another dog!?!

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    another dog!?!

    My BF told me today that his Ex is getting rid of her dog & cat, she's moving an for some 'reason' she can't take them with her.  Of course she knows that she's moving for MONTHs, but waits til now to try to find her  animals a new home & only has a week before she moves.  So my BF wants to take them - we already have 3 dogs and 4 cats ( not to mention all my chickens!!) - I already feel like we're stretched to the limit!  I mean i'm over looking at doggie boots & crap thinking wow multiply that by 3, thats alot of moo-lah for happy dog feet!!  Now we might have another!  So just wanted to rant about how i hate it when people have animals & supposedly 'want' them, but do the least amount possible when the time comes for a new home or new living situation.  I dunno it just bugs me.  My last 2 cats came from my ex-roomy who went all cat-adoption-crazy on me after she moved in.  Of course she couldn't handle living on her own & had to move back in with dad, and couldn't take all the cats. 

    Dont get me wrong I love animals, I really love mine, I just can't keep adding more animals to 'love' to this house!! argh.  we'll see how it goes though, probably search for a new home for both of them, but it least they have a good home until then & they dont have a week to make it happen.  Really the only reason my Bf wants to take them is becuase he liked both of them, especially the cat.  we live on an acre in a rural area so I should be really thinking about how lucky I am to live somewhere that I can take in and foster an animal.

     

    so sorry it's a novel, just wanted to rant!! 

     

    p.s. it's a small dog, def could not get another large dog in my house!! 

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    I am the queen of straight talk so brace yourself for frankness LOL...

    I personally, would not want any links to a current love's, past love in my home...who's to say she doesn't end up changing her mind down the road?...or wanting to 'visit her baby' and end up hanging around your relationship?

    I know nothing of how you you and he...and he and she were together...or if he helped pick this dog out...and that of course would have some bearing...but I am trying to picture even the ex I occasionally chat to email wise...asking me to take their pet....that takes a certain amount of closeness, comfort, and trust...and I just don't have that with my exes.

    I guess some do tho...

    ETA: Good luck figuring something out that pleases BOTH of you..that is what is important.

     

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     well thankfully she's moving across an ocean!! lol  but he's basically been not talking to her at all, but then she randomly calls and 'needs' something. she's one of those 'super dependent can't function on her own' type of women. I just emailed him telling that he needs to tell her if we take them thats it, she is totally relinquishing all rights to them. 

     he's not doing this for her, he's doing for the animals. he actually said that he liked them than he liked her....................lol.
     

     

    have to add this: my ex wanted me to watch his dog ( for who knows how long!! you know how that ends up) and I told him no. his dog never had shots, it wasn't licensed and it wasn't fixed. I told  him he needed to board it & it's not my responsibility - i have enough crap to deal with lol

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    akyramoto82
    she's one of those 'super dependent can't function on her own' type of women.

     

    Oh wow...that's always fun to deal with...NOT. LOL. My sympathies lol. You know I am a jealous person so I'd be asking how she knew where to reach him, lol.

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     i just told him what needed to happen - i.e. she has no reason to contact him at all........

    he said he'd already thought of that. Also she does not know where we live & never will.

     

    thanks for the suggestions though!! that didn't really come to mind - I guess I have one of those demeanors where EX's know to stay away. lol