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Strange neighbors

Posted : 4/5/2006 8:35:08 AM

Bit of a long story. I don't know what I should do.

Girl across from me lives with a man in his 40's. They've been here longer than me. Her dashound(spelling) has wondered over a few times and I bring him back to them, so we started talking. Other neighbours gossip about them, saying they are outside fighting all the time, she has a daughter that was taken away from her. And I heard they are into drugs. well I got to talking to them quite a bit and thought they were really nice people, and she knew what people were saying about them, and she said it's unfair how people judge them and think things untrue about them. we live in a very very small town and everyone talks about everyone.

She told me her troubles over losing her daughter, that she was married to a horrible man, and she tried to leave him, and she was suffering from post partum, and he ran off with their daughter. She lost everything, her practice (she was a dr.) and she lost her house. She spent every penny she had trying to get her daughter back into the country. She found them and has been fighting in court for 2 years to get her daughter back to living with her or to at least get visitation. She said he has so much money that he fights everything and she still does not get visits with her daughter. Now this man that is raising her is not her real dad. He adopted her because the real father and this womans husband ran out on her when she was prego. The real father wants nothing to do with any of it. SHe told me the real father was a famous hockey player and she told me his name, she said he was in a serious accident 3 weeks ago and near death. I looked it up and there was no info. on this guy being in an accident. Now as famous as this guy is you would think there would be news of it. But there's not. Then last week she told me she was getting visitation with her daughter starting last weekend. So I called to see how it went and she started crying saying she didn't get her and she has to go back to court again.

She has told me a few stories about neighbors and how cops were swarming the house, and the coroner was called, and she was worried this woman killed her baby. i found out that this was all untrue, that it was just a barn that burnt down. There have been other things she has told me about people around here that I was shocked to hear and found out they were not true.

Sorry this is soooo long. I don't know what to do. She seems like a really nice girl and I feel sorry for her, but I don't know if I believe all of her stories. One minute I think she's ok, and the next I'm thinking she is on something. It scares me a bit because I'm wondering if I should trust these people. They can see my house as I can see theirs, so we know basicaly when we are home and when we have visitors. I NEVER EVER see people at theri house and the windows and doors are always closed up. They have a visious dog in the back that gaurds the garage, because he has a bike in there. I'm really at a lost. I want to be friends with her, but I don't know if I can believe the things she is telling me. I almost wish I knew the whole story on why her daughter was taken away, because I find it very fishy. I don't know, and imput?

tashakota

Posted : 4/5/2006 8:51:56 AM

She sounds to me like a chronic lier. It's very sad when people become this way and I'm not sure how or why they do. If none of what she's told you, that you can look up, has been true, I wouldn't count anything she says as true.

As for being friends, you can be, you just have to take each story with a grain of salt and not think it's true. It's tough to be friends with these kinds of people (if she is) because anything YOU tell her, will get stretched and probably morph into something not true if she tells someone else. So just be careful of what you share with her.

Sandra TH

Posted : 4/5/2006 8:53:07 AM

If it were me I would distance myself from her. Who wants a friend that you can't trust? I would be cordial and still friendly, but I don't think I would want to be "friends" with her (and get sucked into all the drama in her life- who needs that?!).

glenmar

Posted : 4/5/2006 9:00:36 AM

I agree. I'd continue to be friendly, but wouldn't believe a word out of this woman's mouth, nor would I share anything with her.

ron2

Posted : 4/5/2006 10:13:10 AM

There's a guy in my town that couldn't tell the truth if his life depended on it. Example 1 Tyson Chicken is renovating a building and starting in the next town. For a while, I was interviewing to get a job on electrical maintenance, when I didn't have any other work going on. This compulsory liar was telling me that he was getting a maintenance contract with them, whereas I was actually interviewed by the maintenance staff.
Example 2, one day he drives into the local gas station with a Ford Super Duty Crew Cab duallie with 4WD, 6 gear manual and a 6-ton tow package. Call it about $50k worth of truck. He says he won it in a poker game with 8 salesman from a dealership. Yeah, right. Otherwise, he's a nice guy that I wouldn't trust as far as I could throw him. You can be friendly and polite without believing everything they say. Then, you'll question why you need to be friends with them, other than just being neighborly and polite.

fuzzy_dogs_mom

Posted : 4/5/2006 2:00:14 PM

Same here. No harm in letting her vent if it seems she needs someone to listen, but don't let her get you sucked into anything and don't believe any of her stories.

jeano

Posted : 4/5/2006 2:20:59 PM

I'll ditto what everyone said about keeping your distance. It might not be a bike in the garage, it might be a drug lab, or a bunch of marijuana plants, whatever. A vicious dog to guard a motorcycle? I don't think so.

A real doctor doesn't lose her practice because of a divorce. But being a "doctor" could explain having needles around....

The neighbors might be speculating (just as I am) about the weird things that they have seen over there, and certainly people have picked up the something is "not right." But no one really knows, so the rumor mill goes into full swing...

All in all, a good thing to stay away from. I can almost predict that if you keep talking to her that suddenly, in the middle of the night sometime, she'll come pounding at your door asking for help..... I've seen this sort of stuff before.....stay friendly, but cut the conversations down to Hi and Bye!

PS: An almondlike smell coming from the house would mean it's a meth lab. Report any weird smells like that to the police!

marlania

Posted : 4/5/2006 2:40:06 PM

Well, this beats any crazy neighbor story I've ever posted. lol

I guess it would be okay to remain friendly, but I think I'd also start to distance myself from all that. How suspicious.

magilacudy

Posted : 4/5/2006 3:17:48 PM

Thanks everyone for the great tips. I really am freaked out by these people. I could write a book on the things she has come up with. Thanks again.

luv_my_3_labs

Posted : 4/5/2006 6:00:44 PM

I would stay as far away as possible. Who knows what she will tell your very small town about you. I have a co-worker like this. Thank goodness he only works part-time. If I had to put up with him all day I'd shoot myself. You can't call on these people if you can catch them in a lie. They just lie to cover up the lie. Sad really... They must have really low self esteem or something.

schleide

Posted : 4/5/2006 7:14:37 PM

Oh my... must be interesting at least [

] I too would stay away... civil and distantly friendly (no reason not to like you) but far away... people like that creep me out!!

lorib

Posted : 4/5/2006 9:45:29 PM

Have you priced a Harley lately? Some of them cost more than nice cars![sm=eek.gif]

I agree--be polite and listen very carefully to what she says. See how often she trips herself up. I would suspect you'll hear ALL sorts of stories and a few of them might acutally be true![

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loveukaykay

Posted : 4/6/2006 12:49:59 AM

I agree that should you get close with this person, you could be dragged into something. She most certainly could come knocking at your door needing help... or you may become involved in her crazy stories somehow.