Prayers Request for DH and I..

    • Gold Top Dog
    ORIGINAL: SaraD

    We are having a very hard time learning how to play together again, even though we can work together very well.
    --Sara


     
    Sometimes playing together is more intimate than working together. Harder to let down the guard. Sounds like to you need to fall IN love again, even though you still love each other! It's all too easy for any marriage to fall into this pattern, even those not interrupted by such a huge stress as deployment to a war zone for one of the partners. Best of luck to you both.
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    I did eventually step away from my marriage back when that thread was going on.  I had just gotten to that point and there was no going back.  I just couldnt revert my brain.  Anyway, we are back together now.  I got some space and cleared my head and went through some things I needed to.  We grew a lot closer during that process.  The fact that we are best friends really shined and we used each other for support which was funny to me because thats what I was leaving.  Things have been much much better lately and Im so glad I did finally do something drastic so that we could pull out of the rut we were in for so long.  I wasnt sure if we'd grow together or apart but it was to the point where it didnt matter... I just knew it had to be done. 
     
    Ill be thinking of you.  Do what you need to do and work things out the best you can.  Its all we can do. 
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    My heart goes out to you and to all the families of men returned from Iraq and Afghanistan. I see a lot of them now that our Stryker Brigade, (at least the ones who survived[:(]), is back at last. It's very difficult and I admire you for sticking with it! More power to you and I hope things get worked out to save your marriage!

    I took Zoloft for five years and weaned myself off it after talking to my doctor. I took about three months to do it and didn't have any side effects (except I did, thank god, get my sex drive back). That was why I wanted to stop taking it. I was tired of that! And I am lucky because I no longer need antidepressants.

    I'll be sending good energy your way.
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    When my ex and I went thru marriage counseling it was just post Desert Storm/Shield and the counselor (Air Force Captain)  told us that he was seeing a lot of problems from the transition issues.  Understandably, many wives/mothers become quite independent while managing things on their own and the adjustment can be difficult.  It's probably been a stressful time for all of you, so it's not hard to imagine the struggles you're facing, but it's wonderful that you're seeking help.  I will keep you both in my thoughts and prayers. 
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    Many prayers for you both.... I'm sure the combo of the two issues don't help each other...
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    You'll be in my prayers as well.
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    You are in my prayers.  Speaking as someone who once had divorce papers signed and ready to be filed - if you are willing to work on it your marriage can be saved.  We just celebrated our 15th not too long okay and things couldn't be better.  It is so hard but worth it!
     
    Good luck and God bless.
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    Good thoughts and prayers coming your way for both you and DH,  Sara.
     
    Joyce


     
    • Gold Top Dog
    ORIGINAL: rredbird

    You are in my prayers.  Speaking as someone who once had divorce papers signed and ready to be filed - if you are willing to work on it your marriage can be saved.  We just celebrated our 15th not too long okay and things couldn't be better.  It is so hard but worth it!

    Good luck and God bless.


    Thank you for that information. That gives me a lot of hope. DH and I have been married for 9 years. We were young when we married and life has thrown us several curve balls. I cannot imagine not having him around for the rest of the ones life with throw at us.

    --Sara
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    I hope everything works out for you. Sending hugs and nuzzles.

    Janice and Rupert
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    Keep at it...
    You are both in our thoughts and prayers...
     
    Talus sends hugs...
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      I cannot imagine not having him around for the rest of the ones life with throw at us.

    I think this says it all!    I hope you can both work it out. I got married very young at 18, right out of  HS. Been married for 41 years, and I can't say how hard it sometimes is to "put up" with eachother...I think many people don't.  I hope you will hang in there, for both your marriage and your withdrawal from you medicine. 
    I'm so sorry that this is a hard time for you.
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    DH and I have been married for 9 years. We were young when we married and life has thrown us several curve balls.


    In our case I thought we had done good by waiting till I was 24 and he was 27 to get married.  Seven years in after the birth of our first child the supposed 'maturity' did not help [:)].   

    Our motto is "We may not like each other every moment of the day but we always will love each other!" 

    We are rooting for you and your DH to pull thru this closer and better then ever!
    • Gold Top Dog
    Sending good thoughts and lots of prayers your way for you & DH.  With both of you working together to get things resolved, I know you can pull thru!