Siblings

 
Do you have siblings?
yes
 
Full? half? Step? 
1 half, 1 step-brother that passed away
 
Brothers..Sisters..Both? 
Brothers
 
How far apart are you? Do you think this aspect affects your relationship? 
I am 9 years older. I do think this definitely has had an effect on the relationship.
 
Good relationship or bad?
I guess it's good. He gets on my nerves half the time and the other half are good.

Are you the favorite, do you feel they are, or is there not one? 
I would say that he is the favorite. He might say that I am the favorite.  
 
Did you feel they were given things from your folks, as far as time or patience or material things, you yourself did not get? 
Oh yes. He was given more time, more patience, more slack.
 
Would you choose them as a friend if you were not related? IOW Do you have things in common? 
Yeah, I think so.

Do you trust them to make decisions about your parents when it comes time or do you feel that's more your duty? Why? 
That is definitely my responsibility.
 
Would you trust them with things or people most dear to you? Kids, spouses, pets? 
I'm not sure yet.
 
Do you think they view you as a good sibling? Do you think you are a good sibling?
I don't know how he views me. As for how I view him, I would absolutely do anything for him and love him more than anything else in the world, so yes, I see myself as a good sibling. I could be nicer though. He's much more sensitive than I am.

Do you have siblings?
yes
 
Full? half? Step? 
2 half (one same mom, one same dad), 1 full
 
Brothers..Sisters..Both? 
brothers only
 
How far apart are you? Do you think this aspect affects your relationship? 
One is 9 years older, one is 2 years younger, one is 14 years younger
 
Good relationship or bad? 
Um...Okay I guess, my little bro rocks!
 
Are you the favorite, do you feel they are, or is there not one? 
Mom's fav-oldest brother, dad's fav-my 2 year younger brother; my younger, younger bro, so for me.
 
Did you feel they were given things from your folks, as far as time or patience or material things, you yourself did not get? 
not really
 
Would you choose them as a friend if you were not related? IOW Do you have things in common?
No. Maybe my 9 year old bro, he is such a good kid.
 
Do you trust them to make decisions about your parents when it comes time or do you feel that's more your duty? Why?
No. Too immature, too selfish. (*l* Sorry Gina I stole your reason but it's true for me as well). Mom actually said to me once (jokingly) "please dont let these boys "take care of me", they will bury me in filth. My older brother has a 13 year old daughter my mom takes care of, so no.
 
Would you trust them with things or people most dear to you? Kids, spouses, pets? 
NO!!!!!!! Again maybe my 9 year old brother *l*. My 2 year younger brother might be trustworthy because he loves pets, but not my older one. I wouldnt trust him with a FISH.
 
Do you think they view you as a good sibling? Do you think you are a good sibling?
Yeah they should. I think I am.  

Do you have siblings? yes

Full? 2

Brothers..Sisters? brother and sister 

How far apart are you? Do you think this aspect affects your relationship?
Brother is 8 yrs older, sister is 5 yrs older.  Sister and I were very close, but probably due to gender more than ages.

Good relationship or bad?
Brother - good, but not super close
Sister - we were best friends until she abandoned her children and became a drug addict.  Haven't heard from her in about 10 yrs.

Are you the favorite, do you feel they are, or is there not one?
I was the baby and probably a favorite in some ways.  Being blond and blue-eyed in an Italian family helped []

Did you feel they were given things from your folks, as far as time or patience or material things, you yourself did not get?
Perhaps they got more discipline than I did, because I was the baby

Would you choose them as a friend if you were not related? IOW Do you have things in common?
Definitely not with sister, but brother, yes, although he moves in a world of much higher income level than I do.

Do you trust them to make decisions about your parents when it comes time or do you feel that's more your duty? Why?
My brother handled my dad's financial and medical issues for the last few years before he passed away, and he did an excellent job.  Can't imagine how it would've been without him.

Would you trust them with things or people most dear to you? Don't have kids, but if I did, absolutely.  He's not a big animal lover, so probably not.

