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We hit a dog

Posted : 1/20/2007 2:46:14 AM

DH and I. We killed a dog.

Im still in shock. We went to dinner with my parents, we drove. We were driving home from the restaraunt .... its a busy road, the main road of town.... lots of traffic tonight. DH driving and Im in the passenger seat... my parents in the back.   The road has one lane each way with a middle lane for turning.

I see this dog run across the other side into the middle and running into ours. It all happened so fast. I guess in the split second as my mouth dropped open I was thinking it may stop in the middle lane but just as well knowing if it didnt we were going to hit it. It almost got hit by the car going in the other direction and I thought it might stop in the middle lane. We had a car right in front of us and a ditch on the side... well

It didnt stop. I saw it coming. I realized okay were going to hit this dog! And then ... yes. We hit it. Rolled over it with the front left tire, then the back left tire.

I immediately started bawling and DH pulls over to the side of the road. He gets out and runs back to the dog whos in the middle of the highway. My dad gets out and does the same. My mom is screaming at me... WHY ARE YOU CRYING?? WHAT HAPPENED???   They couldnt see... and again, this all happened within seconds, Im just reiterating my brain at the time. She or my dad didnt see any of it. They felt the bumps but the said they mostly felt DH slam on the brakes and were more thinking we were getting into a wreck.

DH comes back.. there is some discussion (again only seconds) Ill spare you the details...

He is looking back at the dog telling me his going to back up and get it and take it to the hospital... and with sparing you, its not dead yet... then in the middle of the sentence says "F***!!!" Enter a billion more curse words here... and jumps in the car and keeps going.

So... I find out that the dog was still in the middle of the road but as he was looking at it another car came and ran over it again... going very fast... apparently sending it all the way to our car. Again... Ill spare the details of what DH told me he saw. But it died at that point.

When he went back the first time he petted it, said it had a collar.

We were stuck. I mean.... what were we to do?? It almost got hit by the cars in the other direction and that would have been bad enough to witness!

Bailey was at my parents... we stayed there a while after... when we were ready to leave we got her back in the car and left. When we got home she got out the car and ran straight to the front where we hit the dog and smelled for a LONG time, the hair raising on her back. She has not settled in a while. I wish she never wouldve smelled it. She keeps looking around the house growling.

Maybe the dogs spirit is here... I dunno. I told the dog how sorry I am, that I love him/her... that he is welcome in our bed, to find Kayla at the Bridge. That Im so so sorry.

Im traumatized right now. I wish I could have waited until I calmed down after a few days to tell ya'll... but I couldnt. I needed to let it out to someone who would get what Im going through. I cant stop crying. Im so sorry. My dad keeps saying that swerving or something to save it would have likely killed us... we were going about 55 I guess... and Im sure that wouldve been worse... but I just cant get that vision out of my head. Im so sorry. Run free pretty doggy.

If his spirit does stay here, hes welcome. I cant even explain all thats going through my head right now. Why us??? Why OUR car????   ............. Im so sorry .

Luvntzus

Posted : 1/20/2007 3:09:15 AM

Oh no, I'm so sorry to hear that. What a horrible, traumatic thing for you to go through. [

] I'll say a prayer for the doggy and also for you to feel better about this. It wasn't you or your husband's fault. Sometimes these things just happen and it's not something that we can understand.

gayle

Posted : 1/20/2007 3:40:03 AM

OMG, dh hit a pup a few years ago and it just crushed him, i feel so bad for both of you, a million HUGS to you right now! i know its impossible, but just remember its not your fault and it is not suffering. i am crying for you right now, that is so horrible. i hope you will be ok. more hugs!!!!

loveukaykay

Posted : 1/20/2007 3:44:04 AM

Thank you so much. I cant sleep. I cant quit crying and my head is pounding from crying. I also cant sleep because Bailey wont settle down. She is so alert and barking and growling... at nothing. Shes really acting like someone is here or something. Very strange. May just be a coincidence. She usually sleeps fine, even with all the moving and stuff weve been doing lately... but just now in the bed she wouldnt lay. Never done that before. [&o]

mollymoo

Posted : 1/20/2007 3:47:17 AM

What a sad story to hear but it wasen`t your husband fault. We were driving down the road and a baby fawn jumped on the road and we hit it. I cried the rest of the way home. It happens. Not to go religish but I think God took the dog and the fawn home with him.

