2008 10:06:32 PM

I'm so sorry your're having to deal with this! How old are you? Or how old is your brother?

lorib

Posted : 5/29/2008 1:27:59 AM

Skip the counselor--talk to the POLICE.

mrv

Posted : 5/29/2008 5:30:44 AM

Child protective services is another option. Call and talk to them.

TheDogHouseBCMPD

Posted : 5/29/2008 6:34:31 AM

{{{{{{{hugs}}}}}}} I was hoping that since it had been awhile since you last mentioned this that he was gone. Wishful thinking on my part I guess. Please, at the very least, go to your counselor. I hope they are able to get through to your mom and make her see how truly awful this is. I'm so sorry you have to deal with this. I don't care what your Mom or brother says, NONE OF THIS IS YOUR FAULT.

tashakota

Posted : 5/29/2008 10:22:07 AM

Talk to your counselor. They will call child protective services and the police. It happened in my family. But nothing along the lines of violence was occuring. It was not good but it got the ball rolling and hopefully my brother has learned his lesson. You and your dog should not be treated this way by ANYONE. I wish you luck, it's a long hard road.

aerial1313

Posted : 5/29/2008 10:29:31 AM

Oh, you poor thing. I don't have any advice, really, but I think talking to the counselor is a good idea. Sending good vibes your way.....