tacran
Posted : 8/19/2006 12:57:06 PM
In theory, I think it's okay, but if I had to do it now, I'm not sure I would. When I was single (many years ago!), my friend and I decided we'd sat at home on Saturday nights way too long, and we'd take matters into our own hands and do the asking ourselves. We had a large group of friends that included guys, but they never looked upon us as dating material for some reason. Anyway, we made a pact that we'd both ask a guy out (as we said, "Hey, it's the 1980's -- modern times, and we can do the asking!").
We each had our eyes on a specific guy in our respective workplaces, and we chose the fateful day to try our plan. Her attempt was an immediate failure - despite this guy seemingly flirting with her for a few weeks, when she asked him to go for a drink after work, he flat out declined. No lie, like he was busy or had a girlfriend, just "no thanks, I'm not interested." She was crushed, and felt like a loser every time she saw him after that. I had a bit more success -- the guy accepted my invitation to go to a comedy show. We'd been very good work friends for months and I'd been told he liked me, but after that "date," he avoided me like the plague at work. We both ended up moving on to other jobs shortly after, and one of his friends later told me he (the guy) was too old-fashioned to be comfortable with someone who was taking the lead.
So, while I think it's a good idea, my suggestion would be to make sure you're asking someone you think will be receptive, and be prepared for some disappointment. Honestly, that was the only time in my life I attempted it, and I've got a new respect for what men have had to do for generations! [
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