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    • Gold Top Dog

    ???? for the college kids or recent grads ......

    My daughter will be starting college this fall.  I know we’re going to get a list of the usual things we’ll need to provide for her dorm room.  However, I was wondering if any of you had any “insider tips”, “must have” or “things you couldn’t live without” to make dorm living a little easier? There will be two people in a very small room and there are two beds, two dressers, two desks and one small refrigerator/microwave combination contraption per room.  I went to school in state and never had the pleasure of dorm living and my daughter is an only – so she’s never had to share a space.  I’m looking for any tips anyone has that would make this experience more pleasant for her and her roommate. I also hate to shop so I would like to get most of the stuff on-line, which is why I’m asking now. As always, thanks for your help. Deb W.

    Edited to add that I don't know why my spacing and new paragraphs are not working !

    • Gold Top Dog

    Much depends on whether there’s one bathroom on the floor or if each room has it’s own bathroom (or shares a bathroom with another room). I’ve been a dorm student in two different types of situations.

    If you share a bathroom it’s easier. If you have to go down the hall for a shower and bathroom (and fall across members of the opposite sex to do so) it requires different equipment.

    I used to use a plain old small bucket to hold shampoo, hair stuff, soap, and what I needed for the shower. Plop a towel over it and it keeps even personal stuff ‘private’.

    In the room, some places allow microwaves some don’t (because of wiring – which is especially critical now because more stuff is electric than ever before). But the one item, even today in my office, I can’t live without is a small, cheap hotpot! It boils water for coffee, it make ramen noodle soup (I lived on it in college - that and rice cakes & peanut butter - no refrigeration needed), it makes everything from soup to Beefaroni.

    The other thing I always needed was a big ‘sit up’ pillow for the bed – you use it in bed, you use it when sitting on the floor.

    The best graduation gift I got was one GOOD piece of luggage. Not a cheap wheeled suitcase - get her a good one. My favorite now is one that will expand and become 2" deeper than normal. You don’t want to have to *store* a huge suitcase tho. (Schlepping stuff back and forth at beginning/end of the year is done in a variety of containers – think about coming home for the weekend or Christmas or even storing stuff under the bed when not in use.) The new tiny wheels that turn all ways/corners. I only WISH I’d had that when I was in school.

    Then a collapseable laundry hamper or just a plain old duffel bag. A big square basket just won’t cut it. You want it to either fold to nothing or be able to cram it away somewhere

    • Gold Top Dog

    Hm....besides the stuff our room came with, I brought along...

    laundry basket

    laundry supplies

    Twin x-long bedding (depends on the beds)

    a rubbermaid 3-drawer organizer

    house plants

    a small fan (I can't sleep without the noise)

    humidifier

    piece of crap loveseat

    plenty of extension cords and power strips

     

     

    Our rooms were TINY and setup as suites so there was on bathroom for 4.  We hung a shower curtain in front of the toilet, so theoretically someone could use the shower and toilet at the same time.  Our bathroom doors did not have locks.

    These days I would HIGHLY recommend a lock cable for a laptop.

     

    My biggest advice is to go with the flow and don't freak out over any of it too much (you or her).  Everyone is in the same boat.  I moved in a week early sophomore year b/c I worked on-campus and was sick of having to shack up in my parent's dank basement and when I moved in there were all these freshman girls bawling and crying in their rooms at night.  Maybe it's just me, but some of the girls and their parents got so worked up over living on campus it really put everyone else on edge.  Nothing is final - she could always change rooms or roommates if it doesn't work out.  Don't worry about it too much and if there's anything you miss, she can always get it later on.  Our school's bookstore sells supplies like toiletries, laundry stuff, etc. and they even sell "dorm kits" at the beginning of the year.
     

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    Liesje
    . . . .and when I moved in there were all these freshman girls bawling and crying in their rooms at night.  Maybe it's just me, but some of the girls and their parents got so worked up over living on campus it really put everyone else on edge.

    I know !  My daughter already warned me that if I shed ONE tear - she's going to dis-own me for the rest of my life!

    Deb W.

