Does anyone else ever feel....

Sometimes I feel ignored in real life! I think it just happens. 
 
 Additionally, I have become more of a lurker recently than in the past, meaning that I, too, post less.

Double Ditto []

ORIGINAL: alieliza

Amy,
I've felt the same way.

I know that this is going to sound crazy, but the way I see it is that popularity goes in waves. I find that there are always people who are very popular, and they post all the time. Then, as people join, the popular people (other than the very active regulars) change. I find that the people who are "popular", or have a circle of "friends" get responses from those people. I don't want to go so far as to call the forum "cliquey" but its something like that.


**I hope that this does not get taken the wrong way, I am not passing a judgement or mean this in a negative way. I think it is totally normal, and to be expected. **

Sometimes I feel ignored in real life! I think it just happens.

I would also like to add, that like janice, I sometimes feel like I don't have anything more to add then what has already been said. Also, sometimes I will read a few posts in a thread, and decide what I want to say, then not read on.

Additionally, I have become more of a lurker recently than in the past, meaning that I, too, post less.

 
I completely agree with this and with what Cathy said. If I knew how to do a double quote, I would! []  This is exactly how I feel when it comes to this subject and what I have observed. I also don't mean it to be taken in a negative way at all, it's just what happens and, as Alison said, is to be expected.

Me too!  But I'm busy so I don't miss it as much as I thought I would.  And since when i do post, I get few responses, I don't bother. Plus, things that happen in life that I think about posting, well it probably already has been posted, so why bother?  hmmm... maybe I need to talk to Billy's therapist.....

Amy, I think you're taking something personally...? We all go through that.. "my post was ignored". I get particularly pissy about it when it was espcecially clever. But, I digress.

I noticed some of your posts say things like "you all...." and then whatever. You'll tend to get more replies if you post in response to ONE or two particular people. Or asking a question. By giving an opinion people will naturally gravitate to one or two posts that caught their eye for some reason.

That's my [sm=2cents.gif] I agree with Gina, you had a lot of support when going through your personal problems... you also weren't posting for awhile, I noticed. So, sometimes it takes a few days of posting to get back in there. I also go through cycles of lurking and then posting and then lurking... and then posting, it's something that I've noticed.

Are you wanting certain forum members to respond to you, and then when they don't you feel left out?
 
It may not really matter to you that I've responded here to this thread but wanted you to know anyway that I do read your posts and am not ignoring you!  For me, sometimes I feel talkative and sometimes I don't. And, I also understand how you're feeling. []

Also, Amy, I think its totally fine that you post a thread like this, and I don't see any reason that anyone would be upset by it. If you ask me, you are just pointing out the obvious, which sometimes, needs to be done.

I think that by voicing this, you are just going to have people who agree, or people who will offer up an explanation. I don't think that you are doing anything negative by bringing your feelings, and what really happens on this board, to the forefront. I think that what you are feeling is normal, what is happening is normal, and I think its great that you want to talk about it.

I wouldn't take it personally, though, and if you hadn't brought it up, you might have been thinking otherwise!

Gosh, I'm sorry you feel this way. I don't really know you, but I looked up your past posts and we don't cross paths often. I haven't even looked at most of the threads you posted in.
 
Hope to get to know you better in the future.
 
Stacy

Well as someone who has been around for 4 yrs, you can tell by my post count that I mostly lurk now. I used to post a lot more and got lots of responses. Now I figure people see my name and wonder "who is this person?" The other thing that happens is, there are just sooo many threads that by the time I find one I'm interested in, read through it then add my post - the thread is over! I have been the final poster on tons of threads.
I do agree however that whether you have people respoding to you or not, your posts are being read. I know I have read LOTS of your posts myself.

I think everybody has days when they feel ignored ... it it isn't on the forum, then it's at work or at home or wherever.  It's just part of the cycle. Don't let it get you down. []
 
Joyce

ORIGINAL: loveukaykay

completely ignored?  ..............
  I guess I thought Id see if there really is a reason for it, or if its just me.[&o]

 
sometimes, but then this IS just an internet forum and i try not to let it bother me.  one thing i have noticed is that sometimes topics get passed over in the heavy traffic, and if you "bump" them, then all of a sudden you'll get a response.
 
i'll also state that i'm sort of trying to control my post count (keep it down) in the more serious areas of the forum, so if i don't feel i have a good answer, i won't say anything at all- i leave it to the "experts"...
 
i would like to add at this point that i have always thought that you were insanely beautiful and it makes me mad[>:].... and i mean that!  i'm jealous!  you're the hot blonde that i want to be!  * i mean it as a compliment, as back handed as it may sound*

ORIGINAL: probe1957

Wouldn't it be funny if no one responded to this?  []

No, it wouldn't.  [&o][]  I don't think you're being ignored.  I guess it's just you.  Don't worry about it.
 

ORIGINAL: Xerxes

If you're desperate for attention, you could always do what another forum member did and post a nude pic of himself.[]

(see Glenda's thread in NDR!)

 
When did that happen?!  I'm appalled!  Even so Ed, that would make a nice attention grabber wouldn't it?  [sm=wavetowel.gif][sm=popcorn1.gif]

I'm glad I'm not the only one who feels ignored sometimes!!

I read every day, but only rarely post.  I've been on this board for 2 years now and, as you can see, my post count is pretty low.  Truth be told, no one even knows mel!
 
So if it makes you feel better, I've read lots of your posts and feel like I "know" you, even though I've probably never posted directly to you (or 95% of the people on this board, for that matter).  It's nothing personal.  I'm probably not the one that you wanted to hear from, since I'm not a name that you see every day, but I find your posts valuable and interesting.  I'm sure there are plenty more like me.  

I know what ya mean. I often feel that since i'm young my opinion isn't as appreciated, but whatever. It's the internet...i have tons of real life friends and if at any moment i decided to leave, i can do so and not feel sad!

Amy, dollface, I wrote this really well-crafted note full of quotes from other people and such - and the post was killed because the server was recycled!  SO!  I will come back to this, but please know a couple of things...
 
I left the forum for a little while (and a scant few noticed).  When I came back, I thought I had missed the updates on what was happening w/you.  (a new dog, how the house sale was going, all that stuff)  And when the few osts of yours I caught were pretty quiet, I actually presumed two things.
1 - that I had missed everything and therefore shouldn't be such an arse to re-hash it all incase it was too sensitive.
2 - that you didn't want to talk about it.
 
Sadly, I neglected to remember that when someone is having a rough patch, they're really hoping that others notice their pain and will ask "how are you?"... I'm sorry I didn't do that, even if it risked re-opening scars.
 
SO - AMY - aside from the online life, how are you?  Feeling more secure in your situation w/DH?  Tell me about the new little lovey dog.  Has there been any action on the house?