Do you think they view you as a good sibling? Do you think you are a good sibling? My brother -yes to both questions.  My sister blames the world, and especially her family, for her problems, so no. 

Do you have siblings?
yes
 
Full? half? Step?
1 brother.
 
Brothers..Sisters..Both?
brother only
 
How far apart are you? Do you think this aspect affects your relationship?
2 years apart. i think it hurt our relationship when we were kids, but i think being close in age helped our relationship as we got older.
 
Good relationship or bad?
good. we actually have a good bit in common
 
Are you the favorite, do you feel they are, or is there not one?
i dont think there is one, but if you asked him.... he thinks it is me! []
 
Did you feel they were given things from your folks, as far as time or patience or material things, you yourself did not get?
he got to play football when he was in middle school. i had to wait until high school. not sure why that was, because i always begged my parents to let me play.
 
Would you choose them as a friend if you were not related? IOW Do you have things in common?
yes.
 
Do you trust them to make decisions about your parents when it comes time or do you feel that's more your duty? Why?
i hope those are decisions that we will share.
 
Would you trust them with things or people most dear to you? Kids, spouses, pets?
yes, but only if he would feed them my dog food! []
 
Do you think they view you as a good sibling? Do you think you are a good sibling?
yes.

Do you have siblings? 
Yes
 
Full? half? Step? 
All Full - however, they are all adopted.  My parents adopted them before I was born...they didn't think they could have kids...ooops!
 
Brothers..Sisters..Both? 
2 sisters and 1 brother 

How far apart are you? Do you think this aspect affects your relationship? 
We are all two years apart...almost to the month.  I am the youngest in the family (33), then my sister (35), then brother (37), then my other sister (39).  I think that it was hardest between the siblings that were closer to each other age.  I always got along a lot better with my sister than was 6 years older than me than the one that is 2 years.
 
Good relationship or bad? 
Mostly very good.  My brother and I have gotten closer over the years.  My relationship between my sisters has also improved as we now have so much more in common.  
 
Are you the favorite, do you feel they are, or is there not one? 
My brother and I are my mom's favorites...I am EXACTLY like my dad...female Bob they call me.  My sister's  are my dad's favorites. 
 
Did you feel they were given things from your folks, as far as time or patience or material things, you yourself did not get? 
No, we were retty much given everything equally.  I am closer to my mom than anyone else, but that's because we talk more, do things more, plan things together, go on vacation with them, etc. so I get more understanding and advice from her.
 
Would you choose them as a friend if you were not related? IOW Do you have things in common? 
I don't know if I would choose them as friends since we are all very different.  The only thing that brings us together and makes us close is that we are brother's and sisters. 
 
Do you trust them to make decisions about your parents when it comes time or do you feel that's more your duty? Why? 
I trust my sister Amy ( 2 years older than me) and brother Michael.  My oldest sister Kerri is the most irresponsible and tends to hide from roblems.  However, I know that I will be the one to make the hardest decisions.
 
Would you trust them with things or people most dear to you? Kids, spouses, pets? 
I would trust my sisters with my kids, but not Charlie long term since they have never had a dog.  I would trust my brother with Charlie and my kids once they were a little bit older.
 
Do you think they view you as a good sibling? Do you think you are a good sibling?
I think they feel I am good sibling.  I know my sisters resent my relationship with my mom a little, but they understand that I also put more effort into my relationship with her than anyone else does.

Do you have siblings?
yes
 
Full? half? Step?
2 Full Sisters 
 
Brothers..Sisters..Both?
Sisters 
 
How far apart are you? Do you think this aspect affects your relationship? 
The three of us are all ten years apart.  It's had a positive effect on our relationships.  We all bring different life experiences to the relationship
 
Good relationship or bad? 
The best.  We are very close. 
 
Are you the favorite, do you feel they are, or is there not one? 
Have never felt that there was a favorite. 
 
Did you feel they were given things from your folks, as far as time or patience or material things, you yourself did not get? 
We were all raised in different decades and during very different times of our parents' lives.  Consequently we were all raised a little differently, but I think we all know that we got the best of whatever our parents could give at that particular time.  My older sister was probably raised the most strictly.  I'm the middle and my Mom was home with me, so I received a lot of time from her but we didn't have much money.  There was more money for "things" for my youngest sister because both parents worked and everyone else was gone from the house. 
 
