I don't know what to do.

Wow, I truly don't know what to say, I am so sorry you have to go through this, and that your parents allow it.  Have you tried sitting down and telling them how you feel about him coming back?

I think if worse comes to worse, get pepper spray to keep him away.  He sounds like a very voalatile (sp?) person. 

Do your parents know exactly how he treats you? I understand why they are taking him back in - he is their son, a parent just can't turn their back like that.... no matter what he has done.

I agree with Michelle - get some pepper spray. If things get really bad, don't be afraid to call the police. Yes, he's your brother - but you can't let him keep doing what he is doing. Maybe things will be better now that he has been on his own for a while?

Keep us posted. Best of luck!

I'm really sorry to hear this.  It's no wonder that his girlfriend doesn't want him around.  All I can say is that if he assaults you again, you should call the police, press charges and request a temporary restraining order.  That is usually 72 hrs in domestic violence cases.  Then you go back to the court and they will typically extend it until the court date for the domestic violence case.  Once the DV case is heard, you have a right to request if for up to a certain number of years if he is convicted.  It depends on your state.  Yes, your parents will probably give you a ration of crap about it and he will likely be very upset.  But you are a minor and he is not.  It is your parents job to protect you.  If they don't, then let the courts require it of them.  He will not be allowed near you or your home (which is your parents home).  If he injures you, take LOTS of pictures.  Do not be intimidated by him or your parents and take back your self-esteem and your power.  Put forth the message to everyone in your family that this is not acceptable and you will not tolerate it.  If you have to call the police, ask them to give you the contact information for Victim/Witness Assistance in your county.  They are usually assigned to help you through the court process and usually can put you in contact with services for counseling and help.  This does not have to be your life.

Please take care and don't take it, he has no right to do this to you.  None.  And shame on your parents for allowing it to continue. 

Sounds like he is a real butt head.  No offense!  I would sit down with your parents and tell them how you are feeling.  Or do like I.michelle says and use pepper spray. 

Do you have any relatives around who would listen to you, or you could stay with if it gets bad? I think this boy needs some serious therapy..anger management to start with. And it's really NOT fair for your parents to take him back in when he treats you like this. Yes, he's their son, but he's their ADULT son, and you're their MINOR daughter. Even if they don't believe he treats you badly, or they feel bad for him, or whatever, the fact that he's 20-something and you're 17 should mean that YOU come first, period.

Your parents need to wake up and grow some spines. I don't really have any advice on how to make them do that though.. I think it's really important for you to find someone who believes and supports you though. Aunt, uncle, older cousin, anyone?

It sounds like you're in a pretty serious situation. I'm sure your parents think they're helping their poor son, but they're really just enabling his terrible behavior and removing the consequences of his bad decisions. If your parents are aware of how abusive he is towards you and allow him to return, they are putting you in danger. If you have a close friend or family member outside the household, consider moving in with them until your brother self-destructs and moves out again. If nothing else, it may help convey to your parents how strongly you feel about his return. It may also be a good idea to speak with the school counselor or another trusted adult about this situation as well. They may be able to give you some good advise, information about your local resources, and a safe place to express your fears to a sympathetic third party. If you have a cell phone, keep it handy in case you need to call 911 or the police department. Locate your nearest Victim's Services or Women's Protective Service Agency just in case the abuse continues and your parents do not intervene. Depending on the laws in your state, you may be able to call Child Protective Services for assistance as well. Having a plan in place and being aware of your resources is extremely important. You do not deserve to be abused and should not have to tolerate it.  Please understand that you are not alone and there is help out there, should you need it, but you will probably have to be the one to gather the courage and ask for it. Your life and safety are worth as much as anyone else's.

He is their son, but he's an adult who has apparently chosen to be unemployed and unable to support himself.  Their taking him back is just reinforcing to him that someone will always pick up the pieces, rather than his having to live with the consequences of his actions.

I can't fathom a parent putting a minor child's wellbeing behind that of an inept adult.

 I second getting some pepper spray and pressing charges should he harm you. I'd also start talking to a guidance counselor at school.

