Just want another perspective...

• Just want another perspective... Kate Posted : 4/23/2006 5:33:07 PM What would you think if someone emailed this to you on your birthday?    "My birthday prayer for you: May God plant a seed of love and kindness in your heart to bring about peace within yourself and unity to those around you. Happy birthday."     LIKE 11 REPLIES 341 VIEWS LAST POST JULIE BYERS Like Share You have posted to a forum that requires a moderator to approve posts before they are publicly available. Hey, it's way more fun when you sign up or log in Connect With Connect With Sign Up Login
• glenmar Posted : 4/23/2006 5:37:56 PM Sounds like something my MIL would send me. LOL!   I could see how that might be offensive, but I could also see how someone was trying to be really sweet and thoughtful. 0 LIKE Like Share You have posted to a forum that requires a moderator to approve posts before they are publicly available. Hey, it's way more fun when you sign up or log in Connect With Connect With Sign Up Login
• Stef w Posted : 4/23/2006 5:54:19 PM I agree - it would depend on who sent it to me - but just reading it I think it's a nice sentiment. I think we all need some inner peace sometimes.... []      However - I can also see how it could be taken the wrong way. 0 LIKE Like Share You have posted to a forum that requires a moderator to approve posts before they are publicly available. Hey, it's way more fun when you sign up or log in Connect With Connect With Sign Up Login
• calliecritturs Posted : 4/23/2006 5:58:35 PM I'm not good at 'getting' carefully worded 'slaps'.  I tend to just blow stuff off as "well, I appreciate that so and so took time but I guess I wish they hadn't".   Would totally depend on WHO sent it Lena -- it's one of those glittering generalities of life -- if they meant it kindly then they didn't think it out really well, if they meant it UNkindly then PLEASE take a long walk off a short pier and learn to actually TALK to me if you want to tell me something constructive!! 0 LIKE Like Share You have posted to a forum that requires a moderator to approve posts before they are publicly available. Hey, it's way more fun when you sign up or log in Connect With Connect With Sign Up Login
• Kate Posted : 4/23/2006 6:13:52 PM My aunt sent it to me.  At times she can be very passive-agressive.  I read it a couple of times and thought it could be viewed both ways.   Her daughter likes to create "drama" in the family and at the moment, the target is on me (and my other female cousin - there's only 3 of us girls).  My first reaction was that it was rude (I'd say instulting but with that family, it has come to the point where I don't care, thus I don't get insulted) and actually found it funny that she emailed that to me.  I replied back by saying, "Are you implying I don't have love and kindess in my heart and lack peace within myself and unity with those around me?  Thanks."  I'm quite sarcastic at times so lets see how she views my reply.    I wanted other people's perspective on it just in case I was way off in my thinking that it was insulting me.  0 LIKE Like Share You have posted to a forum that requires a moderator to approve posts before they are publicly available. Hey, it's way more fun when you sign up or log in Connect With Connect With Sign Up Login
• griffinej5 Posted : 4/23/2006 7:16:48 PM Well, considering the relationship you have with her, or rather that you don't have with her, I would take it in a rude way too. Actually, I would take that rudely if someone sent that to me anyway, because if they know me well, they should know not to send me things with god in them.  0 LIKE Like Share You have posted to a forum that requires a moderator to approve posts before they are publicly available. Hey, it's way more fun when you sign up or log in Connect With Connect With Sign Up Login
• loveukaykay Posted : 4/23/2006 9:48:58 PM Even if it was ment as a nice thing, its a very strange thing to say to someone... so if I got it I would probably be like you and assume it was some sort of jab.    What did she reply back to you? 0 LIKE Like Share You have posted to a forum that requires a moderator to approve posts before they are publicly available. Hey, it's way more fun when you sign up or log in Connect With Connect With Sign Up Login
• bluelighting Posted : 4/23/2006 10:32:17 PM I think that is kind of strange too and I think that it is kind of a jab at you it especially knowing now who sent it plus your relationship with one another. I know how those families are becuz my family is the same way it's like have the hoildays at the pound. Lots of fighting back and forth yet people wonder why I'm quiet??   0 LIKE Like Share You have posted to a forum that requires a moderator to approve posts before they are publicly available. Hey, it's way more fun when you sign up or log in Connect With Connect With Sign Up Login
• t__m Posted : 4/24/2006 12:08:15 AM My dad always said " you can pick your friends, but you can't pick your family...."   It sounds like she's trying to rile you up.... send her back an extra sweet thank you and move on....     0 LIKE Like Share You have posted to a forum that requires a moderator to approve posts before they are publicly available. Hey, it's way more fun when you sign up or log in Connect With Connect With Sign Up Login
• spiritdogs Posted : 4/24/2006 6:34:00 AM I think the mature thing to do (not that I'm always so mature, even at 50 something) would have been to respond with just "thanks" and leave it alone.  If she is being passive aggressive, then getting enmeshed in her "stuff" is putting too much cortisol in your system LOL - you'll get depressed and gain weight.  Why not just ignore and the behavior will either extinguish, or she'll not get the "rush" from doing it to you, and will eventually move on to someone else. The only relative you can pick is your dog! 0 LIKE Like Share You have posted to a forum that requires a moderator to approve posts before they are publicly available. Hey, it's way more fun when you sign up or log in Connect With Connect With Sign Up Login
• Kate Posted : 4/24/2006 11:46:08 AM In hindsight, I guess I should've done that.  However I was so irked that I was again part of the drama.  I was actually tempted to phone and settle everything over the phone.  The last time it happened, she phoned me and I bit my tongue as much as I can because "hey it's family".  Sorry but I'm sick of it and they know me pretty darn well to know they were lucky that I even bit my tongue in the first place.  I guess deep down I'm wanting a confrontation so I can say everything that's on my mind!  I know...not the best way to handle it but I'm just so sick of it! 0 LIKE Like Share You have posted to a forum that requires a moderator to approve posts before they are publicly available. Hey, it's way more fun when you sign up or log in Connect With Connect With Sign Up Login
• Julie Byers Posted : 4/25/2006 1:12:02 AM It's a toss up to me, could be a happy thought or it could be a tweek on the nose, huh.  Even if it was meant in a mean spirited manner, just send a brief thanks and don't let em know you found anything annoying about it.  Who knows, maybe the annoying relative will someday be reincarnated as a bicycle seat in a third world country.[] BTW:  Happy Birthday, Silly.   Jules 0 LIKE Like Share You have posted to a forum that requires a moderator to approve posts before they are publicly available. Hey, it's way more fun when you sign up or log in Connect With Connect With Sign Up Login