Anyone feeling post holiday blues?

i usually dont get the holiday blues/blahs until after new years. i know what you mean though. i get them almost every year. some of the reasons may sound trivial to other people, but at the time the reasons seem important to me.

i lived through lots of years with no SO, so i have felt that one for sure. now i have one, and things are going exactly great any more. so i am kinda down about that. both our cats died recently, so i have been pretty sad about that for a while now, and i am sure it will add to the holiday blues.

sometimes i feel like life is just happening around me and i feel kinda detached from what is happening. sometimes i feel like, last year was crap and next year doesnt look like it will be any better or different. i thought by this point in my life i would have money to travel and live, but we havent been on a vacation since our honeymoon in 2002. next year doesnt look any better at this point.

my wife handles our finances. which i am grateful for. i hate dealing with bills and money. but sometimes, i feel like i have no control over what is happening with our life anymore. so much of our money goes towards paying outstanding debt and the mortgage, it seems like there is nothing left over (which is true some months). lots of times i hate the fact that we bought a house. we did have some money when we were renting. plus all the work involved with maintenance to the house and the yard. god do i hate yard work.

add all the regular stuff that gets me bummed out with the fact that there is holiday stuff that bums me out and i get pretty depressed sometimes. i know that most of the stuff i listed probably seems pretty trivial to most people, and it is. doesnt change the fact that it depresses me.

thanks for letting me be a sad sac. i wish i had good advice for ya.

Nah, I don't need advice, but thanks for thinking about me.  Everything you decribed, I get it.  Sometimes it just snowballs. 
 
I just needed to get it off my chest.  Now, I am thinking about how to get myself out of the dumps.  I hope you find a way out, too.
 
Sue

I am usually glad it's over but not because it's bad...smply because it is a big deal Holiday...and to make it thru yet again is always nice.
 
I usually jump from NYE to Valentine's day which is a fun day for me so that helps! Then there's St Paddy's day...which is great...my daughter's bday i in April along with several others in the family, and my bday comes in May.
 
I'd say the month of Dec is one of the quieter ones for us actually...aside from Xmas there's not a lot going on in the way of birthdays or other things.

I think blahs is a better description than blues.  Christmas lights just don't seem as festive after Christmas as they do before and I'm starting to want to get everything put away and the furniture moved back where it belongs ... but I really don't want to drag all those boxes out of the closet and I'm still trying to figure out where I can put the tree so I can leave it up all year and not have to cram it into a box ... and the wind is blowing like crazy and it's COLD!  I know - I shouldn't be griping about cold when some of you guys are up to your ears in snow.  But dang it, it's 28 right now and expected to warm up to 30 by morning - and for Californias' central valley, that's pretty nippy. I'm sure my bougainvilla is as dead as a doornail ... and I don't even care.[&:] Yeah.  "Blahs" is a good description.
 
Joyce

How could I feel the blues if I didn't even feel the Christmas spirit?  I enjoyed Christmas this year, but the "fun" fades more and more with each passing year.  The tree and decorations are still up, but I can't stand to look at them much longer.  That, and Trixie keeps flinging the lower ornaments off and climbing the tree. [:@]  It looks like crap, but I've given up.  Each time I replace an ornament, she knocks it off and rolls it across the floor.  

just a little, was too much people for awhile, now not enough []

I agree it's a little sad now that Christmas is over. It's like all the shopping and planning and holiday christmas poarties are over, now back to our everyday lives. i usually love driving around and looking at Christmas lights, even after Christmas, but this year it wasnt much fun. But, coming up we have Valentines Day which may or may not make anyone exited. and yes joyce I agree it has been FREEZING here. I live half hour from Davis so I know exactly what you mean. I really wish I lived in Southern California. People always asume it is warm in California haha not northern California!

