Something to think about...

[sm=blush.gif]  Awwww, shucks.  Thanks.

Ok, I am usually a pretty "middle of the road" kinda gal, but I really feel the need to add my [sm=2cents.gif].  Especially after we get this great new board and the first things that are coming out are nasty and ugly.
 
This board really is a great place to learn, and I have learned an awful lot lurking around here.  But, we are all ADULTS and we need to ACT like it.  If you are mad about something then take it private, please do not take it to the whole group, we aren't in Jr. high and don't need to "pick sides".  We should be able to discuss topics and if you don't agree with someone else's opinion, then agree to disagree.  Give basic respect and you will get it.  Maybe people need to act like their dogs and keep their yap shut and  listen, you might learn something or speak up with CONSTRUCTIVE criticism.  Like in the real world, if you don't like someone or something then avoid it.  It is pretty easy to scroll past the post of someone who you know generally offends you. 
 
On the other hand, if you are posting with the intent of stirring something up, please do not spoil it for the rest of us who are here to enjoy the board and the input from others.  Part of the learning process is getting information from 2 sides of the fence, if you have something to contribute, then by all means do, but if you are going to be ugly and obstinate please take your *&(@ somewhere else or start an individual thread and let people post to you, please do not hijack someone else's thread that is genuinely wanting information.
 
Unfortunately this board has lost some people who had various opinions, agreed and disagreed with many people on the board.  Now, maybe if people start acting like adults, then we will gain either those people back or others who will be able and willing to contribute.  Ok, now I'll step down off my soapbox!  [sm=soap%20box.gif]
 
Now EVERYONE behave!!!!!  (said in the best mom voice I can muster without having any kids)[]

Well said.

Thanks Glenda, I was a bit worried about hitting that send button.
 
PS ~ my mom's name is Glenda and my middle name is Lee.  []

Try having THAT as your name and living in the deep south.  [sm=rofl.gif]  GlendaLee WHAT??  What's your LAST name sugah???

I am always sad to hear that ANY member is leaving. I have always believed that the more people that touch in my life - the richer I am. No matter ones style, opinions, communication skills, knowledge, experience etc. you can always learn something - even if it is just tolerance!

A common word used by many to describe idog is "FAMILY" and I think that is why is it so sad when one of our members leave. However as the old saying goes - "you can pick your friends, but not your family" so for me I accept everyone on this board, warts and all. There are lots of times posters make the hair on the back of my neck stand up but I only really get angry when I see posters repeatedly trying to run others off. It's my only pet peeve with idog.

Glenda, I liked your post a lot!

Glenda, my 22 year old daughters name is Bonnilee, she swore when she turned 18 she was going to change it.  She said when she shortened it to Bonni, she sounded "old" and with using the "i" on the end she could be a stripper, so what a "no win" situation.  Then a boy told her he like the name Bonnilee and guess what she likes it now!

I don't USE my middle name.  It was my paternal Grandfathers middle name....so Glenda Dee, although pretty odd, was what they picked for me (Dad's middle name was Glen)....but then add on my married last name and we just leave that old middle name OUT!

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Emma's mom,
Hello, my name is Terri and I have been reading and sporadically participating on I-dog since 11/2003.  I have 2 dogs and have learned a great deal from many people on this board. 
 
Now that introductions are done, as I am a member of this board and would like to continue to enjoy the board I believe that I have a right to my opinion and to be able to voice that opinion. 
 
I am very sorry for the loss of Brenda and the rest of the folks that have sadly decided to leave the board.  I, as well as many other people I am sure, have learned a lot from them and would have enjoyed their continued postings but as others have done and will continue to do, I decided to share my feelings.  I tried to be respectful of Brenda and those that chose to leave with her, but I also felt that there were lessons to be learned and I wanted to share those with others.  If I have offended you by my posting I am sorry to have done so, but I stand my what I said and feel that I was neither disrespectful nor out of place.
 
Terri

ORIGINAL: trina

Erl, You dont *need* to find anywhere else, we still got Glenda. and other members who give great advice!

 
ditto [sm=wink2.gif]
 
 

I believe this has been taken too far.  This person of discussion even stated she did not enjoy the forum anymore.  I think her information and personality will be missed by many, but I also think it is good for HER to have left.  It isn't healthy to get so frustrated and angry at people over the internet. 
 
But, I also must say perhaps the Admin and Moderators should think about what has happened, and about how to prevent it in the future.  Life is all a mixture of cause and effect.  Perhaps if we work to eliminate those causes, these effects that are causing so much a commotion on the board can be avoided.  And, the causes, IMO, are the people that have been *repeatedly* warned and warned and outright rude to other members.  Perhaps those other members should learn a lesson in self control, but I don't even think the most self controlled person I know could withstand some of the abuse and harrassment by some on the forums.  So, why ban the people that are simply defending themselves when you can actually SOLVE the problem by getting rid of the ROOT of the problem? 
 
-tessa's wonderful opinion on this whole ordeal that I happened to miss because I had not logged in for a few days!

I agree there are still tons of very helpful people on the board and I am very upset to see Brenda and Gina leave.  Brenda has been especially helpful to me because she too has small dogs.  I consider Glenda a huge wealth of info, but even she has stated her dogs are large and cannot always speak for toy dogs.  Brenda also was the keeper of all of Janet's (who has also disappeared ) links.  I don't really understand what happened that now she is banned but it upsets me.
 
Also, for the people who regularly post the comments and threads that start the uproar... find a blog on another site to share your daily antics and post the web site in your profile.  Then, your followers can get a daily update as wanted and only post here for useful information.
 
Everyone else... choose carefully what you read, don't read, etc.  This should be a happy place and by deciding what you read, you can help keep it that way!

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Janet had also sent me the links and her email should still be buried in a file someplace.  IF I can find it, someone needs to volunteer to be the "keeper of the links" since I'm not the worlds most organzied person....