Thursday, not quite Friday, Chat

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    Lies, happy anniversary!  Let us know if your DH remembered as well!  My DH is pretty good about those things, and will often say something early in the day.  we don't really do gifts much though, or at least we haven't just because of the cost.  we splurge on dinner or something instead. 

    I can't believe it was 87 today, 89 tomorrow and then 71 the rest of the weekend.  Blah, I thought I was done with this heat and stuff.

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    there was a horrible accident today........................

    enough  with the suspense - i decided to stop and have a frozen custard with a reese's PB cups mixed in.  The fine young man made it with the wrong flavor custard Surprise which honestly in my current state I would have never noticed. He whipped around to start a new one as I stuck a spoonful of the 'wrong' one (can any frozen custard delight be wrong?) in my big mouth.  Then he turned around and said happy birthday and gave me the correct one.........LOL so I ate both.  My tummy still hurts

    It was 99* today - a new record and 20* over normal.

    my stress levels are high, my heart heavy

    I miss my manual car - i love driving a manual - heck I even loved it driving in the UK and shifting with my left hand.  i am an ambidextrous driver Big Smile

    break over - hope I everyone is OK

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    Karen, you deserve 2 ice creams!!!

    Just got off Skype with the BF. No apologies or mention of my email, but he was much, much better about having a "real" conversation. He doesn't really do apologies very well at all - I think this trying hard is his apology. Sigh. Men!!!

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    yay for the BF being more attentive -- I suppose that him changing his behavior was the end goal but I bet an apology would also go a long way!  I hope he keeps up with it.  DH and I were apart for a year early in our relationship.  I was much more busy than he was, and it definitely lead to issues for both of us.  One thing we did was write notes or cards and send them snail mail.  we also chatted online throughout the day a lot when we couldn't talk.

     

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    GREY'S ANATOMY!!!!!!!!!

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    BEVOLASVEGAS

    GREY'S ANATOMY!!!!!!!!!

     

    Yes 

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    NicoleS

    Lies, happy anniversary!  Let us know if your DH remembered as well! 

     

    Haha, nope! 

    And I feel like crap to boot.  Everyone's on my case about my new puppy.  I shared it on my Facebook (which I rarely go on but am trying to use more since my family's obsessed with it) and had to take the message off b/c the person I'm getting the dog from left a nice comment and then people were making snide remarks.  I understand not everyone likes dogs or training and that's fine b/c I have no interest in most of the stuff my family does either, but I don't get why people have to criticize and put me down instead of being happy for me because this is a really big deal to me and instead of sharing my excitement, I have to tip-toe on eggshells to avoid lectures.  Like when my dad finally got his fishing boat I really couldn't have cared less but I let him take me for rides to show it off and go fishing but when I get a puppy I've been dreaming about for years I get scorned like I got a DUI and they had to pick me up at the prison.  I'm not expecting them to like my dogs or even care when we get titles and win ribbons, but just every once in a while acknowledging something that I put countless hours and energy into would be nice.  I was really pumped about this, my TD said to me last weekend with the right dog I can do anything and go anywhere I want.  I knew I made the right choice and now, honestly I haven't felt this bad in a long time...

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    Liesje, we're all excited for you!! You've done such fantastic things with Kenya, Nikon, and Coke. You're going to do fantastic things with your new puppy, too! Maybe there's a bit of jealousy going on with your family, so instead of being happy for you like they should be, they're being a bit unkind? You've really had a lot of success with your dogs. Most people don't understand that kind of commitment and relationship. And we humans can sometimes be really mean about things we don't understand. But WE here understand, and are really excited for you!!!!!!!
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    Lies, I so understand where you're coming from. I'm getting my dream puppy in a year and people don't understand why I want a third dog with everything going on the Maze.  I've been ripped apart, demeaned, just treated badly. But ya know what, WE care that you get ribbons and titles. Heck! I live through you right now since my landlord doesn't like shepherds.  *hugs to you* Chin up and show them that you'll get the best dang puppy around!