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     How exciting! I don't think I even looked back when my parents drove off I was so excited to be at college! My younger sister is headed to college in the fall and here's what I can think of:

    1. Cider blocks (buy them in the town where school is); At least 4, 8 if she wants. Get that bed up nice and high and you will have a lot more storage space underneath

    2. Rolling, hollow ottoman cubes (not sure what these are really called): you can store clothes and other stuff in them, and people can sit on them as seating. When they aren't in use, roll them under your bed.

    3. Shower caddy and flip flops!

    4. Bathrobe

    5. Computer (laptop is best so she can work from anywhere on campus), and a laptop lock like Liesje suggested is a must.

    6. phone

    7. fan (if there isn't AC)

    8. microwave

    9. hangers

    10. good bedding that will make school feel like home. If you can get your daughter set up in a nice, comfy bed, with bedding that she loves, it makes the transition so much easier. Def. get an egg crate to go on top of the mattress, and a piece of plywood under the mattress will add firmness. Every bed I had in college had those two things and it made all the difference in the world.

    11. A pretty lamp: Target has some that are pretty and cheap, and it ads a homey touch to what might be a pretty sterile room.

    12. Wall decorations! Posters, tapestries, etc. really help make the room your own.

    13. Those command wall hooks that you put up and have a tab to remove them.

    14. A tool kit. A real, deal, 14x20 (or whatever) tool kit. My dad gave it to me before I started school, and I still have the thing more than a decade later. Best "off to college" gift I ever got.

    15. Instead of a laundry basket I had two laundry bags (made out of mesh). They fit anywhere and were easy to tote around. 

    Hope that helps!


     

    • Gold Top Dog

    Cinder blocks - what a great idea!!!  I never would have thought of that!

    Thanks,

    Deb W.

    • Gold Top Dog

    Do you know if their furniture is modular?  Our dorms have modular stackable furniture which is REALLY helpful.  Most kids put both beds WAY up high.  We called it "caving".  Each kid had a desk and hutch on one end, dresser and book shelf on the other, and bed on top of that.  Caves were usually on either sides of the room with a couch/loveseat in the middle, or in an L-pattern with the couch/loveseat on the remaining wall.  Another popular style was "lofting" which is the same as caving except the beds are up in a row along the long wall with only support at each end.  Lofting required dads to come in with 2x4s and build the support beams.  It is now banned b/c an engineer from the furniture company told Housing that the beds are not designed to support weight that way.  I hate sleeping up high and my roomie hated having to sit under a bed, so we just had a bunk bed and then did something more creative with our other stuff.  A few years ago, this girl who worked for us won a big prize for designing this thing called the Dormulator where you can drag and drop all your furniture and make virtual designs of the room.  I think the modular furniture is great b/c rearranging the rooms is how most of the new roomies kinda broke the ice.  You move in and you HAVE to get your room arranged before anything gets done.

    • Gold Top Dog

    Granted I went to university quite some time ago but...

    The 3 things that made a difference for me was:

    1) A rug for my room.  It made me feel better about walking barefoot on it and was cushy enough to be a place to sit.

    2) Big Bathrobe. Makes those trips to the loo and shower soooo much easier.  I gave up on the caddy and used the pockets instead!

    3) A really long cord for my phone.  This allowed me to visit and take the phone with me.  I have now officially dated myself   Big Smile

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    VanMorrison

    Granted I went to university quite some time ago but...

    The 3 things that made a difference for me was:

    1) A rug for my room.  It made me feel better about walking barefoot on it and was cushy enough to be a place to sit.

     See -- I didn't even think of a rug !!

    Keep them coming guys!

    Thanks,

    Deb W.

    • Gold Top Dog

    a small vacuum!  Esp if you bring a rug.  Used mine all the time, our carpet used to hold hair like velcro.

    I agree that the ability to make quick small meals was a must -- I had a fridge but didn't use it often, but a microwave (some dorms have community rooms with microwaves so look before you buy one!) was nice since it could also boil water but was safer to have in a dorm that a hot plate. 

    I liked things to smell like home, but you aren't supposed to burn candles, so some sort of air freshner or fabric softner that smells like home is nice. 

    I ended up bringing WAY too much stuff with me to college -- probably 30% of it I never touched!  I did bring a trunk-like thing that I could lock just in case my roommate was a klepto or something, but I rarely had to use it.  I didn't have much of value. 

    A good reading light is a must -- some dorms are set up nicely with nice lighting, and some aren't.  It also depends on the sun and time of day, etc, but I had to bring a light to make it easier for me.

