houndlove
Posted : 4/13/2007 12:23:01 PM
Well my husband is my best friend, but outside of him....
I've gone back and forth. I haven't had one best friend throughout my entire life. In high school, male all the way. I just could not stand the bitchiness and judgemental attitudes of my female friends. The female friend who I'd been closest with in middle school I felt really betrayed me in high school, all just to gain the acceptance of the guys we both knew. She betrayed herself too, because she was incredibly intelligent but acted ditzy around guys. My very best friends in high school were all guys, one gay, the rest straight.
In college my best friend was my roommate, and she was my maid of honor at my wedding. But I had a lot of male friends that I was also really close with, but, uh, I had a hard time not dating them eventually. Self control issues. [

] After college by best friend was a guy and we sort of had a proto-thing but decided against it. My husband was one of his groomsmen when he got married a few years ago.
Right now the person I consider to be my closest friend is female. But neither of us are girly at all. At. All. It's nice to have a girlfriend who I can talk about girl stuff with but who isn't saddled with all kinds of the girly stuff I dislike.
Meanwhile, every single one of my husband's close friends are female. When we got married, he really only had one guy he could ask to be his best man, and that guy refused ("didn't believe in marriage" ie, going through a divorce and being bitter). So I had a maid of honor and he had a best woman (in the program we just referred to them as "Bride's and Groom's Attendants"). One of his oldest friends and one of the two mutual friends that introduced us is a lesbian and she's many times expressed a desire to have him be the sperm donor when she's ready to have a child. I actually think it's great! It's awesome to be married to a guy who doesn't have any issues with women and prefers their company!