We need some powerful prayers please

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    Hoping things are continuing to improve.
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    Glenda, I'm just now seeing your original post.  I'm so sorry to hear about this terribly frightening situation with your Mom!  What a miracle she was able to call for help.  I can't imagine the strength she had to muster to get where she could summon help.  I'm sending my thoughts and prayers for you, your Mom, and all your family.  She's in good hands now, so hopefully you'll continue to see improvement.  Hugs to you - we know you need as many as possible.
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    Well, I'm about to start blubbering all over the thread......
     
    Medically, Mom is pretty stable.  But, she's like a child right now.  It remains to be seen how far back she'll come.  She's very confused, rather argumentative (while the eeg was being done the gal wanted her to close her eyes and Mom would say "no, I don't WANT to close my eyes".....and it just breaks my heart to see this strong and independent woman so childlike and needy.  But there is still an excellent chance that she'll continue to progress mentally.  But gosh, right now is pretty hard.
     
    I called the hospital to see if anyone was still in the room with her so I could tell her goodnite.....ICU patient phones aren't left plugged in routinely.  My son called me back and said they were going to have to use restraints because she is hell bent on getting out of bed so she can do the books for the Church District.  When I left, she was happily jotting things down on a paper.....entering credits in "the books" and quite content to be able to write the things down (not real ledgible)....and I guess she got herself to the point that she felt she needed to get UP to do the books....
     
    I need sleep...a drink...a cig maybe.....altho a funny cig would work better........
     
    I'm not feeling so strong right now.
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    i hope she is ok..

     I know how something like this can affect you...early last year my mother suffered a major stroke...it was harsd seeing her in that state just after it happened..she needed to regsain her walking and speaking ....she aged quickly after that happened,,,

     anyway,i hope for the best for you all..
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    Oh gosh, sorry.  The internist says she had a stroke, the nuerologist says she didn't.  The kidney specialist said that her pituatary gland is producing too much of the hormone that the kidneys release that affect BP and basically we have to accept that 150 or 160 isn't such a bad thing and that the docs need to stop trying to KEEP it at 110.....he WAS rather annoyed that she'd been put back on lasix...he took her OFF of it more than a month ago because her sodium keeps bottoming out....but was careful to say that Dr. Dork (who is highly respected) likely did it with the best intentions....
     
    They are having to have a nurses aid sit with her over nite tonite because she is determined to get out of bed.  Ummm, aside from the fact that she could fall again, she's got a catheder in...she's in ICU......oye.
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    Hang in there Glenda!  She will come through this.  If she is in any way as strong and stubborn as you are she will not let you guys see her digress anymore!  [:D]  My thoughts and prayers are still with you and your family.  I actually dreamed about it last night.  For some reason I was at Fort Knox and Shadow was there too and I had to unlock all three locks to the door to let the dog out to get some food.  Crazy, I know...but you are in my thoughts all the same.  We are here for you and will always lend an ear or an eye.... 
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    It's  ok that you don't feel so strong now.  That's completely normal with all that you've gone thru.  And I don't just mean this lastest, but the whole string of one after another events.  Give yourself permission to have an all-out cry-a-thon. I know it will make you even more tired, but some of this stuff you've probably got stuffed  in you needs to come out.  Seems like you are always trying to be strong - and that's good,  you are a strong person!!  But don't go thinking that you are so strong that you can't let out some of the fears. Let those fears go.  Don't hold onto to them. Sometimes being strong is letting go of fears, and not keeping them inside us.  I think that sometimes, in the back of our minds, we think that if we "don't think of such-and such", then it will be fine.  But, then we are trying to "hide" a fear away, and if it's hiding somewhere in us, then it's taking up mental energy and causing stress somewhere in our bodies.  Lately, life seems to be a series of challenges.  Give yourself permission to cry out some of the frustrations and fears and then you can go back to being strong and in-charge of those things you can take care of without worrying about and spending needed energy on things you cannot do anything about.
     
     And pray for strength and guidence to know what to do. I have found that the Lord is great at holding onto my hand when I am too weak and confused to hold onto His. And, honestly, even looking back on some things in my life, I can't believe I walked thru it.  But I did walk thru it one tiny, tiny step at a time, because He kept ahold of me the entire time.  I had His strength to help me thru.  Thing is, tho, I never got an "abundance" in advance.  I would only get enough to get me thru one single day until I woke up the next morning and had to ask for more.  I guess that was His way of reminding me of who really is in control - and that's a good thing b/c that means HE can take care of all the things that I can't take care of.  And, that's quite a bit of stuff that I simply cannot do.
     
    Only God knows what will happen.  But, to try and give you encouragement I will tell you I know of people who have went thru similiar circumstances - where their mom was so deep in needing everyday help that it was scarey and very exhausting.  But, in time, it did get back to normal.  I truly hope the same for your mom.
     
    Forget the cigs and drink.  Go pray, cry, and get some sleep.  There will definately be others praying for you and your mom as well, so please don't feel like you are alone.  You're not alone.  You have a lot of friends who care.
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    Glenda, how gut wrenching this all must be. Whenever I or anyone in my family has had a medical crisis, I armed myself with information. I searched the internet and anywhere else I could for information so that I could not only understand but contribute to a conversation with the medical professionals. Knowledge is power they say, and for me it's also been an emotional salve. When my FIL was suspected of having pancreatic cancer a few years ago, and not really expected to live, DH and I learned everything we could and it really helped us to know what to expect during the surgery. We actually explained the surgery and possible outcomes to him better than the surgeon! Turns out he fooled the top specialist in the field at Johns Hopkins and it wasn't cancer afterall but a cyst, although he did lose part of his pancreas. Anyway, my rambling point is that it may help you to search exhaustively with all the info you have, and then when those doctors get into dueling diagnoses, you won't be so caught in the drift between them. 
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    My heart goes out to you. I`ve been there with my mom.
     
    Lots more prayers and more candles lit from here.
     
    God be with you - your family - and your mom at this time.
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    Wishing the best from here!
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    Hang in there Glenda, remember your "strong like bull." [;)]
    Sending you some more prayers and candles.

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    Pirate wants you to know if you need someone small and fluffy to snuggle up with for a while, he's available. And I am thinking good stuff for you too.
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    I need sleep...a drink...a cig maybe.....altho a funny cig would work better........

    I'm not feeling so strong right now.


    Whatever gets you thru this [:)].   Take care of yourself, even though it's hard to even consider your own well-being when you're facing this.  It won't help your mom for you to be run down or stressed out.  It's hard to take a moment to focus on yourself at this time, but even if it means sitting alone in the bathroom and having a good cry, then do that.

    I hope your situation is different than mine was with my dad, but they never, ever could say if it was a mini-stroke, or something else.  I guess in the end it doesn't matter, but it really bothered me that they ran test after test and never seemed to reach any conclusion, which meant they really never knew exactly what they were treating.  Frustrating, to say the least [:@]
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    Glenda prayers sent. Strength to you and no cigs!
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    I don't drink, so that wasn't really an option.  Maybe a glass of wine on a holiday, but that's about it.  The cigs tho have been getting hit pretty hard.
     
    Mom didn't have a good nite.  Her thumb has been bothering her, the one with the chipped bone, and she keeps removing the splint from it even tho they wrapped it up almost like a cast.  She pulls the gauze off to remove the splint...I think she wants to use that hand...she is right handed.  She slept very fitfully, did continue to want to get out of bed and along with her lucid moments, had plenty of not so lucid ones.  Guess we won't be seeing any improvement today with her not sleeping......hopefully she'll rest during the day, but I'm not holding my breath.