Will the hurt ever go away?

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    Will the hurt ever go away?

     I had to take my cat KittyKitty to the vet the other day I went to another vet couldn't go to the vet that Princess last went well right when I walk into this vet there are two statues one of a Doberman which I believe Princess was half of instead of blacklab and the other statue was of a Rottweiler I was like great just what I needed to see, Princess died the day after christmas 12/26/2007 and it still hurts I still cry, well I kept looking at the statues but tried not to then about 20 mins pass and we are still waiting to see the vet and I turn my head and there comes out of one of the vets door a dog that look just like Princess in the face I lost it started crying my mom was with me she was like whats wrong and all I could do was point so I'm crying my mom starts crying everyone is just looking at me as if I'm nuts. I was embarrassed just felt stupid. Some days it's good and then some days are really bad like when it storms here in Florida Princess was always scared and I always just wondering if she's ok.

     I not sure if its normal that I should still be crying so much I just miss her and can't help but to lose it when I think of her, wondering is it going to be like this forever if I see a dog that looks like her am I going to lose it again.Broken Heart
     

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     I've had the fortune of keeping many animals over the years, and sadly that means I have also had to deal with the grief of loosing many animals.  I wouldn't say the grief ever goes away completely, but I usually arrive at a point were the thought of those who have past cause smiles and laughter of fond memories.  This isn't to say I don't still occasionally have days were I need a little cry fest when remembering all my past babies, but it is more tears of joy in having the luck to have known them in the first place, than sorrow at loosing them.

     As far as the grieving process, it can be a slow thing at times and everyone handles it differently.  As long as your not still shutting yourself away or drowning in constant sorrow, I would say just let your grief run its course and not worry about trying to be normal.
     

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    Dont be embarrassed by your emotional tie to Princess.   When I look at Princess or any other Rottie it reminds me of Bear (at the Bridge in 2003) and our beloved Shadow (at  the Bridge January this year)  I get teary eyed at the sight, thought or any reminder of others that have also lost their fur babies.  We have a precious puppy that we are really enjoying but, we both still miss Shadow terribly.  I have a moment of sadness and loss every day.  Some days are worse than others.  We can now laugh about things Shadow used to do, we will see something that our puppy Rocky does that reminds of Shadow and we laugh about it.   Shadow was for both my hubby and I a very special dog.  I hope I never forget him and how special he was in the years to come   I think having such a close bond to him made us better pet parents.  I like to think that he was here to train us for more special babies in the future.

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     Was Princess the first pet you ever lost? That could be why your so sad plus your special bond you had with her. I havent lost a pet yet. I dread the day when it's Cheyanne's time. She is the first dog that I owned.

    I'm sorry you are still feeling so sad.  

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    lemme tell ya... doesnt get any easier when its the second, third or fourth.. losing them always hurts. and it hurts even more when its a puppy or kitten you're trying to save because some other dumb butt thought it was a good idea to bring them into the world but couldnt handle it.

    like they say, it takes time to get over it. it wasnt that long ago that you lost her. just remember you still have your other pets. they need you and you need them. 

     

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     I lost a cat it was hard but not as hard as losing Princess, she was my baby I play and give my other dogs affection I was just outside with them playing in the yard which is hard for me because it just reminds me of Princess so much, just embarrassed to be someone place then break out in tears because another dog looks like my Princess :( Broken Heart

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    It IS normal....and tears don't compromise one's strength.

    However you can help yourself by tring to divert your thoughts from sadness to sweet rememberance. Allow the memories of your pups to make you swell up with pride at owning such beauties. Next time you see something that reminds you of them smile at their memory and the fact that you were their whole world.......just like you'd do if they were there with you. Becasue if they were with you they'd pace and fret over your emotion, you'd notice and straighten up for their sake!

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    Its not easy to loose a pet. Not a day goes by I don't think about Daisy. The what-ifs have subsided though, and Im left with memories. I see a bit of Daisy in  Louie as well. And I know Daisy is with me where-ever I go. (spiritual talk, but that's what I believe). Princess is happy and healthy and playing at the Rainbow bridge and she is waiting patiently for you.

    When it rains or snows, or I see a rainbow or a teardrop, or even just a child's laughter, all of the ones we have lost (human and animal) are there.

     Do not stand at my grave and weep BY Mary Elizabeth Frye

    Do not stand at my grave and weep;I am not there. I do not sleep.I am a thousand winds that blow.I am the diamond glints on snow.I am the sunlight on ripened grain.I am the gentle autumn rain.When you awaken in the morning's hushI am the swift uplifting rushOf quiet birds in circled flight.I am the soft stars that shine at night.Do not stand at my grave and cry;I am not there. I did not die.

     

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    To quote "mrv" from a reply after my Sophie passed, "Someone once said wear your tears proudly,,, they are a testiment to the love you shared."

    Wear them proudly.