well i have two things to sorta gripe about.... several really but i'll just do two..
To start with... now is not the best time for me to have to deal with attitudes or overly demanding personalities... my husband lost his job last Friday. which is FINE. no, seriously, he was beyond miserable there. the money situation isnt the best but its not like a totally depressing situation. we're very lucky to live here because we have no rent and utilities are perfectly priced. still he's out job hunting and feeling inadequate and less than a man etc and so on.. he has a ton of baggage in that department because previous women have left over things much simpler than that... i'm not going anywhere, i have faith in him. its all good.
So.... on to the rant and why love the Invisible feature on MSN..
for
some reason my MIL likes to TELL me what icon i should have up in
MSN... right now i have a donkey as my icon... i met this little guy
at Pebble Hill Plantation.. he was a therapy donkey. my son got to feed
him some oats and he didnt lose any fingers... the donkey also reminds
me of one at the ranch where i worked... i LIKE donkeys lol i'm just
weird like that.... and on occasion i'll have a pic up of my dogs,
kids, husband.... what ever mood i'm in... but this confounded woman
thinks that i should change my icon to a picture of the boys and KEEP
it that way!! i talk to her maybe once or twice every other week, if
that.... i love my kids to death... but dang it! its an ICON!! its
something to be silly with! she also likes to nudge and winky blink me
to death with those stupid MSN things.. i've asked her not to because
my computer lags real bad, especially with those winks.. does she
listen? No. She thinks its FUNNY!! i've gone out of my way to turn them off... but since my computer crashed a few months ago i havent had time to go farting around with MSNs tools... so first thing when i sign on i get jingled, then jangled.. then the phone rings as i reply back to her.. oops.. so i said brb phone.. which she didnt see because she was typing and sending several sentences at a rapid pace.. so by the time i get back she thinks i'm ignoring her.. Nope. THAT would have been a GOOD idea!! instead i decided to reply back..
And... AND!!!! ugh.. ok the source of my frustration is this... In Laws
supposed to spend thanksgiving with us... the two of them.. then a last
minute change in plans brought in two extras.. my husband's niece and nephew,
which is no big deal really except the timing was the worst. for some
silly reason Allen brought home a BUNCH of stuff.... and needed a place
to store it.. so he "cleaned" out the boxes in the shed. What did he do
with these boxes? brought them into the house and on the porch.. this wasnt just a couple of little cardboard boxes.. this was a DOZEN thirty gallon plastic totes! So besides junk everywhere we
also had Mattie, Bo, AND Amber plus Ben and Kaydee(who is despised by my FIL and the feelings are mutual)... the big dogs werent a problem... but the little ones were. Mattie is a biter, she barks
incessantly at strangers when she isnt trying to bite, and if you crate her and move her to another
room she howls and yelps and claws at the crate... on top of that we
were still not sure about Amber's temper.. according to the people who
had her she couldnt be trusted around other dogs and especially kids... So my house was a wreck.. i had
carpet sharks.. extra mouths to feed, and the worlds cleanest people
were going to be in my home!! i told Allen to deal with it.. i didnt want to tell them not to come over.. Allen decided to get pissed at them because they wanted an answer "NOW" ...but i kid you not.. if we were the ones that suddenly brought along extra people to an occasion we would have been reamed out and shunned.. When his dad called back ten minutes after asking for an answer now (wasnt the best timing because we had a huge blow up with my aunt, uncle and mom) he told Allen not to worry about it. we could do our thing and they would do ours, happy thanksgiving g'bye.... so we
didnt have company. we ended up going to my dads.. which was fine with me. Allen wanted his deep friend turkey.. my dad wasnt going out of town after all. Perfectomundo!
So today she
signed on and after blinking and hassling me about my icon she asked if i was MAD at
her grandkids! if they did something to offend me..... do WHAT??
so she went on to explain things, which was basically the "He said you said she said" thing. "Allen said you didnt want company" ...wrong.....
i know what he said... i was sitting beside him as he said it.
but from her own words she was trying to get him in
trouble. 
she's got an ugly history of doing that to him... its resulted in a couple of divorces along with him not having contact with his kids as a result. She's OBLIVIOUS to it, or just all out demented! i cant tell which anymore. i used to be of the mind that "Well she means well... her hearts in the right place" and other excuses... but after today - there was more in the discussion and in past discussions, but this one took the taco - she is starting to look more and more like one of those meddling mother in laws that doesnt think any woman is good enough for her boys. shes tried to rock the boat in the past with me, mostly because of the age difference, or because of lack of money, or his problems with his last ex wife.. those things i brushed off because any sane mother would want to know if her future DIL was aware and willing to cope with those things 24/7.
But when she said "Sounds like he was trying to blame you for this" i got mad.
As it is i dont feel i can even tell my husband about it, especially with him worrying about a job right now. it seems like a simple misunderstanding but its the under currents of it all that has annoyed me.... she doesnt know that i was listening to his side of the conversation.. and that he told me everything they said.. i explained to her that i was WORRIED about kids coming over.. but by the end of the chat she was real short and left in a hurry...
i know its the internet. you cant always judge emotions and tones through text... and at the moment i'm just not in the mood to deal with her right now.. i know some day i'm gonna blow up at her like everyone else has done.. but i dont want to. so far i've outlasted every other woman and i'm rather proud of that fact.. especially since i'm not the best when it comes to tolerating people acting like butt heads..
In the end Half of what we talked about is a non-issue with me. it was Allen that was upset at them about holiday arrangements.... but some how that got transferred to me... i am at a loss on figuring out how that happened too. it looks suspiciously like she's trying to get him in trouble. i dont know what else it could be. the clencher was when i "loled" at her comment about him "blaming" me.. she didnt think that was funny at all. she said "its no laughing matter! this could put a wedge into the family!"
yeah i can see how it would if he had indeed LIED.. maybe i should have told her.. i wasnt thinking.. didnt occur to me to mention it until she had buggered off. i was more concerned with explaining why having company was not the best thing in the world... then she wanted to know why we didnt just go to their house instead.. Well i dont think its my place to tell her why Allen was mad.... so i said "i told him to handle it and he did. he wanted to go to my dads for deep fried turkey" .... not the WHOLE truth but still the truth.
i mean jeez guys, come on.... this is so stupid. i feel stupid for even typing this. but i already know where this is headed. the woman is super sensitive over the most mundane detail and i'm running out of patience to deal with it! if this was my mom acting this way i wouldnt and dont put up with it. but i feel comfortable with telling my mom when she's over reacting or being silly. you CANT tell Allens mom that. its like throwing gasoline on an already out of control fire.
ok rant over.... i had to vent... thanks