Should I be suspicious?

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    Also sending good thoughts, Just doesn't seem fair for such a nice guy :(
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    Fingers are crossed here too.  You have many, many folks rooting for you!
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    Ed, we're sorry over here too and hoping that this works out for you... whatever turns out to be best for you.  Good wishes coming your way.  Hang in there, you have a lot of support here.
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    Ed, I've kept quiet but have been following this thread.  I just want you to know that I'm thinking about you & hope things work out the best for you.  ((HUGS))
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    I've also been following this thread, but not really had any sage advice.  At this point, I'll just offer moral support and my hopes that all works out as you would wish it.
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    Im gonna go ahead and ad my good thoughts to the list [:)].  You deifinately have a lot of us who are here for you... and some of us going through a split up as well. 
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    Ed, good luck with everything.  I really hope that things will work out.  Here's to hope!  [sm=crossfingers.gif][sm=crossfingers.gif][sm=crossfingers.gif]
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    Ed - we are thinking about you too!
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    Here's a little more detailed post that I said I would make. 

    Stella and I had a discussion that turned into an argument that turned into a fight that got really vicious.  She told me, was given to an old friend of hers that was having marital problems.  I found out through her mother, because her mother let it slip, that this old friend is really her former BF, David.  Stella didn't know that I knew this-until our big fight, in which anything and everything that could have been said or brought up was said.. 

    Anyways she turned the whole thing back on me telling me that I don't spend enough time with her, things aren't the same as they were, we don't have any more adventure in our lives, I spend too much time with the dog, my heart isn't in this marriage and that it's all my fault. 

    And the kicker is that I don't make enough money so she has to work, and that's just not fair- her mother never worked and their family was pretty well off.

    And don't get me started on the MIL.  She's been against me since the start.  The only way I got into her graces at all was the whole cellphone family plan thing.    That way she didn't have to spend any of her money.   

    We haven't spoken for a few days- she's staying with a friend and won't answer the phone.  Strangely though I don't feel hurt, I feel angry and used.   I'm thinking that a clean break might be the best thing for both of us. 

    So thanks for all the kind words and support here.  I'll keep everyone posted if anything new happens.
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    Wow, Ed
    I'm so sorry, you are being much more mature then I could ever hope to be.  I hope there is a speedy, as painless as possible resolution for you.
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    ORIGINAL: ottoluv

    Wow, Ed
    I'm so sorry, you are being much more mature then I could ever hope to be.  I hope there is a speedy, as painless as possible resolution for you.


    Actually I'm giving a very calm response compared to the one that actually happened.  I'm not good at communicating anger in my posts, but I certainly am incensed about this entire situation. 
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    I'm really sorry that things turned out like this... I was really hoping for you that it was all a big misunderstanding. [&:] Good thing you have another bitch in your life who is a bit more loyal. (I'm talking about the furry one, of course.)
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    as stated before, if any humans involved need physical discipline, i would be happy to provide my services...
     
    bad stella.  no click, no treat.  we should put a prong collar on her and tie her to a stake in the backyard.
     
    seriously, ed, this really stinks.  you're being a much bigger person about this than i might be...
     
    man, thank god for the unconditional love of dogs, eh?
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    O wow Ed.  You have every right to be angry and dont let her turn that into anything other than what it is!  Your right... a clean break may be good... she doesnt seem to be having a hard time since she wont answer your calls.  Im so sorry,  at least you found out now, rather than later...
     
    Remember your feelings are normal, and you are right in feeling them.  Do what you need to do for yourself right now.
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    One thing I learned from soooo many years on this planet is when someone is guilty they very quickly start to shift the blame. This tactic takes the focus off of their behaviour and put it on their accuser. It also serves as a rational excuse for their otherwise unexcusable behaviour.

    Hope it all works out for you.