Actually, the weather isn't all that perfect in southern CA either.  I grew up in San Diego right on the beach (Ocean Beach) and I can remember having out of season Santa Ana winds that drove the temp up to 85 or 90 on Christmas Day. And in the summer, you can easily go nearly two weeks without being able to see the sun through the fog. I think I just need to be living on some tropical island with a constant temperature of 72. []
 
Joyce

Oh man, I am so needing some lifting up.  Today has been the worst I think.  I don't have a job anymore, so I'm looking for one.  I was making a decent amount of money, credit debt was just about paid off and I was planning to sign up for agility classes again in January, but then I got laid off.  And the one job that I have the potential to get pays about half what I was making.  Which means all the stuff I was planning to do this year is out the window because I will barely have enough to cover my half of the bills.  BF makes plenty of money but we've always just split the bills and paid our share.  Now I'm going to have to actually ASK if I want to buy something because I won't be able to afford it.  I can't sign up for classes because I dont' have the money.  I can't attend any more trials because I can't afford the entry fees.  I will barely have a $100 bucks to my name each month to spend on me, let alone anything else .[:'(]

Which means I won't be able to do all the things I took for granted, like eating out once a week or so.  Like buying the dogs treats and toys whenever I got the urge.  I won't be able to buy the A-frame I wanted or the full sized teeter because I can't afford it.  I may not even get the job, which means I'm on unemployment with no health insurance.  AND i think I'm getting sick.  I'm all drippy and phlegmy.
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I really wanted to just drink myself stupid tonight but I didn't.  I vacuumed the house instead.  Then I put together the miter saw I got for Christmas.  That's another thing, I won't be able to put away as much money for my family for Christmas next year and not only that but I won't be able to spend as much on birthdays this year.

And I know I don't have it so bad.  But I'm a very independent person and having to ask someone else for help is tough for me to do.  and I think that's going to make me resent my BF.  I've already had to ask him for help to pay for my van. I HATE that.   I've worked for several years to get to where I was and now I may not have that anymore and that sucks.  Being independent with a good job has helped me to be who I want to be and to be able to do the things I want to do.  And agility is NOT cheap! []  I don't like the idea of someone else having control over what I do.  Ever since I've left home, it's been me and what I want to do and how I want to do it and I've worked to the point where I could do that.  Man I just want to cry.  all the time.

Holiday blahs...big time this year.  Lost Winnie,  retired Hubby.  I finally got up the gumption to go to the Vet's today and pay up.  About lost it one more time.

On the brighter side, new granddaughter has gained almost a pound in 3 weeks.  I think she is the only thing keeping me on the sane side now.

Oh, yeah.  Apart from being in the hospital during party season and having a MASSIVE falling out with one of my SO's oldest friends on Christmas eve, I am about to start another New Year sick and in pain, with still no answers as to what is wrong with me.  I need to gear up for wedding plans, but I also have to focus all my energy on my health.  I am feeling spread a little too thinly.

I am, however, grateful to have my SO, and Ben, and certain friends who make sure I smile every day.  I need to remind myself often where I might be without them.

Kate

I am definately feeling it! I was so excited over Christmas (it was our first Christmas as a married couple), and now it's gone. I am no longer excited over anything. LoL. With us, since we stay in hotels all time, it's hard to stay busy anyway. So, when a holiday rolls around we are really into it. Hmmm, next holidays are New Year's and Valentines Day! So, I guess I can look forward to those...LoL.

I'm probably different from you all in this one aspect. I absolutely hate seeing xmas outdoor decorations. Dont get me wrong, I like christmas, just the outdoor decorations!

Leslie, I'm so sorry to hear about your job.  I know what you mean about being independent.  I've had to ask my parents for money for simple things like groceries in the last six months and it really gets to me.  I've learned how to value shop, like going to dollar stores. 
 
Kate, I read your post about the friend blow up.  It is so hard to have something going on with your own body and not know what it is.  So frustrating.  I hope the new year brings good news or any news for you. 
 
Oh Marty, I read about Winnie.  I am so sorry for your loss.  One of the first times I brought Buddy to the vet, a man was at the frong desk doing the same thing you did, finish paying the vet bill for the pet they had just lost.  []  He was also returning food that hadn't been opened.    So sad. 
 
Joyce, I know what you mean.    The blahs
 
Roxie, is Trixie a cat or a dog?  I didn't even put a tree up this year because of Buddy.  He is only 8mo. and I thought I was inviting trouble.  Either he would knock the ornaments off, eat the tinsel or pee on the tree!  lol  I went with a table top one and other decorations. 
 
I hope everyone starts to feel better soon.  I feel like I am on my way to at least feeling like I did before the holidays.  Whether that is normal or not, at least it is comfortable. 
 
Sue