Laura W.
Posted : 12/7/2006 8:53:26 PM
First of all, congratulations on the adoption! Second of all, sorry this is so long!! We're adopting a baby boy from Guatemala and hope to have him sometime within the next 5-6 mos. Waiting is SO hard. Let me tell you what we did with my daughter when she was an infant (she's now 4). I'm not sure how old your baby will be when you bring him or her home, but when my daughter was about 5-6 mos old, we bought two expens (portable dog pens) that were 24 inches high. We attached these two pens together and made our daughter a large play area. Inside her "play yard" we had a padded carpet and her toys. She was able to play in her area without nosey canine noses and I didn't have to worry about her being run over by my rather active group. My dogs also got used to spending lots of time with a small human who operated more on her eye level. We kept her play yard up until she was about 18 mos. old. By this time she was, of course, all over the house, but still appreciated an area where she could go and play without doggie help. We'll have another play yard in livingroom as soon as our new wee one comes home from Guatemala. It also makes for good photo opps! My dog friends cracked up with they found out our daughter played in expens!
A few other things we did before our daughter was born was to kick the dogs off of the furniture. Until this time they were allowed on the couch, and we finally decided that it would just be better if only people were on the furniture. I was amazed at how easily they made the tranisition, and after my daughter is in bed, I do "invite" them up for snuggles. I also worked really hard on teaching my daughter to leave the dog toys alone and teaching the dogs to leave my daughter's toys alone. I never let my daughter climb on or tug on the dogs, and I never let the dogs get pushy around my daughter. At four she really has started to play with them and they have developed some very elaborate games involving dog treats and running through the house. However, there were NO running/treat games until the last few months...she was just too small.
All in all we had a very peaceful integration of dogs and baby, and I anticipate no problems bringing in our son. When my daughter was born I had my adult border collie, her 6 mos. old son, two lhasas and an aged papillon. Over the last 4 years I lost my papillon and lhasas and added a new papillon and a Polish Lowland Sheepdog. It was a lot of work, but very doable. I will say the summer of potty training my daughter and housebreaking the PON was rather brutal...I would find puddles on our floor and, quite frankly, didn't know if it was human or canine!!!
Again, congratulations and know that this can work. Spend the time waiting for your baby teaching useful lessons to your dog (off, sit, easy, how to walk next to a stroller). And, as someone already mentioned, make sure to spend some time with your dog after the baby arrives. When we brought our daughter home from the hospital, my husband carried her in so I could greet the dogs empty handed. Once they were satisfied that I was back, I sat down with the baby and let them all come over and have a sniff...and that was it! I was amazed at how easy they adjusted. Just for the record, I didn't carry around a baby doll or even bring home my daughter's blanket from the hospital prior to bringing her home. I think biggest key to our initial success was me being able to greet the dogs without holding the baby. If you're traveling to pick up your baby, I would really try to make sure that the person who is most "in tune" with the dog greet the dog when you come home, while the other holds the baby. Then you can switch out. My husband even waited a few moments outside the door so I could come in and have a few minutes with an energetic crew before coming it.
Laura