Trying Tuesday chat

DH and I had a not so awesome Easter. DH's brother and wife were being quite rude to their mother again. DH and I dropped the dogs off on Saturday as we were driving through to go to my parents place and when we arrived, his mom was at the house, all alone, crying and upset. Apparently they had taken off to the nearest town to take the kids to the indoor pool and had waited until the last possible second when his mom was waiting for us to drop the dogs off, so she couldn't come. Also, everytime she would try to say something, they would interrupt her, talking to each other and just walk out of the room. I felt really bad for her. DH's mother is very sensitive, but all it takes is a little caring and compassion. I can't, for the life of me, figure out how to deal with his brother and wife. I just don't understand why they are so rude to his/their mother and DH and I all the time. They won't talk about it with us, we've tried, they refuse to discuss things. His mom is in a terrible place because she can't say anything to them - the second she does, they simply won't allow her access to the kids. They don't treat his sisters the same way we get treated. I think it's because they both live in other provinces/countries.....when his one sister was living here, he was just as rude/irritating to her. How on earth do you deal with someone who refuses to talk it out?

ETA: I forgot my good news! DH and I found polished granite slabs for really cheap on kijiji! It looks like we are getting granite for our kitchen counters. Since DH works for a limestone company, he can draw up the plans and have the slabs cut for next to nothing and he will be able to install them himself as well. I am stoked :) Fingers crossed the slabs look as good in person as they do online, we are hopefully going to see them and check them out this weekend.

 If kids weren't involved, I'd suggest simply cutting them out of your/her lives. I cannot stand when adults act like children.

I"m enjoying my day off. Clive's currently napping. Since he takes the shortest naps ever, I quickly threw in his load of laundry. The dogs are all lounging about as well.  

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If kids weren't involved, I'd suggest simply cutting them out of your/her lives. I cannot stand when adults act like children.

That's basically what DH and I have done, especially if things follow fall into place for the cross country move....we will essentially see them once every few years if that. It sucks, because we won't know our niece and nephew but we are constantly prevented from having a relationship with them anyway. His mom, on the other hand, can't just cut them out of her life, she would be way to upset at losing contact with the kids. Although she's at the point now where she wants to move away too!

Poor bugs. abbie acted like that going through the car wash. It rips at your heart to see them so frightened.

Stacey, tell your DH to lay a beating on his brother.  There's no place in family politics for rudeness like that. 

Tessy sends slobbery wet smooches to everyone for their thoughts.  Thank-you all. 

It's still raining here yet they all insist it's the best time to go outside and chase the ball.  ugh..i'm wet now.  Gotta change and try to get a quick workout in. 

Springer Lady

cakana

Joyce - regarding the Dyson carpet cleaner stuff - I'm not sure where you could find it, other than ordering thru Dyson. If you do find it somewhere, let me know. I want to keep some on hand and if I have to, I'll order it from the company.

 

Thanks for the tip Cathy but I have all hardwood floors, having pets most of my life, never got into carpeting.

Oops - I guess we have 2 Joyce's? I meant it for the other one, Max's mom, and I don't blame you for not wanting carpeting.

I booked a hotel using my govt credit card for that accreditation committe and now have to account for it on the bill. I don't have any receipts or any records because I did all online and gave the chair's email address for confirmation. I hate to have to contact each committee member. I wonder if the hotel will give me the info?

One of my coworkers emailed to let me know she made a very generous contribution to the horse I sponsored at the rescue. I've managed to raise $550 already and that doesn't include contributions made online/directly that I'm not aware of. Wow!! I was afraid I wouldn't be able to raise more than a couple hundred. I'm deeply touched by how kind everyone has been. They're having their appreciation party this Saturday and I'm super excited to be going.

Johnny&Tessy

Stacey, tell your DH to lay a beating on his brother.  There's no place in family politics for rudeness like that. 

Agreed.  Life is too short for that kind of nonsense, and if something should happen to mom they're going to seriously regret their behavior ... too late.

Aaagh!! I'm in the middle of a re-finance and they asked for 3 months of bank statements, which I sent.  I told them I wasn't going to fax them because they're each 19 pages long and Kinkos-FedEx charges $1.50 a page.  I overnighted them - they got them.  Now they want "statements" from the HELOC which I haven't used for a couple of years.  I told them there aren't any statements.  It's paid automatically from savings.  Just read the dang statements.  They should  be able to see the same amount coming out of savings and going toward the HELOC.  I know the statements are long because they cover 2 savings accounts, checking, visa, brokerage and the HELOC but dang!  If I can figure them out, shouldn't someone in that line of work be able to find what they're looking for?

Joyce

cakana

Springer Lady

Thanks for the tip Cathy but I have all hardwood floors, having pets most of my life, never got into carpeting.

Oops - I guess we have 2 Joyce's?

That's funny, Cathy.  I thought Springer Lady's name was Linda.  That's what it says in her signature. Maybe she has an alias.

Oh, no... poor Tigger...  :(  Sadface.... I hope you get some answers and he gets some relief fast.

So, that "push" I requested earlier this week is really paying off... things are moving in directions that feel really good.  Fingers crossed something good comes of this!  THANK YOU, Universe and dog.com friends! :D

So who knew that there is not an open gas station to be found at 5AM?  Had I not been on funs I would have hunted around a bit, but at 5AM, didn't want to risk running out of gas.  We both forgot that we were going to fill the tank Sunday when it got super low since I had 20 cents off a gallon.  No ones fault although if DH had been a bit more coherent when he got home after his 13 hour day yesterday he might have remembered to mention it.  LOL.  I didn't run out, so......

We got up to 80 today!  Thunder boomers coming in tho, so hottish, humid and sort of FL weather.....without the gators!

Good vibes to all who need them.  My brain is too tired to retain anything I read!

Well it's about time to head to the house....still no rain but they say it's on the way.  I hope it is moderate and passes thru soon.  90% chance of raining all day tomorrow too. :(

Everyone take care!

 Gosh Ginger I am so sorry!  Sending warm arid sunshine your way! (although we have storms)

So DH screwed up the dates and the golf tournament isn't until Thursday, we played 18 anyway.  

The original Bugs-mobile has been sold  The buyer will drive away with it tomorrow evening and on Thursday we'll pick up the new Bugs-mobile.  DH is so happy, I'm reflective LOL

Just saw the latest tornado warnings and storm predictions on the news--sending a ton of safe vibes for all idoggers and others in the storm areas. Mother Nature sure has a lot on her mind this spring!

And positive vibes for Tigger and everyone/every dog who needs them.

sharismom

 

That's funny, Cathy.  I thought Springer Lady's name was Linda.  That's what it says in her signature. Maybe she has an alias.

Ooo.  This is getting twilight zoney now. My first name is Linda but I haven't used it since high school. The nuns refused to call me Joyce even though everyone else on the planet did because they said there was no *St. Joyce* ... like they would know that!!

Joyce