Does anyone else ever feel....

Yes - I do now.
 
Thats ok if you don`t want to reply to my threads BUT if I reply to a thread and then the next person replies (most of the time its the op) with someones name just above me that is a oldbie when I was the last one that replied just because they are a oldie and the chosen one makes me feel like I should not even reply even if the dog needs prayers to get better as I make no difference anyway if I have prayers or not. How long does it take to become a oldbie so you fit in here??????

Awwww don't feel bad, I think your posts matter and are very thoughtful.  I think everyone gets ignored from time to time.  I feel the same way too, I'll post something and right after me someone else will post the exact same thing like I didn't even post.  Don't you feel like screaming "i just said that" ahhh.

I don`t consider this being ignored just passed on because you are not a oldie and their replys mean more than a newbie. I believe newbie prayers are just as good and effective as oldies prayers. There is a click here sorry. This also happens in alot of small towns too.

I feel that way too. I haven't been posted as much because sometimes I feel like "whats the point?"
 
I know its not intentional (at least I hope not) and is probably just because people are busy and do not have time to respond to everyone but it gets annoying.
 
I've especially realized this in the "Photos For Sharing" and in "NDR" where someone that is newer or doesn't post as often will get hardly any replys, where someone who always post and is a "favorite" will get 20 replys in a matter of hours.
 
 
 
 

I know its not intentional (at least I hope not) and is probably just because people are busy and do not have time to respond to everyone but it gets annoying.

This is not what I`m talking about. What I`m talking about is intentional. Op post a thread. - you reply - a oldie replys after you- then the op replys again - look at whom they reply it to it may not be to you its to the oldie above you instead. You are invisible to them as is your reply they are only replying the the oldie the reply above your reply. I guess I feel that is intentional.

I admit that I've not read this entire thread and that I'm posting on the fly this morning.......
 
For me, often I will reply to someone I "know" because I feel more comfortable saying that I don't totally agree with them than I do with a newer person.  And, there are times that I flat don't have time to be PC, diplomatic and/or kinder and gentler.  I'm usually pretty blunt and the folks who've been around forever, KNOW that's just me and I'm not trying to be unkind.  As I recall, Mollymoo, many moons ago you and I had a not pleasant conversation via PM and I think it had to do with my disagreeing with Molly's "breeder" being wonderful.  Several months later you PM'd me and prefaced it with "I know you asked me not to PM you......."  Being an old fart, I'd forgotten all about it![8|]
 
Sometimes, it's easier and safer to respond to someone you feel comfortable with....someone who you know will agree to disagree with you and not be out for blood, if that makes sense.  And, sometimes newer posters come in with guns blazing and act like they flat out know everything, and those kind of folks, I find easier to ignore.  And, I'm not in any way saying that this applies to you.  But sometimes I just have to pick my battles and decide whether or not it's WORTH  the battle.
 
I do try to say something positive to newer folks when they post something that makes complete sense to me, or if they have a valid point....but, remember, I don't "know" them and I'm often reluctant to say.....good point, but I'm not sure I entirely agree with X....because it could start a problem.  But much of this comes down to very limited time.
 
I'm sure I'm not the only idogger who feels like the days are just too short. [:@]
 
I hope I made SOME kind of sense here?

I'm sure I'm not the only idogger who feels like the days are just too short

 
Amen, doggy angel. I've been in this forum since about Sept. 2005. For quite a while, I felt like the rogue dog. Which didn't bother me. I just stuck to my opinions until someone could show me otherwise. There are times Glenda and I have differed but it didn't mean we couldn't be civil to each other or have fun in a different thread. As for continued responses, some feel here that if someone posts and excellent summation or a thought that everyone can agree with, they let that be the last word. So, they're not ignoring you, they're letting you have the last word because you were correct. And there's only so much time in a day. There are times when I want to reply to a thread but I can't seem to word it right, so I just leave it be rather than say something the wrong way. As Frankie Valli and the Four Seasons sang, "Silence is golden."

It's also good to remember that just because people don't comment specifically on your posts doesn't mean they don't notice/appreciate them. [] (At least that's true for me! If I reply to a thread, I always read all of the responses. I don't necessarily respond specifically to or quote all of them, though - that'd make for a painfully long post!)

ORIGINAL: Disarray29

  I sometimes feel left out...everyone seems to be on a first name basis and I don't know anybody's name. 

 
If you look at the signature panel you'll see that a lot of people have added their names there.  Others type their names at the end of their posts.  Believe me! [] First names are a lot easier to remember than a lot of the log-in names.
 