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    Thanks, you guys are all great.  It's not even about this dog, it's always been like this.  Everything I do I get looks like I'm stupid, like it never makes sense to them.  My brother is a really good artist and really good at fishing, so on the side he sells paintings and he even gets paid like $500 an afternoon to take other people fishing.  I'm not an artist and don't care for fishing but I've never put him down, I think it's great he can enjoy what he loves and even make some spending money doing it.  But it's like nothing I've ever done gets "approved".  Unfortunately I didn't get the artistic gene or the hunting/fishing gene, apparently that's all that counts to them.  If I could I would trade for that so I wouldn't feel like such an ass wipe all the time.  Before I got into dogs, I was a gymnast.  If you can believe it, I loved (and still love) gymnastics with as much passion as I put into my dogs times TEN.  I still miss it every second of every day, and to be honest with myself I know that getting into dogs was my attempt at filling that void and keeping myself from self-destructing.  It doesn't fill that void yet but in time it might.  I found out that the blue building alongside our new training field is a gymnastics facility, do you know how distracting that is for me?  It's like putting an alcoholic to work in front of a bar!  I lived, ate, breathed gymnastics for so long I didn't know anything different.  But even when I was team captain and MVP of my team two years running, I always felt like everyone thought I was stupid and it was a waste of time.  I don't know what the problem is, since I was pretty much a perfect child.  I was not a bully nor bullied.  I had plenty of friends and was "normal", got straight As, never got into trouble.  My parents have never once had to bail me out of anything.  I moved out when I was 17 and have been completely responsible for myself financially.  I have a good job (which I've had for 8 years Jan 3), I live comfortably within my means and have a good husband with a good family on his side.  ALL I'm asking for is a, "Hey, it's great you finally found the dog you want, good luck with your training."  Is that SO hard?  And my family wonders why I spend Sundays training instead of at church and Grandpa's with them.  I put so much into my club, not just my dogs and our training but everyone, they are like a family to me even if they don't see it the same way.  I miss my Grandma she would have been happy for me and proud of me even though she wouldn't have a clue what dog training is.  I hate feeling ashamed doing what I love.  It sucks not being able to share my accomplishments with them.  I just don't understand where it comes from because otherwise my family all gets along well and have always been OK and respectful of each other.  We are not the closest family but I can't even remember the last time I had a fight or exchanged words with my mom or my sister.


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    Lies,

    I'm so sorry about the bad reaction from your family. None of my family "gets" me or my dogs either... just know you have lots of support from other people in your life and that puppy is going to have the best life possible with your and your pack. =)

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    ((((Liesje))))

    I think many of us here have had to stand up for being "dog people". There is a whole lot of the world that just doesn't get us. Much of my own family doesn't understand why I like to work with animals. When my Grandpa told me "Get a real job and stop playing with your toys" referring to my pets, it really hit me deep. What's important is what YOU know in your heart is true, that you feel good about yourself despite what others think or say.
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    ((((Lies))))  I understand.  I really do.

     

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     Aw, I'm sorry your family isn't supportive.  I will say that my mom (who I have a fine relationship with) has never said a word about how many pets I have.  The lad's family has done great this time, but he's always very paranoid about saying what pets we have to his family. We were actually taking bets on who would make the first 'what pets are you getting rid of now that you are having a baby' comment, but they've made not a peep :p

     

    I said I'd cover for an hour and a half/2 hours at work on Saturday. The clinic has a float in the parade and the person working was supposed to be in the parade but no one would cover. So, being nice, I said I did. I'll probably kick myself, but it's only a few hours and I can still sleep in, so what can it hurt. And I was certainly not going to be on a parade float :p

     

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    Liesje
    but I don't get why people have to criticize and put me down instead of being happy for me because this is a really big deal to me and instead of sharing my excitement, I have to tip-toe on eggshells to avoid lectures.

     What are they even lecturing you about?  That you don't spend your Sundays with them?  I don't get what their lectures are about, unless they're the kind who want you to start making babies or something...

    Training class was good tonight - I got to be the judge.  FUN!  Also got to drive the Maybach... er, I mean the sporty REAL German Working Dobe... for a walk tonight.  Big G has so much power in his sleek sporty self!  aaah!  So nice!  His owner has done so much to keep him humming smoothly.  Granted, we "kept it in first gear" for the walk, but...  he's a nice dog!