Luvntzus

Posted : 1/20/2007 3:56:33 AM

ORIGINAL: loveukaykay
I also cant sleep because Bailey wont settle down. She is so alert and barking and growling... at nothing. Shes really acting like someone is here or something. Very strange. May just be a coincidence. She usually sleeps fine, even with all the moving and stuff weve been doing lately... but just now in the bed she wouldnt lay. Never done that before. [&o]

That's very strange and seems like more than a coincidence to me. I very much believe in spirits- just makes sense to me because the soul is energy. I hope you get some rest soon and pray that you'll feel at peace with this. Gingerbread gives you a soft lick and snuggle.

loveukaykay

Posted : 1/20/2007 4:10:14 AM

Yeah, she was just sitting in the doorway staring. So, I went in bed again. She usually burrows her way under the covers and plops... nope. Not even that its 3am... wont go under. I left her in ther with DH and shut the door.. I just went back and shes laying at the foot of the bed in a crouch type position. At least shes laying. Shes not once slept on top of the covers since we got her. Crazy huh. I believe in spirits too.. and I got the feeling something was here when she was smelling the car. I sort of squatted down and was crying and she jerked her head from the car to me and stared at me and then... growled! I couldnt believe it. I got sooo upset and DH was just saying she was upset for me. I dunno, but my feelings were really hurt. When we got inside she wouldnt leave my side... she was attatched to me everywhere I walked tonight. Im really thinking somethings up and she senses it.

You know... if that dog feels comfortable with me for now that makes me happy. Maybe he didnt have a family, or a bad one... I hope he makes his way to the Bridge peacefully. I hope Bailey calms down. I hope I quit crying.

I keep thinking now how intense she was when smelling the car. Wouldnt tear away until that moment with me. And the hair on her back standing. Shes not usually like that with scents.. she goes to petsmart and stuff and is not that worried about any of it.

gayle

Posted : 1/20/2007 4:25:07 AM

she knows something is going on, how could she not? i can only imagine how emotionally traumatized you are right now and she senses that. you should snuggle up with her and try to get some sleep. i am so sorry you are going through this [

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if the spirit of the dog is with you now i know he is comfortable, he is in good company.

Ruth

Posted : 1/20/2007 5:05:51 AM

Oh, that is so sad and I'm so sorry you had that experience. I am crying just from reading it, so I can't imagine how you are feeling. And poor freaked out Bailey, that is so awful.

But, it wasn't your fault. It wasn't. It is heartbreaking but there was nothing you could have done to make it come out better. You & Bailey will both be OK, and soon you will be able to find confort in one another again.

I am not a spirits person. I think she just can smell some blood and knows its from a dog and instinctually that switches the "danger!" switch on in her doggie brain, so she goes into high alert mode. She is very vigilant and she is protecting herself and protecting you. She's pacing looking for bad guys, and she is ready to fight them if she has to. She doesn't want to cuddle because she thinks her job is to warn and protect you right now.

Unfortunately that is probably not what you need from her right now -- I would be desperate for doggie cuddles! She is loving you the best that she knows how. She does not blame you for what happenned.

This might sound weird, but I think you should talk to Bailey a little, like you talked to the dog that died. Like get near her - but not too close, she probably has much bigger boundaries right now -- and just tell her in a soft voice what you posted here: what happenned and how sad you feel about it, and that you will protect her and keep her safe the best that you know how. I think that might help you both.

Again, I'm so sorry. Ace and I both send cuddles your way.

glenmar

Posted : 1/20/2007 6:06:49 AM

Wow, I don't know what to say.

That dog felt love when DH stroked him, so his last memory of earth is of someone CARING...not such a bad thing.

This is a terrible, horrid situation and all I can do is send some loving thoughts your way. And some hugs.

random

Posted : 1/20/2007 8:33:53 AM

I'm so sorry that this happened. I can only imagine how you feel. I hit a raccoon once and that weighed on me for a while...I can only imagine how I would feel if I hit a dog.

Did the collar have a phone number on it so that you can contact the pup's family?

MissMandy

Posted : 1/20/2007 10:06:08 AM

Oh, God....I am so sorry you had to witness that. I can't even imagine how awful it must have been. I have said a prayer for both you and the dog.

And I totally agree with Glenda - at least his last moments were spent with someone who cared. He is at peace now.

jones

Posted : 1/20/2007 10:24:03 AM

That is terrible, I'm so sorry. [

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I don't know if this will be any comfort, probably not now but maybe later, but your dad was right... my fiance is a truck driver and he was told a million times in training if you are going to hit an animal you must stay on the road and not swerve to avoid it - that is extremely dangerous and highly likely to injure/kill you and anyone else in your car.

Michelle

Posted : 1/20/2007 10:56:12 AM

In all likelihood if you had swerved, you would've caused an accident behind you that probably would have killed the dog anyway, and on top of that you all or someone else may have been hurt. With all that traffic, it doesn't sound like the baby had a chance. You all stopped, which is a lot more than many do.

fuzzy_dogs_mom

Posted : 1/20/2007 2:34:25 PM

Amy, I'm so sorry you had to go through such a horrible ordeal - but please don't blame yourself or your DH for something that couldn't be avoided. Accidents happen. And like Glenda said, the dog felt stroking and caring before he died. If he was out wandering in the road in the middle of the night, it's possible that he wasn't living such a great life and now he's at the Bridge - happy and whole again.[sm=angel.gif]

Joyce