Kidstuff-Kids saying inappropriate stuff to each other

    • Gold Top Dog

    Kidstuff-Kids saying inappropriate stuff to each other

    How do you deal with it?
    Friday Lily came home from school kinda surly which was unusual for her. She was upset some other little girl got some award and she didn't, she's like that so I gave her the "sore loser" speech and she chilled out in her room.
     
    Well then come later in the same evening and she kinda randomly and softly says to me "Momm xxxx(boy in her class)..said his Mom died because she got shot in the eye..." I said :"WHAT???"...she she said it for me again...and gave these big eyes like she was worried I'd drop dead right there or something...I told her what he said was inappropriate and kinda mean to tell anyone...that IF it was true that should be private, etc....she seemed better, but later as we drove home from a store she was kinda making comments fishing to find out what would happen if "two cars didn't stop at the stoplight"...or etc...kinda dark wanderings leading to possibly hurt people or worse etc. We finally said she should not worry, Daddy was a very good driver and we should talk about other things.
     
    She was fine the next day as we drove to see her grandparents and young cousin and uncle and aunt in OK. She loves that so it seemed she let the other stuff go.
     
    This boy is one she's mentioned to me before gets sent out of the class a lot etc.
     
    I wasn't sure if it was the right thing to do but I did speak with her teacher today about it....she was quite shocked and no his Mother isn't dead...so??? I figured it might be a little boy trying to scare a little girl...scaring is one things but traumatizing is quite another....she said she was going to talk with the counselor at the school about it and go fro there and she apologized (for what? she can't control everything a kids says, but it was a nice gesture). I just don't want it to continue as Lily is 'soft' when it comes to bad things happening and tho she understands stuff happens...she is a worrier and it tends to make her entire mood black...because it lingers.
     
    Was this the proper tact to take you think?
    • Gold Top Dog
    I would bring it up to the teacher for the simple fact that something may be going on with the boy in his household that's leading him to say things like that. You never know, his mom could be a victim of a domestic violence situation and he's hearing things like that from the abusers mouth. Then again, it could be that the boy has a very active imagination. Either way, something should be said to find out what's going on and to nip it in the bud if necessary.
    • Gold Top Dog
    I agree with Meilani - this little guy could have some pretty "inappropriate" stuff going on at home that it wouldn't hurt to have someone check into.

    Joyce