    I can't think of much else now but I will keep trying... I only lived on campus one year and then moved off campus so I'm thinking back a few years to freshman year......

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    Off the top of my head? If they have a bathroom, I highly recommend a drying rack. Never know when your going to run out of clothes cause you forgot to wash your favorite shirt. (or other things)

    Peg board for notes. 1 over the door hanging rack for coats and stuff, or get an organizer tyoe thingy.

    Extension cords, surge protectors..........hmm, instead of candles use those new things with the scented oil/water in a jar with bamboo shoots coming out? I have one from Pier 1 that makes my bathroom smell like an apple orchard.

    That's all for now!

    • Gold Top Dog

     My biggest recommendation: DON'T BUY ANYTHING UNTIL YOU GET THERE!

    Okay, well you can bring *some* things, but there were so many kids who brought boatloads of stuff only to find they could fit about 20% of it in their room... they were really depressed and stressed about it. Try to err on the side of bringing less and it will be much better. Coming from the other side of the country, when I moved in I had pretty much nothing other than clothes, school supplies, and a few decorations, and I really fared much better because I could buy things that were exclusively for MY space, and not worry about where to put them.

    Re: cinder blocks - be sure to CHECK and see if they're allowed! At my school they weren't, and you could get fined $100 if you were caught using them. (Our custodian said it was because everyone just left them behind when they moved out, and the grounds staff was sick of lugging cinder blocks from the 4th floor!)

    Vaccum - I would totally go for a small stick vac or a dustbuster or something. I wish I'd had a vacuum. We had dorm vacuums, but they were always being broken or stolen.

    Laundry hamper - I loved my "pop up" hamper. I still use it. It's great because it's so easy to pack up when you move out.

    "Essentials" that I ended up buying because I **needed** them:

    1) hooks. Lots and lots of hooks! To hang up your shower loofah, to hang up your room keys, a big one to hang your coat/towel/whatever... you can't come prepared with too many hooks. I probably used about 5 small ones and 2 big ones in my room, on average.

    2) sticky tack for the walls. Our dorms had very strict no-holes-in-the-walls policies, so the only way you could decorate the walls was with that gummy stuff that you roll into balls and stick posters and such up with. 1-2 packages of that stuff is definitely essential!

    3) white board and (important!) extra markers. A small white board on the door was THE method of communication - at our school at least. "Hey, I stopped by, here's your chem book I borrowed!" etc. or, "I'm not in my room, I'll be back at 3." Some of our newer dorms came with white boards on the door, others didn't. Make sure you get ones that stick on and come off fairly easily to avoid ruining paint/wood (and having to pay for it).

    4) under-bed storage - buy this once you're at college, IMO. You want to know how high your bed can go (bed risers instead of cinderblocks can work well, they sell them in most bed bath and beyond type stores), how deep it is, etc. A lot of kids had under-bed organizers from home that didn't end up fitting their beds.

    5) extra lights. Again, buy this once you're there so you're sure you know where it will fit and where to put it. (Also make sure the type you get isn't against fire code - halogen lights are often not allowed in the dorms.) A desk lamp and possibly a tall room lamp can be extremely useful, as college dorms are typically dimly lit, and we younguns tend to keep late hours.

    6) Microwave and fridge. They don't have to be fancy, but they're really, really, really nice to have. This is the sort of thing you often want to work out with a roommate to share, since they're big and space is precious. Even if there are communal microwaves and fridges for the dorms, chances are they'll be gross or people will still your food and you'll want one of your own anyway. (Another tip: at the end of the year, try to buy things from the graduating seniors - you'll get a TON of free/cheap stuff that way that you can use for the next year. My friends and I use to "dumpster dive" and got all sorts of really nice, expensive furniture that way - people were too lazy to store/move/sell it, so just tossed it in the trash. Our gain!!! So keep that in mind too when selecting furnishings. :-P) Edit: I just saw she'll already have one. Awesome!! Make sure she looks out for free ones at the end of the year!

    7) Basic plates/silverware/CUPS. Not that you want to spread the wrong idea (lol), but cups are definitely crucial to good campus living. ;) And having a  few plates and some basic utensils is pretty necessary, too. You probably want a couple of mugs for tea/coffee and some cups for when friends come over (to drink soda, of course).

