tacran
Posted : 3/16/2012 2:04:12 PM
Good to "see" you Johnny -- you've been missed around here!
Deb, when I read your first post, I was going to say, "Okay, Deb's shredding the evidence . . . what kind of trouble has she been in?!" Then the office party reference was made, and I saw I wasn't the only one who jumped to that conclusion! 
Glenda, one of my friends says the same thing about working in the dirt ("nourishes the soul";). In fact, she refuses to wear gardening gloves because she says it lessens the experience. She literally has to feel her hands in the soil when she putters in her garden. Maybe it's connected to that early self-expression we had as kids, using finger paints?
Cathy, I think the grief process is different (generally) for males and females. My husband went right to work the day after Tonka died, and busied himself with various things -- his tears were evident at home, but certainly more controlled. I didn't go to work for a couple days and barely got out of bed. And in the following weeks, when I did do busy tasks, I'd be suddenly struck with fits of tears. I remember ironing once and suddenly having to stop and sit on the floor right there and just sob for several minutes. Like others said, just let your grief process be what it is, no rushing. Sending you continued comforting vibes.