We need some powerful prayers please

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    We need some powerful prayers please

    The phone rang around 5 this morning and I knew.  Mom had managed to activate her lifeline and it called 911 and then my sister....didn't call me because it was knocked over....but sis arrived to find Mother standing beside the bed stark naked and covered in blood.  She went to the ER by ambulance and she had a seizure in the ER.  When I arrived she was sedated to prevent more seizures and intubated.  Sis couldn't see her that way and stayed near the end of the bed...I sat a held Mom's hand and talked to her.  Once she started waking up they did extabate her and admitted her to ICU.  She has her moments of being lucid, then she'll insist that she wants to watch channel 1147 or that she wants to watch her blood pressure on TV or that that particular number IS her BP.
     
    We don't know what happened or for how long my Mother was injured.  It's apparent from the blood on the exercise bike, on the carpet and the bed, not to mention the massive amounts of blood on HER that, oh, and the broken full length mirror that she fell and hurt herself and somehow managed to crawl to access her lifeline.....the blood trail tells us that.
     
    She's alive and relatively stable.  She's not lucid at this point, not for long, and today is critical to her eventual recovery.  In a way it's probably best that she isn't real aware.  This poor woman looks like someone took a baseball bat to her.  There are NO broken bones, save a chipped bone in her thumb, miraculously, but she has multiple lacerations and is bruised head to toe.  They are waiting on the EEG before they will give her pain meds.  She is doing a jerking motion pretty regularly too.  This could be a post seizure thing or it could be drug withdrawal.  Her sodium and potasium are both quite low again.
     
    I was with Mother yesterday and she went from mostly OK steadily downhill all afternoon.  The hospital calls and activates her bp machine at 7......she sat adding the 3 numbers forever and couldn't....Mom is a math whiz and the treasurer for her church district.  Couldn't add those 3 numbers (upper,lower and pulse rate) and why she felt the need to I'm not sure, nor could she tell me.  Then when she tired of the numbers she opened the bottle to take a zoloft.  I asked her about it and she said she was supposed to take one.  Told her that if she needed it it would be in her pill sorter and had to SHOW her that it was before she finally put the pill back in the bottle.  My being there seemed to agitate her so I came home but put Sis on alert, and we also decided that NO bottles of pills would be left in her house, just the sorters and a few of the one med she IS supposed to take if the BP is real high.  The doc is now saying that Mom may not be able to be in the house without live in help and he's leaning towards either assisted living or a nursing home depending on how far back she can come.
     
    She IS in there....I caught a number of glimpses of her buried in that fog and haze today.....but she's pretty far under all of that.  I don't want her to suffer or be afraid, and she was so afraid and confused when she started coming around to find that tube in her throat.  All I can ask for prayer wise is that God's will be done and that if it is time for her to go home, that she go gently and without fear.
     
    Thanks you guys.
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    Oh Glenda, dear God, sweetie, I wish I could give you hug! That poor thing, I agree, I cannot stand to see anyone frightened. How horrible for all of you, I am lighting a candle and praying. Try to hang in there and stay w/ us and just keep talking ,get it out.
    I can't believe w/all that blood that she didn't need stitches or worse. My heart is breaking for you, honey. I went through the same thing w/ my grandmother.
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    Glenda - we are praying for you!!!  {{{{{HUGS}}}}
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    Because she's a math whiz her mind wants to retreat to the calming exercise of adding numbers -- and it frustrates her that she can't and it's like being caught in a 'dream' you can't wake up from but you can't 'win' at either.
     
    You might want to cover the BP monitor  or at least turn it so she can't 'see' it and be plagued by it.
     
    glenda I'm praying for you and with you -- not just for you but for Mom and the whole family.  And particularly what you said -- for her not to linger 'in fear' -- thta's a very worthwhile prayer. 
     
