My turn to vent...

Being involved in a wedding in any way is stressful, so of course you're welcome to vent!

My standard response to folks like the bridesmaid who complained is, "If you don't like the way I do it, then do it yourself."  Don't sweat it, just send out the invitations you've already made.  I personally think hand-written invitations are quaint and intimate, perfect for a bridal shower.  If you had bad handwriting that would be one thing, but I don't think that is the case here.  For my best friend's bridal shower, I bought the invitations at Big Lots, and the bride loved them.  I typed out the info on colored paper, cut and glued it to the insides, but only because we were sending out a lot and I didn't feel like writing them all out.  But if you took the time to hand write the invitations, I would think the bride would appreciate all the time and effort you put into it.  If she complains about it, then you might want to sit down and talk to her, but keep in mind she is under a lot of stress right now.  But I wouldn't worry about another bridesmaid complaining.

Thanks...I told her they were already nicely handwritten and told her nicely I'm not objected to any suggestions she may have. She called back, and did she give me any suggestions, nope! Was just really snotty over the phone..I'm going to try really hard not to let it get to me. 

aerial1313

 "If you don't like the way I do it, then do it yourself." 

Love it!  Over the years this has come to be my response to anyone who complains about anything. It's amazing how quickly  that phrase will shut people up.

Joyce

 Yes, I think that is going to be my new saying from here on out as well :)

jennyx0023

I got a call today from one of the bridesmaids stating that she thinks they should be typed

A typed shower invitation? Man, some people have way too much time on their hands

cakana

A typed shower invitation? Man, some people have way too much time on their hands

I'm glad others feel that way too, my mom's response "What?! She's Nuts!! Tell her to do them then!" LOLOL.. 

jennyx0023

Can I vent, for one second please?

I'm the matron of honor in my "best friend's" wedding, although lately I question how close we truly are anymore. She was maid of honor in mine and I come to find out she did just about nothing for my wedding, my cousins and my other friend did a bunch of the work and my maid of honor was all "well im too busy" and such. I mean honestly, I almost didn't have a bachlorette party cause of the chaos she brought into it.

So, for my shower my mom bought the hall, food, decorated, sent the invites out, etc., etc. (My mom and godmother pretty much did it all) So for her's I volunteered to do the invitations since I am unemployed for the most part and have more time on my hands. I got cheap invitations but they still look nice. And I handwrote all of them. I have nice handwriting. I got a call today from one of the bridesmaids stating that she thinks they should be typed and they should be "Classy and Very Nice" to represent the bride's taste. Granted I called her back and told her that they were already wrote out and they look nice and not to worry about it.

They are being mailed out tomorrow. I'm just annoyed with it and I left alot of this story out, but the point is, its a freaking bridal shower invitation. Not to mention the girls have known for weeks about the invitations and if they had this thought then it shouldve been brought up weeks ago, not now as I have everything pretty much finished and ready to go. That girls attitude over the phone just got to me too...

I like how I did my wedding.  I did all the organising, my family and friends offered help or helped when asked, but everything was either done by me and/or got my stamp of approval!  So EVERYTHING was EXACTLY as *I* wanted it (well and the groom of course   I didn't bother with matron/maid of honour or hen night or any of that.  It wasn't important so I scrubbed it out so I could concentrate on the more important things.  Weddings are stressful enough!!

well i would have told the bridesmaid that called - that if she picked you and chose you to be her maid of honor, that im sure the bride trusts your decisions to do the invitations the way they were done

I'm sure that's just the beginning of the stress.

I wonder. As matron of honor, do you get to choose your own dress or does yours have to match what the bride's maids wear? Obviously, you can't outdress the bride. That much, I do know.

Our wedding was a renaissance wedding. DW had a dress like the one Drew Barrymore wore in "Ever After" except that hers was deep blue. I had purple tights, and a king's shirt and jacket. Simple and certainly nothing to upstage the bride. DW's daughter was maid of honor and her adopted sister was bride's maid. My friend Tom, was my best man, dressed as a jewish tax collector, of which he is actually neither. My friend, Lee, dressed as a monk with a dragon tatoo (temporary) on his head. And we had a visit from King Henry VIII and Anne Bolin. So, my notions of regular wedding dress are bit off, by a few centuries.

ron2

So, my notions of regular wedding dress are bit off, by a few centuries.

LoL. Just a bit.

I was in a wedding last year where my friend and fellow bridesmaid wound up throwing the bride a bachelorette party because her maid of honor/sister was a total space cadet and didn't plan on having one.

Like it was said before, if they don't like it they can do it themselves

ron2

I wonder. As matron of honor, do you get to choose your own dress or does yours have to match what the bride's maids wear? Obviously, you can't outdress the bride. That much, I do know.

Our wedding was a renaissance wedding. DW had a dress like the one Drew Barrymore wore in "Ever After" except that hers was deep blue. I had purple tights, and a king's shirt and jacket. Simple and certainly nothing to upstage the bride. DW's daughter was maid of honor and her adopted sister was bride's maid. My friend Tom, was my best man, dressed as a jewish tax collector, of which he is actually neither. My friend, Lee, dressed as a monk with a dragon tatoo (temporary) on his head. And we had a visit from King Henry VIII and Anne Bolin. So, my notions of regular wedding dress are bit off, by a few centuries.

Ron, the matron of honors dress is the same as all of the other bridesmaids, unless the bride wants mismatched dresses so each girl looks different from the other. In this case we all match, I'm not very fond of the dress but I don't have to like it so its ok.

Your wedding sounded really cool, definately different and your wife's dress sounded gorgeous!
 

Look into ANY of the big Designer books of weddings and events.  Handwritten is the Number ONE most prefered and best in style and taste. If there are way to many and you can not hire a company to do the handwritten invites than going to a classic printed version is cool. 

There are High school and college kids who are making decent money doing the handwritten work for event planners. One of my Puppy family's is an Event Planner in New York City.

Bonita of Bwana

That girl was just plain rude, so you can totally ignore her.

Being a Maid/Matron of honor is like herding cats or nailing Jell-O to a tree. It's the worst job in a wedding party, because you have a lot of responsibility, some bridesmaids will make you want to punch them in the face, and you will be emptying your wallet.

I have actually been a bridesmaid or matron of honor at least once a year for the past 6 years -- through next May, so we joke that I am a professional. I think I could throw a shower in my sleep at this point. I totally hear you on wanting to scream when dealing with Maids. I send a lot of e-mails out when I am the M-loh (Married Lady of Honor), just to keep everyone looped in and in-line.

I send a welcome to the Maids e-mail introducing myself and how I know the bride. I also will ask people what they want to help with and what budgets are (privately and politely). Maybe that would be helpful for this crew? Get them to fall in. I can send you a sample e-mail via PM if you want.

PS - Hand written invitations are gorgeous! They show a personal touch not often seen anymore and that you took the time to create something beautiful for a friend. I think that's lovely and classy.

Bonita - You can actually make some money handwriting invites for people? Wow, that'd be great to do on the side..haha. I do have really nice handwriting.

Pit_Pointer - My wallets as dry as a bone right now since I can't seem to find a full time job. :) The girls know I don't have much to spend, but the problem is I don't think they are registering since the few do live at home with their parents and don't have to pay to for food, mortgage, etc.

It's ok, she quieted down about them being handwritten once I said they were already done..I just can't wait until October 4th when its done and over with :)