Joyce

I haven't read through this entire post but...here's a rule I try to live by (sometimes it's easier said than done):
 
You can't take what's written or not written on the internet personally!
 
There are times that I want to respond to a post but someone walks into my office or the phone rings and I never get back to it. Or, I just don't know the answer, don't have a comment, whatever. Also, things come across differently when written on the internet instead of being said one on one. So, to reduce a lot of stress in your life, let stuff roll off your back and give people the benefit of the doubt.

Mollymoo-  I got a lot out of this thread so Im very thankful that I posted it.  It may sounds strange but everyone stepping up and saying that they have felt the same at times made me realize thats just how it is.  I may in fact be ignored sometimes... I guess everyone may in fact be ignored at times.  I guess if everyone tried to include everyone it would just be nonsense.  I still agree though that its frustrating to post, then someone else posts almost the same thing, then that person gets quoted and agreed with and all that.... I think that happens to us at from time to time. 
 
 
I got more out of this thread than I ever thought I would, with all the PMs... Im so thankful for all of them and all of you who took the time to PM me, and now I even have a new friend here that I dont think I would have ever had the opportunity to spark a frienship with otherwise.... so heres to sharing your feelings lol.[]

Ok, so I just have to say...

Its amazing how many views a thread can get, and how little responses... I guess that's the lurkers?

I know in my case I have been lurking a lot more than posting lately because I am busy and try to keep up with 3 dog boards daily.  I also post less questions here so I guess I should expect less results .
 
 

I`m going to try this one more time. If I post a thread and nobody replys its ok ( I would feel bad that nobody cares about what I post about) true. BUT I can deal with that more than I can deal with this.
 
When I reply on a thread where the dog is sick or a thread where a dog has gone to the bridge. I feel everyones reply here is equal as everyone elses because everyone on this forum loves dogs or they woudn`t be here. So why would a oldie reply to another oldie right above your reply saying prayers to (who ever) or condolences and disregard your reply. In these situations I think ALL replys are important. Newbie or oldbie. Prayers and good thoughts and vibes are a good thing (and here they seem to have power) no matter who gives them newbie or a oldbie. But Many times when I replyed the op apparently goes up to the first oldbie like my prayer and condolences are not as important as the oldbies are above me.This may seem petty to you reading this but I love dogs very much and I think my prayers are just as effective as anyone elses and should not be ignored as nobodys reply of prayers should be ignored no mater who you are or how long that you have been on this forum.
 
 
Glenda - I`m a old fart too. But I needed info from you and I was afraid to Pm you at first because of our other PMs. I got over it and did do it in the end but that is why I said what I did in the preface. I feel we are friends now but we did get off on the wrong foot to start with. My fault not yours. I did have guns blazing on that thread I admit that. For that I am sorry. I get more good advice and info on this forum than I could ever give.

I see where you are coming from but I really don't thinks its intentional on anyones part.  Kind of like water seeking it's own level.  We all tend to have our own comfort levels with people and the longer they have been around the more comfy we feel with them....in general.
 
There are folks who've been around idog longer than I have who I don't feel comfortable with....who I don't feel that I can joke around with or that I have to be very careful HOW I disagree with.  And then there are newer folks who just "click" right away.
 
When Anne first showed up, I disagreed with something she said, and I hope I did so nicely.  Maybe not tho.  Instead of getting up in arms and getting in my face, she explained WHY she does it and I conceeded that I had NOT thot about that particular aspect.  Once she explained, I agreed, thot it was a great idea and will often suggest the same exact thing that I disagreed with.  The way in which she reacted to my "challenge" not only earned my respect and agreement, but made her one of those folks that I feel comfy with.  I remember a thread that was getting UGLY and being me I popped in something like "how 'bout them Red Sox?"  Anne immediately picked up on that cue and ran with it and the thread turned the corner from heading over the cliff to somewhat productive as I recall.  Sometimes two posters just click and it's easy to relate.
 
I think too that sometimes in the threads where someone has asked for prayers they are sooooo stressed that responding to everyone is too much work.  I've had more than my share of "Please pray for Mom" threads in the past year and while I truly appreciate everyones support, during the crisis I don't always have the energy to respond to everyone.  For me anyway, it's not a deliberate slight, but more of a natural gravitation to the folks I really "know" and feel more comfy with.
 
Does that make any sense to you?  I honestly don't want to attempt to invalidate your feelings.  I'm just hoping I can help you to feel less slighted.