Most importantly, we all ended up with the same values.
 
Would you choose them as a friend if you were not related? IOW Do you have things in common?
I would certainly enjoy being around them even if we weren't related.   
 
Do you trust them to make decisions about your parents when it comes time or do you feel that's more your duty? Why? 
We've already had to make those decisions.  Our Mom lived with me for the last ten years of her life, but when it came time for discussions and decisions we came together as a family to do it.  Our parents also helped by make their wishes very clear.
 
Would you trust them with things or people most dear to you? Kids, spouses, pets? 
They're both more qualified to take care of kids than I am (my youngest sister has 5 kids).  My oldest sister and I et-sit for each other all the time.  Probably wouldn't want to leave my dogs with my younger sister though ... too many kids. 
 
Do you think they view you as a good sibling? Do you think you are a good sibling?
Yes and yes.  We do everything within our ower to help and taken care of one another.

Do you have siblings? 
Yep
 
Full? half? Step? 
Full
 
Brothers..Sisters..Both? 
3 sisters.
 
How far apart are you? Do you think this aspect affects your relationship?
They are 6, 9, and 10 years older than me.
 
Good relationship or bad?
Pretty good. The oldest two have moved back in with my Mom and I in the past year. That's fun (not!). I'm closer to the one who doesn't live here than those two. But she's married with a kid now, so...
 
Are you the favorite, do you feel they are, or is there not one? 
I'm probably the favorite at this point. The oldest two are kind of screw-ups, and the other is, like I said, married with a kid.
 
Did you feel they were given things from your folks, as far as time or patience or material things, you yourself did not get?
Heh, I might as well have had totally different parents. In fact, I DID have totally different parents. My parents split up when I was 4, and my dad was only around reliably til I was 6, and entirely left when I was 9. My Mom has worked full-time since they split up, which she didn't before (she'd work part-time, but was mostly around), although she did run a daycare out of our house for a few years. Anyway..yeah, they got lots more time and attention, but I got more material stuff. Guilt and all that, plus three older sisters to spoil me.
 
Would you choose them as a friend if you were not related? IOW Do you have things in common?
We do have things in common, like our inability to stay in touch with friends. So I'm sure even if we were once friends, it wouldn't have lasted long. []
 
Do you trust them to make decisions about your parents when it comes time or do you feel that's more your duty? Why?
I'm not sure.. I'm definitely closest to my Mom, but that may be just because I'm the youngest, and am STILL living with her, as opposed to living with her AGAIN. IOW, I didn't screw up to get myself here, I just haven't gotten myself out yet. If she ever needs to be taken care of, I will most likely do it.
 
Would you trust them with things or people most dear to you? Kids, spouses, pets?
I think the only one I would easily trust is one just older than me. I would less easily trust the next older, and it would be very difficult for me to trust the oldest. She's proven herself untrustworthy with my dog, and takes things with kids too personally.
 
Do you think they view you as a good sibling? Do you think you are a good sibling?
I am a good sister. Sometimes I'm gullible (like when one says "Can I borrow $300? I'll pay you back next week"), and sometimes I'm short-tempered and easily annoyed with them, but that's just because I'm the sanest. [] They better think I'm a good sister.

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Do you have siblings?
yes
 
Full? half? Step? 
3 full sisters
 
Brothers..Sisters..Both?
Sisters only.
 
How far apart are you? Do you think this aspect affects your relationship?
I'm the oldest - by 4 years, 11 years & 12 years
 
Good relationship or bad? 
Very good with one, just so-so with the younger two
 
Are you the favorite, do you feel they are, or is there not one? 
Growing up, the youngest two were  moms favorites.  When she was alive, I was my grandmothers favorite.
 