    8) Brita filter - for me, at least, this was a necessity. Tap water at school was grossssssss.

    9) Shoe organizer. Again, get this once you're at school. I got the kind that's plastic, has "sleeves," and hangs in the closet.

    10) Clothes hangers. Obvious :)

    11) Small humidifier. Buy this in the winter, probably, but my dorm got SUPER dry and I thought I was going do die without one. It made a huuuuge difference once I finally got a decent one. Industrial heating systems stink.

    12) Window fan. Our dorm wasn't air conditioned, and when we moved in, it was REALLY HOT. With poor ventilation. A small portable fan or window fan is a good idea to take with you when you move her in, especially if the dorm doesn't have AC.

    12) Shower caddy with drainage holes in the bottom. She'll need some way to keep her shampoo/razor/etc. together, and will possibly/probably want to keep them in her room (so other people don't use her stuff), and this is pretty key for storing and transporting things.

    12) If she's sensitive to light, having an eye mask will make it much easier for her if she wants to go to bed before her roommate!

    13) Surge protectors/power strips. You can never have too many! And if she has a computer, consider an Uninterrupted Power Supply battery backup (if she has a desktop) to protect against power surges.

    14) Writeable CDs and DVDs for backing up her schoolwork.

    15) Shower flip-flops! Preferably 2 pairs, in case one is still wet. Dorm showers are typically terrifying. 

    16) last but not least - pictures from home. Lots of them!!!!! Pictures of her friends, her family, her house, her neighborhood, her school, everything. It will help alleviate homesickness and will be absolutely key during "Well back at home, I---" discussions, of which there will be *many* during the first month of school. ;)

    Hope that helps! :) I just graduated last year. Every school is different, but regardless of her school's particulars I'm sure she'll adapt perfectly well. :)

    Warn her about the "one month slump," though - it's fairly common that people make all sorts of "friends" during the first few weeks of school because everyone's on their best behavior and desperate to start building a circle of friends. After about a month people start dropping the act and the sort of social system kind of disintegrates and reforms itself. People you thought you were best buddies with suddenly stop being interested in you, and people you'd never thought you'd like turn out to be great. Stuff like that. You just have to be careful not to get so excited that you're really disappointed once things settle down to be different.
     

    • Gold Top Dog

    Also check on the vacuum/cleaning situation.  Our dorms are pretty old and out-dated (never have air conditioning and we DIE May - Sept), but we did have a central vac.  There were vacuum ports along the hallways and the vac tube plus adapters we kept in a closet we all had access to.

    I'm a neat freak, so I did get some of my own cleaning supplies b/c I hate the smell of cheap stuff.  Our dorms just had rough paper towel, windex, and some multi-purpose thing that smelled terrible.  We kept some pledge for dusting and some Fabulous (bleach combo) for bathroom cleaning.  We decided with our suitemates to have a bathroom cleaning schedule.  One person cleaned it each weekend, in a rotation of 4.

    Also, if they have their own shower or share, see if they are responsible for cleaning that.  We had to TOTALLY clean ours before we left or we were not allowed to leave.  I mean, ALL the soap scum had to be off.  The RA's would scrape at the tile with a razor to check.  We avoided a lot of cleaning by getting that daily shower spray and just spraying it down with a bleach/water combo once a week. 

    I third/fourth the rug suggestion.  There's something about sitting/lying on the floor on a rug you know where it came from rather than 30 year old indoor/outdoor carpeting.

    Oh another thing almost every room had was one of those $5 full body mirrors for dressing and doing make-up in your own room.

    One more thing I thought of, those plastic crates that are really cheap, like what you find tossed out back behind grocery stores and restaurants.  I used them to keep shoes, purses, etc up high on some shelving provided for us.  I still use them for that.  I can take the crate down and dig out the shoes I want, rather than pulling them from the bottom of a pile and having it all fall on me. 

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    I don't know what her finances set up will be like but I just thought of:

    GIFT CARDS

    This just builds on what Cita said, so that she can go out and get what she needs once she knows what the space is like.  Some cards for Target, Compuserve, Bed, Bath and Beyond might be a really good start.  Perhaps she could even go shopping with her new roomate for room stuff as a bonding excercise.

    Just a thought...and some vicarious excitement.

