mrstjohnson
Posted : 9/29/2011 10:29:21 PM
boneyjean
This thread just goes to show how much I actually know about weddings. I have never given more than one gift! And at our wedding, the only cash we received was from my parent's as a donation towards the cost of the wedding that we paid for. It does make me wonder how much of it has to do with the regions where we live, the cultures and our ages etc adn the different traditions that have sort of come to happen. Hmmmm....
It must be a regional thing because here at weddings there is usually a big old safe-life box (usually disguised as a cake or something) or a grandma with a bag that holds the cards with the cash. My grandma, granny and Aunt Lena were in charge of ours (who had a collective age of 280+) and almost belted my FIL with their purses when he tried to take it to put a card in it. Our weddings are usually pretty big. It is not unusual to have 500+ people at a wedding and have been to a couple 1000+ weddings. Typical size is between 200 - 300 people. I will usually give a little more $$ at a wedding if the bride and groom are paying for it themselves vs. parents. But have always given something.
Personally I have always thought that wouldn't it be refreshing if the bride or whomever just mailed out $20 gift certificates to a restaurant to all the women should would have invited to the bridal shower. The women in turn mail her a present and everyone calls it even and has their Saturday afternoons to themselves. That would be a perfect world. I don't mind going to the weddings, you can usually booze up pretty good at those.
Oh and Deb. I will see you this Saturday. Tell Fabio to save me a lap dance.