Did you feel they were given things from your folks, as far as time or patience or material things, you yourself did not get? 
Sure - all three things for the youngest two.  But when my dad died they were only 10 and 11, whereas my other sister and I were 18 & 22.  Their whole childhood experience was different.  They were raised by a single mom who was much better off financially than she was when my other sister and I were that age ... and she could afford to be much more indulgent ... which didn't do them any favors, to be sure.

 
Would you choose them as a friend if you were not related? IOW Do you have things in common? 
Sure - with one of them.  We're pretty much on the same page, except that she's a pro-war Bush supporter - so we agree not to get into political discussions.  Of the two youngest, one is very greedy,  manipulative and biotchy and the other one is a total flake who needs a keeper.  Not much in common with them.
 
Do you trust them to make decisions about your parents when it comes time or do you feel that's more your duty? Why? 
When dad died, mom made the decisions.  When mom died in 1999, my sister and I made them.  I was actually named executor of her will, but I couldn't fly back and forth as often as I would have had to.  So my sister took up the slack and I helped her when and how I could. Neither of us made any decisions without consulting the other.  The youngest two were constantly "what am I getting, when am I getting it, what's taking so long, how much is it worth?" In fact, the youngest one was so awful in this respect that we would up having to hire an estate attorney and pay an appraiser.  If it hadn't been for her, we could have handled everything quite nicely ourselves.
 
Would you trust them with things or people most dear to you? Kids, spouses, pets?
One...yes, in a heartbeat.  The other two?  Not while there's life on the planet.
 
Do you think they view you as a good sibling? Do you think you are a good sibling?
I guess it would depend on which one of the three you asked. [] The youngest two were still teenagers when I moved from San Diego to Davis.
 
Joyce

 

Do you have siblings?
Sure do

Full? half? Step?
Full

Brothers..Sisters..Both? 
1 brother, 1 sister both younger

How far apart are you?
We are all almost exactly 3 years apart (i'm 29, sister is 26 and brother is 23

Good relationship or bad?
Pretty good, I'm closer with my brother then my sister, my brother and I are very simmilar, in same field, look alike (except my hair is red), etc.

Are you the favorite, do you feel they are, or is there not one? I think my brother is probably the favorite, he is pretty close to perfect 6'5", blond blue eyed, smart (just got into medical school), an athlete (fantastic pitcher and QB in HS), funny.

Did you feel they were given things from your folks, as far as time or patience or material things, you yourself did not get?
Yeah especially my sister, I think my parents always gave her more then the rest of us mostly because she is pretty helpless in life, they still contribute significantly to her business/life eventhough she is married. I haven't got a cent since medical school graduation day. My brother got a lot more attention then I did too, my parents went to every single game he had growing up and almost never came to hear me sing (I was in 4 choirs and was soprano soloist)

Would you choose them as a friend if you were not related?
Of course, they are awesome, I love my family!!!

Do you have things in common?
Sure, like I said my brother and I are in the same field, we all have the same bizarre sense of humor and like to hang out together when we are all home. We all went out to the bar last week to celebrate my condo together.

Do you trust them to make decisions about your parents when it comes time or do you feel that's more your duty? Why?
I would feel more comfortable taking care of my parents, although I think my brother would do a good job too, those kind of decisions I'm better at. My sister can barely take care of herself, she would crack if I asked her to make those decisions, I couldn't do that to her.

Would you trust them with things or people most dear to you? Kids, spouses, pets?
Yeah, both of them. They are great with kids, pets, spouses/SO. Sometimes my sister seems careless, but when it comes to the important things she is all there!

Do you think they view you as a good sibling? Do you think you are a good sibling?
I'd like to think so, they both call me for advise all the time ha ha. I wish I could help my sister out more financially, I would love to sponsor her someday going to the olympics. She has sponsors now, but I think it would mean a lot to her if I could do it.


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Do you have siblings?
yes

Full? half? Step?
full
Brothers..Sisters..Both? 
Brothers only.

How far apart are you? Do you think this aspect affects your relationship?
6 years younger than oldest 2 years younger than the next one and 1 year older than the last.

Good relationship or bad?
Great with all of them. There are only me and 1 brother left, 2 others died in their 30's[].

