Lynn
Posted : 12/18/2006 9:55:53 PM
It's
ok that you don't feel so strong now. That's completely normal with all that you've gone thru. And I don't just mean this lastest, but the whole string of one after another events. Give yourself permission to have an all-out cry-a-thon. I know it will make you even more tired, but
some of this stuff you've probably got stuffed in you needs to come out. Seems like you are always trying to be strong - and that's good,
you are a strong person!! But don't go thinking that you are so strong that you can't let out some of the fears. Let those fears go. Don't hold onto to them. Sometimes being strong is
letting go of fears, and not keeping them inside us. I think that sometimes, in the back of our minds, we think that if we "don't think of such-and such", then it will be fine. But, then we are trying to "hide" a fear away, and if it's hiding somewhere in us, then it's taking up mental energy and causing stress somewhere in our bodies. Lately, life seems to be a series of challenges. Give yourself permission to cry out some of the frustrations and fears and then you can go back to being strong and in-charge of those things you can take care of without worrying about and spending needed energy on things you cannot do anything about.
And pray for strength and guidence to know what to do. I have found that the Lord is great at holding onto my hand when I am too weak and confused to hold onto His. And, honestly, even looking back on some things in my life, I can't believe I walked thru it. But I did walk thru it one tiny, tiny step at a time, because He kept ahold of me the entire time. I had His strength to help me thru. Thing is, tho, I never got an "abundance" in advance. I would only get enough to get me thru one single day until I woke up the next morning and had to ask for more. I guess that was His way of reminding me of who really is in control - and that's a good thing b/c that means HE can take care of all the things that I can't take care of. And, that's quite a bit of stuff that I simply cannot do.
Only God knows what will happen. But, to try and give you encouragement I will tell you I know of people who have went thru similiar circumstances - where their mom was so deep in needing everyday help that it was scarey and very exhausting. But, in time, it did get back to normal. I truly hope the same for your mom.
Forget the cigs and drink. Go pray, cry, and get some sleep. There will definately be others praying for you and your mom as well, so please don't feel like you are alone. You're not alone. You have a lot of friends who care.