    Sounds like maybe she fell repeatedly -- or had enough of a seizure to threash around pretty good and get hurt repeatedly in the process.  But thank heavens she had enough grit to get TO that lifeline and get it activated. 
     
    My prayers will keep on -- holler if I can help my friend.  I mean that.  Callie
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    Glenda, I wish I could just reach  through cyber-space and give you and your mom a big hug. It's so hard to know which is worse, saying good-bye or knowing they're in pain and afraid.  I'll keep a candle lit for you and pray for either a recovery for your mom or a gentle, peaceful end - whatever the Good Lord wants for her.
     
    Joyce
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    We need an emoticon for big hugs. Thinking good thoughts.
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    You guys are the best.  Callie, thank you for the email and prayer.....it broke the dam and I've cried my heart out.  I've had some breakthrough tears, but nothing like reading your email, and nothing like reading this thread.  And I needed to cry, but I just couldn't.  Sharon needed my strength, MOTHER needed by strength, especially when she was fighting against the vent and I needed to remind her to relax and let the machine help her for a bit longer...and I even felt enormous compassion for my oldest sister who finally deigned to come down off her throne and come home to see her Mother......I'm the tough old broad who can take whatever life throws at me, but golly, I needed to let someone help me for a few minutes.  Thank you all.....
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    Prayers for you and all your family, for courage and strength and hopes for a good outcome.
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    Gosh Glenda, I am so very sorry that your mom and your family are going thru this and I truly feel the agony and worry you're feeling.  My dad passed away Jan 6th last year, but his last 2 years were very much like what your mom's been going thru the last several months.  He has a dizzy spell (seizure, TIA...we'll never know) and called my aunt, who called the ambulance.  He never went back home and that was 2 yrs ago this month.  His BP was like your moms.  Bounced all over the place.  When I flew home, I found a long sheet of paper where he'd been taking it every hour or so and writing it down.  I'm sure he was worried.  He also had the array of pills and I feared what might happen in those moments of confusion.  The Dr. said there was no way he could go home.  My brother and I fought because I wanted to move him near me.  I'd found a place and was ready to go, but it never happened.  I flew down to see him every few months (it's horrible to be so far away [:(]), and when I went last, he seemed to know who I was one minute and the next was telling a story I never did understand.   Gosh...my thoughts are so with you and I hope that you can all pull together and find the best possible answers for how to deal with this.  It can be quite a family struggle, but it sounds like you and your sister are in agreement on most things, so that should make it easier.  I'll be saying some heartfelt prayers for all of you during this difficult time.
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    The Alpha of all Alphas is good that way, Glenda -- and if we can just be obedient to that little voice that says "do __________- NOW" and not be bothered by "what will they think of me" stuff. 
     
    It all comes in fits and spurts and feels like a flood most of the time -- we're here.  It's incredible how wonderful the internet can be for support.  I'll "prop you up" ANY time Glenda.
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    Will ;pray for you, your mom, and your entire family. 
     
    {{{HUGS}}}
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    I am so sorry that you are having to go through all of this. We are wishing your mother the best recovery possible. Please take care.
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    Unfortunately, my little voice keeps screaming "buck up...you've gotta get everyone else through this...YOU are the strong one".......somewhere along the line I became "the strong one" the one everyone else could count on.  When my Dad was so ill that last summer Mom would call me, with a newborn, almost 3 hours away, instead of my sister who was 1/2 hour away.  Because I was the strong one.  When my sister died Mom was at my house, and I was there for her, flew with her to where my sister had lived, helped her to deal with everything, found the life insurance, cancelled the credit cards....my oldest sister was too freaked out to function and my closest sister is pretty fragile.  So that leaves me.  Mom looks to me for strength...has for years.  And ya'll are helping me get that strength back.
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    So sorry for these profoundly difficult circumstances - you have my thoughts and prayers.
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    I'm so very sorry to read this Glenda.  I'm sending good thoughts, prayers, and {{{Hugs}}}.