Are you the favorite, do you feel they are, or is there not one?
I am the favorite.

Did you feel they were given things from your folks, as far as time or patience or material things, you yourself did not get? 
No

Would you choose them as a friend if you were not related? 
 Do you have things in common?
The 2 brothers that have passed away were great friends of mine. The 1 still living, we get along great, but if we weren't related I don't think we'd have as much in common..

Do you trust them to make decisions about your parents when it comes time or do you feel that's more your duty? Why?
I'd trust him, but I'm closer to my dad, so I would care more.

Would you trust them with things or people most dear to you? Kids, spouses, pets?
No
Do you think they view you as a good sibling? Do you think you are a good sibling? 
Yes, I mind my own business, but I also have (had) their backs if they needed me.

Do you have siblings?
yes
 
Full? half? Step?
Full
 
Brothers..Sisters..Both?
Older sister, younger brother
 
How far apart are you? Do you think this aspect affects your relationship?
Sister is 3 years older, brother is 5 years younger. I think it affected our relationship. I'm much closer with my sister.
 
Good relationship or bad?
Great with my sis, ok with bro.
 
Are you the favorite, do you feel they are, or is there not one?
I am pretty much the favorite.
 
Did you feel they were given things from your folks, as far as time or patience or material things, you yourself did not get?
No, I would say the opposite. My parents went through a divorce my 2nd year in college. Bro was still at home, and basically got ignored because they were too busy fighting and only thinking of their problems. After he turned 18 he dropped out of high school.
 
Would you choose them as a friend if you were not related? IOW Do you have things in common?
Yes, I wish my sister lived closer. (Her DH is in seminary school near Boston.) We like a lot of the same things. Brother? I probably would have never met him.
 
Do you trust them to make decisions about your parents when it comes time or do you feel that's more your duty? Why?
My sister and I, yes. Bro probably doesn't care. I'll probably end up with most of the responsibility because sis lives farther away.
 
Would you trust them with things or people most dear to you? Kids, spouses, pets?
Sis, yes. Bro, no. He's stolen my mom's credit cards in the past.
 
Do you think they view you as a good sibling? Do you think you are a good sibling?
Her view, yes. I love my sister and her family (especially lil Zeke!) Bro... he's hard to get a hold of. He sleeps during the day and is out partying with friends at night. No job. Doesn't ever try to contact me. It's hard to talk to him because he's very defensive. I wish he would just get his sh** straight.
 

 
Do you have siblings?
yes
 
Full? half? Step? 
1 Full
 
Brothers..Sisters..Both? 
Brother
 
How far apart are you? Do you think this aspect affects your relationship?
I am 3 years older than him
 
Good relationship or bad? 
We were great when we were very young, then it was like cats and dogs until we were of college age.  Now, as adults we are okay.  Not the best of friends, but friends none the less.
 
Are you the favorite, do you feel they are, or is there not one? 
He feels that I am our dad's favorite and it is true.  He was thought of first when blame was being handed out for something.  My mom and I have a great relationship, but so does my brother and my mom.
 
Did you feel they were given things from your folks, as far as time or patience or material things, you yourself did not get? 
Sometimes.  He was very sickly as a child and I was healthy as a horse, so I felt that he got their attention a lot as a child.
 
Would you choose them as a friend if you were not related? IOW Do you have things in common? 
I think so.  We are both teachers and have a creative streak runnng through us, thanks to mom.
 
Do you trust them to make decisions about your parents when it comes time or do you feel that's more your duty? Why? 
Yes, absolutely.  He has a great head on his shoulders and looks at things differently than I do.
 
Would you trust them with things or people most dear to you? Kids, spouses, pets? 
Yes, absolutely.  He drove 1/2 hour each way to my house during his summer off of teaching to take care of my puppy.  He would come and let him out and play with him while I was at work. 
 
