What do I do now?

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What do I do now?

Posted : 11/16/2006 5:07:20 PM

Today, I am handling saying good-bye to Motor better. Trinity, Hayley and Static have been nice to each other. Trinity was the perfect therapeutic cat last night and stayed with me purring the entire time. She even tolerated the visit from Bubbles. Bubbles gave me her complete and CALM (Bubbles is hardly ever calm.) attention for 2 hours while I was hosting my chat.

The kids helped us bury Motor last night. We had a nice little funeral for her.

My husband brought up adopting another kitten for Sebastian last night. He says that he understands that we can't do it until *I* am ready because I was so much closer to Motor and I had gotten more attached.

My dilemma, for one, is that Sebastian would name the new cat Motor. I hate re-naming pets but I also understand that Motor was not entirely real to him since we did not have her for more than 24 hours and he rarely saw her during that time. My other problem, is that I am terrified of going through this again. I refuse to adopt a kitten from the shelter since they insist on having them spayed before they go to your home. I would insist on it being an older cat.

Also, I do have a problem with adopting another cat. Motor was adopted when I asked about the blind gordon setter. I know that dh and I told Sebastian that he could have Motor once he completely potty trained and minded his manners more. He has kept his part beautifully. I am just now unsure whether to continue this or not.

--Sara

Susan Chandler

Posted : 11/16/2006 5:13:52 PM

Boy, this is such a hard dilemma. We here can just advice but you must make that choice, of course. I'm not sure I have anything helpful to say here. We were all shocked when this happened to Motor but sometimes, as awful as this sounds, this type of thing can happen. Whatever your decision, know that we here are praying for you. Take care,

Laurelin_429

Posted : 11/16/2006 7:17:30 PM

I don't know what you should do.

We had something similar happen when I was 8. I still remember pretty well. Our old dog died and my parents didn't get a dog for several years, I of course was begging, and I finally was allwed a dog 'of my own'. (Family dog) We had her a couple of weeks and then lost her to a terrible accident before she was three months old. My parents were very hesitant about getting another one. (There's a lot more to this story, but I won't go into it as it involves vet error and a law suit and such) I can tell you as a kid I really didn't understand, but I was really really sad. They ended up waiting 5 months then we picked out our next dog- Nikki, who we still have today at 11 years old. I think back on it and as much as I loved Rosie the time we had her and as much as I wish I would have had more time with her, I really love Nikki. I know if Rosie had been alive, I'd never have met Nikki. Nikki has been the best friend I could have ever wanted. So as much as a tragedy as it was losing Rosie, I do think that some good has come out of it. It was very hard to go through, and I'd never want to endure it again. I still tear up thinking about her and wonder if we did something wrong, which I know we didn't.

Just do what's best for you and your children. It's hard, but it'll pass. I'm sure you'll have wonderful times with your other animals and any others you decide on adopting.

I don't know if that will help you any, but I just wanted you to know that other people have been through this before. Maybe also view it from another person's perspective.

I hope it all turns out okay. *hugs*