    • Bronze

    Shopaholic Mom with a recent college graduate and one still in college, here.  A few suggestions: 

    1.  Does the college have a housing website to give you an idea of the layout of the dorms?  Is there a community bathroom for the floor, or does each suite have a private bathroom (and if so, who is responsible for cleaning)?  Are the floors co-ed?  Are the bathrooms co-ed?  Is there a community kitchen?  Laundry facilities in the building?  Vacuum cleaners available for students to borrow at the front desk?  Answers to these questions will help you decide what to get.

    2.  Sources:  Good places are Walmart, Target, Ikea and Bed Bath & Beyond.  Lots of sales starting around July.  If there is a BB&B near campus, you can order everything on-line and pick it up when you arrive in the Fall.  Otherwise, the stores near campus get picked over real fast on freshmen move-in day, so your selection may be limited.

    3.  Bathroom supplies (especially for a community bathroom):  a basket to carry toiletries back and forth, and flip flops for the shower.  My kids found bathrobes to be unnecessary - guys and girls usually wear tee shirts and boxer or gym shorts or lightweight sweat pants.   

    4.  Laundry:  A collapsible hamper, laundry bag, possibly an iron and tabletop ironing board.  D loved loved loved her drying rack.  Hangars. Small sewing kit. 

    5.  Bed:  Lots of kids like those egg-crate mattress pads, although mine never used them.  Most dorm beds use x-long twin sheets, although I am told that a standard deep-pocket twin also fits - get 2 sets of sheets.  Comforter.  Towels and pillows.  A LOUD alarm clark.  My kids both raised their beds (a word of warning though - many Us prohibit cement blocks because of the mess they make).  The dorm may have bed raising kits available, but if not, the 7" bed raisers sold by BB&B work well.  You might also look into something called Rack Raisers on the Internet - my D had them and loved them, but they need to be compatible with the type of bed in the dorm.  A few students loft their beds almost to the ceiling, but as I warned my kids, if they ever got the flu, sprained an ankle, or partied too hard, it would be a real pain to get in and out of bed.  Suitcases and plastic boxes or bins under the bed provide badly needed storage.

    6.  Other supplies: A 6 in 1 screwdriver, duct tape, fan (unless there's AC), first aid/medicine kit.  Surge protector for the computer, power strip for everything else (if the dorm was built a generation or more ago, there may be a shortage of outlets, especially with the computers/printers/assorted chargers that kids have now).  Computer, printer (and ink refills), and lock (if laptop).  Floor lamp.  Dry erase board and markers for the door.  Desk organizers (the type you keep your silverware in works well, also a desk-top caddy).  Day planner or calendar  (whichever works best for your kid).  Especially for a guy, a box where you ALWAYS keep your wallet, keys and cell phone when not in use.  I am familiar with the microwave/frig unit, and if there is a microwave on the floor, my advice would be to skip the in-room microwave (especially if it's not free) and buy a mini-frig instead - it's probably cheaper and it's yours.  (In general, heating appliances such as microwaves, hot plates, popcorn poppers etc. are often disallowed because many of the older buildings cannot handle the electrical load.)  Something to attach your room key, swipe/ID card etc. to you at all times (my kids used carabiners).  A cheap phone if not supplied by the dorm (not a big deal - kids use their cellphones exclusively but nice to have if the cell dies).  Digital camera - and if you are tech-savvy, a webcam and Skype set-up. Brita pitcher/filter and Nalgene bottle (saves $ buying water bottles, and good for the environment).

    There is a website called College Confidential and around June, parents will start asking for and giving ideas about what works and what doesn't.  I recall one parent saying that a student should make a pile of everything they want to bring, and then bring about 1/2 of that.  A little drastic perhaps (especially for my kids, who went to the opposite coast).  Another idea is to bring what she expects to need for the first 2 months, and then you bring the rest at Parent's Weekend and/or she picks up what else she needs on the trip home at Fall Break or Thanksgiving.  If you fly with her, your allotment of checked baggage should work quite well.  If you drive, be careful not to bring too much - I've seen parents pull up with U-Haul trailers attached to their vans/SUVs on move-in day, and then return home with half of the stuff.

    This will be such an enjoyable time for you, with a little sadness/nostalgia mixed in.  They grow so fast, and in a couple of years you will look back on this time with wonderful memories.