Do you think they view you as a good sibling? Do you think you are a good sibling?
I think my brother thought I was very controling when we were younger.  I was the typically older sibling...a mini parent always make sure that he was being good.  I also had some characteristics that forced him to stand up for me in front of his friends and peers.  We have never talked about it, so I don't know if it ever bothered him.  Now, I think he would say that I am a good sibling.  He trusts me to care for his high maintenance dog while they are gone.  He also invites just me to his house (not with my parents), which tells me that he likes to spend time with me.   

Do you have siblings?
yes
 
Full? half? Step? 
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Brothers..Sisters..Both? 
sisters only

How far apart are you? Do you think this aspect affects your relationship? 
Ten, 8 and 6 years older.  The middle sis died in 1995 
 
Good relationship or bad? 
Ummmmm, oldest so-so, but more walking on eggshells, closest, good
 
Are you the favorite, do you feel they are, or is there not one? 
Mom I don't think HAS a favorite, but I always felt that I was my Dad's favorite.  But, then we ALL did, so I guess he was really doing something right.
 
Did you feel they were given things from your folks, as far as time or patience or material things, you yourself did not get? 
no, but I'm the "baby" so it's likely that they feel that I got more stuff
 
Would you choose them as a friend if you were not related? IOW Do you have things in common?
No, not the oldest.  She and I are polar opposites.  Yes, the closest although we are more different than we are alike.
 
Do you trust them to make decisions about your parents when it comes time or do you feel that's more your duty? Why?
No, not really.   One is pretty cold and the closest who HAS power of attorney is really an emotional wreck trying to do that job.
 
Would you trust them with things or people most dear to you? Kids, spouses, pets?  
I don't think so.  Closest sis is afraid of my "big, bad dogs" and she won't have an animal in her house, and the other, well she just isn't a dog lover.  Kids, yeah, either of them but then my kids are adults and don't take "crap" from anyone.
 
Do you think they view you as a good sibling? Do you think you are a good sibling?
One does, the other thinks of me as a major pain in her arse, just by virtue of my existence.  She has issues, and it doesn't help that my Dad made such a huge big deal of me "being the most beautiful baby I've ever seen"  She was 10 when I was born, so fully aware that she had even more "competition".  And yeah, I do try to be an excellent baby sister.....just doesn't always turn out that way.

Do you have siblings?
Yes.

Full? half? Step?
Two full brothers, one full sister, and two half sisters (same dad).

Brothers..Sisters..Both?
Both.

How far apart are you? Do you think this aspect affects your relationship?
I'm 28, brother is 25, next bro 20, sister 11, half sisters 5 and 3.

Good relationship or bad?
Great with the sisters, okay with my brothers.

Are you the favorite, do you feel they are, or is there not one?
There's no favorite but I do have somewhat favored role as the eldest.

Did you feel they were given things from your folks, as far as time or patience or material things, you yourself did not get?
Yes, wrt my brothers - leniency, money, and gifts... but they asked for more, while I have always been naturally self-reliant.

Would you choose them as a friend if you were not related? IOW Do you have things in common? 
Wrt brothers again, at various times in life we would be friends or not friends... but in general I think they are both incredibly smart, talented, charismatic, and interesting eople. My sisters are so much younger it is pretty hard to think of them as peers. 

Do you trust them to make decisions about your parents when it comes time or do you feel that's more your duty? Why? 
I could be wrong but I don't see my brothers filling that role. It would be all me. 

Would you trust them with things or people most dear to you? Kids, spouses, pets?
Yes, anything but cash!

Do you think they view you as a good sibling? Do you think you are a good sibling?
This is something I have thought about a lot and that is also hard for me to think about. We have a lot of issues between us having come from a "broken home." Our family life was not always great growing up and all three of us (speaking of my brothers and me again) tended to turn inward and/or away to friends outside the family, creating a huge gap between us. I love them so much, but our communication is quite poor. I wish I had been a better sister and I feel I've fallen short in many ways. But I have no idea how to change the way things are now... it seems difficult now to suddenly say "Hey, I'm ready to be a sister to you now" - especially when I don't sense that they're quite "there" yet. We are all in our 20s and still trying to figure things out. I am close with my sisters but my relationship with them is more like aunt-nieces bc of the age gap.