Wed-nes-day chit chat

Sarah, I wish I could do something to make you feel better.  I think you're pretty amazing if that means anything. 

Sandie, this TNR group is pretty organized.  They handed out a schedule of their upcoming training classes and they hold several a month in different areas of the city.  They are a very dedicated group of volunteers.

I'm trying to fix dinner with help from DH.  I would prefer he go somewhere else since he's questioning everything I'm doing and it's all stupid stuff like "is that the best spoon to stir that with?".  Really? 

 Thanks everyone! First day was fine - like riding a bike. It was really low key to me because when I have been heading out in work clothes its to do presentations, work with clients, interviews, etc. So going in to find out what I am going to do was low key :)

Turns out it will be high stress soon enough LOL But for now it will be fine, nice folks, fairly disorganized and loads of stressed out folks.

I took B for a 1+ mile walk this morning in the pitch black which was mildly unnerving - no street lights in the 'hood. We had some fox and cat sightings so that kept it interesting. DH told me that B spent most of his day under the dining room table - where he can see the bottom of the drive - and if he heard anything he'd grab a toy and run to the front windows 

Needless to say when I finally did come home he was happy - we went for another 1+ mile walk this evening because it is unseasonably cool here and LOVELY

Sarah loads and loads of hugs

kpwlee

DH told me that B spent most of his day under the dining room table - where he can see the bottom of the drive - and if he heard anything he'd grab a toy and run to the front windows 

(((Sarah))) I think you're pretty amazing too and I know this time is tough but it's transitional and will surely change. Hopefully for the better and hopefully soon.

Karen, I'm glad you got to take B for another walk when you got home.  Dogs can be pretty good at pushing those guilt buttons when we have to leave them. Twister was quite the master at the pitiful look if he was left behind. Rex and Belle both wave me off to work every morning with nary a sad look between them.  lol I feel unloved.   

Karen, don't you wish you could wave a magic wand and make Bugsy speak and understand English for a few minutes so you could explain to him what's happening with your schedule now, where you're going, when you'll be back, and how you miss him while you're gone?  Ruby doesn't mind too much when I'm gone, but when DH goes somewhere and leaves her home with me, she pretty much lies in full view of the door, waiting for him to walk through it.

And while we've got the magic wand out, I'd wave it in your direction, Sarah, so I could make things better for you -- with your job, with your schedule, and with the frustrations you're having with your son.  Each of those things on their own would be difficult enough, but all three at once, (especially when your DH is gone a lot) has to be even harder.  I think what makes such stressful and upsetting times even more so is when we feel we can't control it, and/or that we're powerless to make the change(s) we'd like to happen.  We do what we can (like you did, applying for the job), but then we're subject to someone else's decisions or actions, and that can be so frustrating and discouraging.

I thought what your DH said was very honest and sweet.  In my experience, men usually want to solve everything, and they immediately rattle off a suggestion/solution like it's the easiest, most obvious action in the world.  Sometimes we just want to vent, and there are sympathetic ears here!

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Deb I went with the brown shoes today - which reminds me it's very much business casual. :)

JackieG

I'm trying to fix dinner with help from DH.  I would prefer he go somewhere else since he's questioning everything I'm doing and it's all stupid stuff like "is that the best spoon to stir that with?".  Really? 

kpwlee

despite our guests he was unusually attached to me, and he was concerned this morning. I couldn't figure out how he knew it was different than when I have been going to other work or done all day training, we have a little routine which he knows and I did it today but he was very suspicious

He probably did know something was up because you've been sending off different vibes since you knew you were starting this new job and worrying about how it would affect him.  Also the clothes sorting was another action that clued him that "sumpin's up with my mom". lol

Oh yeah, Sarah, I hear ya'.  The kitchen shuffle is "our" dance.  We're not good dancers. :)