Where you go in the country makes a huge huge difference. Don't be blinded by a real estate agent who pains a rosey picture. Remember THEY WORK FOR THE SELLER. No matter how wonderful they seem, they only make money when you BUY. And in Florida there has been a lot of legislation because people just listened to the real estate agent and really didn't have things checked out.
Plan on an attorney too -- THEY actually are working for you. True story -- right after I first went to work where I am now (he *is* a real estate attorney but keep in mind I bought my OWN house, did NOT have an attorney and bought a pig in a poke not knowing my house had major termite damage that I later couldn't do a thing about!!!)
Anyway ... existing clients of ours (saavy people who make very good money) decided to 'trade houses' with neighbors. Both had lakefront property just had some different amenities, view, etc. and decided to trade. (about million dollar homes which is very very pricey for HERE) Our clients' home sat right 'on' the lake, the other couple's home was across a little access road back from the lake but they had a dock, lake rights, a bit better house, etc.
Much against everyone's better judgment my boss pretty well demanded they have a title search done on the property being bought. Because they were all 'friends' essentially everyone thot this was silly -- well-funded people, responsible (a title search will show if there are outstanding judgments/liens against a property, etc. to make sure there is "clear title" to the home).
Whoa .... lo and behold!!! No liens or anything BUT way back when the first owners (2-3 owners ago) owned the property our guys were interested in these original owners got divorced. When they quit claimed the property husband to wife in the divorce settlement the deed was done WRONG.
They left the lake part of the legal description OFF the deed. So essentially all the "home" really was, was the HOUSE and ***not*** the actual lakefront part of the property (which was about 80% of the value)
So essentially none of the owners since had actually 'owned' the lakefront -- only the house. The lake 'front' was still in the name of the man who originally quitted the house to his wife. Thank heavens he was still ALIVE -- my boss got it rectified for them all ... but it's just one example of many I could tell you where having someone really looking out for you can make such a difference.
Kelly is so absolutely bang on right tho about making sure you don't stretch yourself too far but go absolutely as far as you can go (that's a paraphrase -- she said it better). People have hopefully got it thru their heads at this point that ARMS (adjustable rate mortgages) will bite harder in the back than anyone dreamed they would.
AND also -- in some areas of the country you may have an association you must join. (some are mandatory, some aren't, some don't exist) But it can be quite a shock to discover that the $2500/month mortage you thot you could handle, suddenly increased by $500 - $800 a month in association dues (and yep, they can do a lien foreclosure and take your house if you don't pay for it IF you have an association).
It's not just moving in -- it's things like curtains, paint, furniture, buying a lawn mower, etc. that can smack you hard.
So ... if you are thinking of a wedding -- and I know this isn't a popular concept these days -- you might think of just a simple ceremony and NOT going in debt for a big wedding. It all depends on what's important to you. There are a lot of divorced women out there with lovely memories of a lovely wedding, only to have it all blow up in a few months. And that loan you co-signed for can follow you.
No, that's not warm-fuzzy thots and I'm not trying to be mean. I'm just older than dirt and have lived thru TWO weddings. I lived thru divorcing my first husband (and I kept the house because it was all I had and not important to him), but it's not easy in this day and age. I bought in an older part of town but now my journey to downtown Orlando is like 25 minutes where the rest of the world is driving 60 - 90 minutes. And yes, I have a yard too.
Property values here are much lower -- most homes (new ones) are still way under $200,000. How much you make make annually in an area is closely tied to property values -- so plan where you want to live carefully. You may make less elsewhere, but you may have far far less expenses elsewhere too. Depends on what you want.
Hope this helps.