Worst Family Ever!

Well you can pick your friends but not your family.  Have you ever discussed with your family how the arguing upsets you?  When you have hot-headed people in the family it can make it tough.  I think you should try talking to eache member seperately and see what they have to say.  I think your wording was a bit harsh about your family, remember you are a part of it.  Talk to them individually and see what comes of it.

Hi TheWhiteFox. I too come from a difficult home situation, and can identify with what you're going through (except I was in my case typically on the receiving end of the screaming parent, sniper-like verbal attacks, and thrown objects). You cannot force your family into counseling. However, it may help to find someone you trust - school counselor, youth leader, pastor, etc - to help YOU figure out how to deal with your feelings and your place in your family, and how to survive until its time to go - and then how to heal once you are OUT.

I agree, school and a great work ethic may be the key to getting you out of the situation you are in. Many great suggestions have been made, so I won't go there. One of the things that helped me through my final years at home was to keep telling myself, "For now I CHOOSE to stay". And I kept reminding myself that there was a goal in sight, and I was going to get to it - one step at a time. Realizing that there would at a very specific point be the end to my living there made it just a wee bit more bearable. I kept my teeth clean, my mouth shut, laid as low as possible, smiled and nodded a lot (regardless of what I WANTED to say), and made my way to the door.

A whole lot of counseling, some really good meds, lots of introspection, maturity, and love for myself and God, and some independence contributed to getting MY life on the track I wanted it to be on. You can do it too.

Trust me, I do get that.  I had teachers in high school who didn't teach either.  Those are usually the ones who just hand out grades however they want.  I had a history teacher who told us stories every class about his family.  I learned a lot more about his family than I ever wanted to.  I also had a math teacher who did absolutely nothing and at one point showed us the video of his wife's surprise party (like we cared)!  I was only suggesting that you look at school as more of a haven and less of something that you despise.  I always knew that if I at least did the homework in high school, even if I couldn't pass the tests, I would be ok.   Make the best out of a bad situation!  Good luck []

ORIGINAL: jeano

Another thing is that if alcohol is a problem in your family, I strongly suggest you find an Alateen group or Alanon group to go to. Those are groups for supporting folks who have to live with the trouble of other people in their family drinking. You can get a lot of support that way.

 
Okay, there's a lot to read here so i may take me awhile to reply to all the post here. But . . .
 
no need to worry, there is no drug or achoal problem in my family. No smoking, no drinking, we all hate the idea and would never pick it up (at least most of us).

ORIGINAL: glenmar

Short of going to live with your dad, if that's even a possibility, here are some things I'd suggest.  Make some friends.  I know that isn't easy when you are the new kid....my sons were often the new kids because my husband works in radio and that's about as stable as the military for moving. 

Are there any summer youth programs in your area?  Through the school or churches?  If so, get yourself involved.  I know its tough being the new kid and I know it's tough stepping forward to make new friends, but that would REALLY help you.  And through work, or church or summer programs you might find a trusted adult who can mentor you.

There is always the possibility that your failure to focus is a medical condition such as depression, so ask your Mom to set you up for a physical and then TALK to the doc and let him know what you're feeling. 

 
Whew, that was a lot to read. . . ok. . .
 
For me to go live my dad would be even worse. I don't know where he is, haven't spoken to him for nearly a year. He got married again about a year ago and is divorced again. He will not take care of his kids as my oldest brother found out when he dropped out two years ago.
 
It'd be good to join a youth program but there are several errors with that actually, two major ones. One, I have no transportation anywhere, it has to be within walking distance and this city is built so odd that there is no programs around here. Two, I have moved several times lately and have been the 'new kid' too many times for me to like. I'm not very social so it's hard for me to make friends.
 
Depression is still probably a factor. I got serverly sick about three years ago, for two weeks straight. I was so mad at the end where I tried to get up and do something (because lying in bed for two weeks is not fun, even though I was missing school too) but it didn't help. And following that was depression that. I tried to mention it to my mom but she must have been in denial and didn't act upon it. Luckily I was able to bring myself out of it, but it probably still is a factor in my 'personality'.
 
Yet some more reasons why this enviroment in not healthy.

Okay, I had a chance to go through and read all those post. I'll try to reply to them all.
 
Colliewog, GED is probably not the best way for me to think in today's world. Soon GED won't be accepted by some companys. Deploma is what I'm still reaching for, and if I ever have thoughts of dropping out, I just think of how much time I've wasted in school only to drop out.
 
Lorib, I agree, getting a job would be best or joining some youth group. But there are no youth groups that I can get to around here so I have to sick with a job. I'm working on it and mowing our lawn for money (I'm fairly well at negotiating) so i get paid ten dollars every time I mow the lawn which is rather big.
 
Jeano, counceling is something that I'll look into, I sure hope it helps. Most likely will but like I said before, I find it difficult to speak about such family issues or any serioius issues at that.
 
Ron2, intelligence is the key to maturity. There are many option that I'm considering for a career and still am undecided. I do think it would be rather enjoyable to be a biologist but that could be out of my reach but i don't know the requirements and that would be something for me to go check up into.
 
Firestorm, my family does not take me serious and for the idea of me speaking to them about my 'issues' would be a joke for them. Then again, they don't take serious issues serious at all.
 
Dogslyfe, I try to stay away from medications but that's a whole different part of my personality.
 
Georgie4682, that's sounds like one of my teachers. My math teacher, out of the blue, decided to show us Apollo 13. We didn't even start it at the beginning, we just started it where the other class left off. A total random act. That's just one of my teachers. One of my other teachers were so bad that it caused everyone's grades to drop. However my grades were already not so good so the drop caused me to fail.
 
Okay, I think I was able to respond to all the post. Thanks everyone, it helps a lot [].

Hey, go to the library and take out the book The Purpose Driven Life by Rick Warren, its a good read it may help!

I'll look into that. I usually don't check out books from any libary. But a book that could help me out would be worth the time.

I know you already said it, but just getting a group of peoples opinions and thoughts an encouragement online as you have done here can be incredibly therapudic and helpful.  I think youve got a great head on your shoulders and will be just fine.  If you start getting frustrated or down, you have people here who will help you through it.  You dont have much longer.
 
Nothing is out of your reach unless you tell yourself that. If you want to be a biologist, look into it.  Look into the colleges that offer it.. and dont worry about paying for school because getting student loans is very easy and you dont have to pay them back until you are finished and working at what you wanted to be.  That is also an incentive not to quit because then you will be due to pay back these loans with no real job to do so, lol.
 
I always wanted to be a marine biologist, but Im not willing to make the move away from my family and there is nothing like that around here... so think about things and make plans just like your doing... everything will fall into place for you as long as you keep your head as straight as it is now.