DumDog
Posted : 11/26/2007 5:10:47 PM
ron2
I learned some time ago that there's plenty I cannot fix. I can fix some things on a car. I can fix an electrical problem. But I can't fix a broken life or a person. And the thing is, most people, including women, just want to gripe and blow off steam. They don't need you to "fix" it.
I dealt with that with my employer at this last company. He talked mainly to complain and it was my job to listen, as he really wasn't interested in what I thought,
my husband is learning this the hard way. for ten years he has been his own boss... being a territory sales rep... previously the highest paid sales rep at that... but due to many changes - fugly divorce started the ball rolling - he is no longer his own boss... but he IS a Mr. Fixit... and so am i. we get along great lol but we're bloody annoying to other people who just want to blow steam. people that are close to us know better... they had either give a disclaimer before blowing steam(i just wanna rant! can you lend an ear and no opinion?) or go blow it somewhere else.
ron2
when he fired me, he sounded highly emotional, to the point of fabricating some things I knew weren't true because it involved work between the two of us. So, even though he kind of sounded like a shrieking woman on the phone, I wouldn't say he acted like a woman. A woman is more emotionally honest, at times. Whereas he was restructuring history and choosing the viewpoint he wanted to justify his actions, the sign of an insecure male. Out and out lies, and not allowing me to respond, all male attempts at dominance. On top of that, I think he just couldn't be honest about "parting ways" as he put it. So, he had to manufacture his position.
oh boy do i know THAT type!! the guy my husband's ex married was a twerp like that. he was a screamer.. he would shout over you.. ignore your point, twist your words... definately had some male ego problems and HAD to be boss hog.. HAD to do the talking..... if he wasnt around my husband could have sane, normal toned, calm conversations with his daughter. but once the dictator came around everything was blown to hell... and DH's ex would just follow along... now this is a woman that CANT think for herself.. when left to her own devices she panics... she becomes paranoid... so i guess for her, this kinda guy is perfect.. but when she was married to my husband he thought it would be a good idea to show her how to be her own woman.. be independent and make her own choices.. big mistake. cheating, lying, divorcing, court dates, a hail storm of hell...
ron2
As opposed to a woman, who wouldn't have to
manufacture a list of your faults. She simply would catalog them since
Day One.
lol there is a reason for that!! some women dont like to repeat mistakes so they keep track of ALL events to prevent the same mistake from happening again.. as annoying as that may be... "You did the SAME thing last time!! and the time before that, and the time before that.. WHEN are you gonna learn?"
tell you what though... cant wait until the boys are old enough to talk and follow conversations.. with just my husband around its any body's guess who is right or wrong... or who said what, or who did that... its annoying when you know HE said something, verbatim, and you're the only one that heard him... but he denies it.... and denies it quite emphatically! however i'm afraid i'll STILL be on my on in regards to that. i do have two boys after all... they'll either be too busy not paying attention or side with him..
despite the stupid arguments we have fun lol i have a mind like a steel trap.. and its hilarious to hear him reword statements and contradict himself on things. there have been times where i've been tempted to keep a tape recorder hidden..