I second whoever said shame on your parents for allowing this to continue. As a mother I can tell you my son would not be allowed back in my house if he was abusive to me or my other children. I would try to talk to someone at school about this, teacher, counselor, etc, or another family member if you can. Does your sister live at home? Think of how you would react if it were a stranger attacking you in this way...the way you handle it should be no different. I would also not hesitate to call the police if you are assaulted by this guy again. The police take these things very seriously, at least where I live.

I'm so sorry {{{{{{{HUGS}}}}}}} I know it's hard but don't berate yourself over things he's said.  You are a good, sweet, caring person!

I also think going to your school counselor is a good idea.  It really is illegal for him to abuse you.  The counselor should know who to contact to try to help you out.

I'm stunned that your parents allow him to do this to you.  The only thing I can think is that they're kinda in denial about it, like telling themselves it's really not as bad and so on as so forth.  It's amazing what people can make themselves blind to if they want.

Take care of yourself and know that we are here when you need support.

And I won't be so diplomatic. Your parents lack the backbone they need to have. He's abused you, he's abused them, I bet he abuses his girlfriends and they get a gutful of it and kick him out. Here's something you can do. Get a restraining order against your brother, citing the fear and physical abuse. That way, it won't matter that your parents can't stand up and do the job they are supposed to do. Your brother would have to stay away by force of law.

And if that sounds a harsh, that's because it is. Parents should protect their families, even from each other. As it is, they are sacrificing the family for the brother, who merely craps on the offering. So, return the favor and crap on him.

ISgirl- I'm so sorry you're facing this.  Home should always be a place of comfort.  I'm going to suggest you take a self-protection class.  These are often offered for women.  I'd also suggest looking into some martial arts training.  While I've never done that (and am long over due for another self-protection class), I know they can promote self esteem and will make you feel like you can take care of yourself should he decide to be a jerk (for lack of a better word that's banned here).  Additionally, I wouldn't tell him you were doing this, but that's just me. 

 I'm sorry you are going through this and that your parents aren't listening to your fears. Honestly it takes alot more than just blood to be a family. You guys don't owe him anything, and I agree your parents should grow a back bone. I think its wrong on way to many levels to intentionally put you in a dangerous situation. I agree with Ron you should get a restraining order against your brother. You need to feel safe in YOUR home. Your bother is an adult and needs to grow up, and get a life. I really hope you get this worked out, no one should ever be afraid to be in their home.

Sorry if my post sounds harsh. I just really can't stand the thought of someone who is supposed to protect you, and they aren't. You will unfortunately have to take this into your own hands, and make sure you are safe no matter what.

Brothers!  Can't live with them, can live without them!  What a jerk!  I feel for ya, I had a brother who was mean to me, too.  Not quite as bad as your situation, but just plain nasty.  I would sit down with your parents and talk to them, seriously, about your concerns, about all the times, he's done this to you, etc.  Just in case they haven't witnessed it all.  I might even want to tell them, if he gets abusive (which is probably what he was doing w/ his girlfriends, that's why they keep kicking him out) that you will not hesitate to call the police on him.  He's over 21, and your a minor.  But, talk w/ your parents, if your sister was a witness to the abuse or suffered it herself, then I would invite her into the talk.  Good Luck!

I am so sorry you are dealing with this.

Speak with your parents---write them a note with a list of things he has done and tell them that you feel threatened by him. Tell them up front that if he lays a hand on you then you will call the police immediately. Tell them that in a domestic situation he will be removed from the house even if you change your mind about pressing charges before the police arrive.

Sometimes parents don't see their children the way they really are---especially when one acts like this. Their minds seem to gloss over things he did in the past and they don;t believe it is ever as bad as you say it was. Scary abuse is magically transformed into sibiling spats.  It's not fair and its not right, but that is the way it is and I know from personal experience.

Find a domestic abuse hotline/group near you and ask for advice about current laws in your area so you have someone to talk to and some help.

Are you still in high school? If your parents don't take you seriously and tell him to stay away, then talk to your guidance counselor at school. Your parents are endangering you by having someone like this in their house.

IF you won't do it for yourself, do it for your DOG.  What will happen if you are attacked and a canine intervenes? Could there possibly be a happy ending? No. If your dog bites him will your parents declare the dog a hero or make you give it away because it bit their son?

Please be careful and find a local adult who can help you with this and help make decisions that are in your best interest.