Mindless Chatter, Monday

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    bluelighting

    BF hasn't moved out he gave me a hug, told me he was sorry, and give him another chance that I need to give him a kick in the a$$ when he doesn't help me clean or treat me like poop. I thought about it this weekend and I'm standing my ground I'm done it's going to be more broken promises nothing will change. I'm not going to stand anymore of his poop he has to go besides he gets on my nerves too bad. IWe are done and over he's just a scared little boy that has no where to go and is trying everything to stay here with me.

    Good for you Melinda!!  It takes many people a long long time to realize this. 

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    We talked about lily and neikos personalities and how the dogs all interact together. The vet got to see the competitive nature between abbie and lily. However, we really didn't go in to that much, which I intended to but forgot!

    I watch a few videos on dog-dog reactivity by ian dunbar and jean donaldson while the vet tech and student worked with abbie on some desensitation to the head halter.

    We went outside and they used a well mannered dog on leash to see how abbie reacted, what we usually do when we see other dogs etc. The vet wanted to see if abbie would repond to commands while in that over the top state. Abbie did really good. She reacted of course, but we were able to get a critical distance for when she would start to react vs when she was ok. Abbie also was able to go through all of her tricks and obediance commands. So the vet was happy with the progress we have made already but mentioned that any other dog would be "cured" by now with what we have done, but abbie really does need medication for us to be successful.

    We talked about all the early body signals that go on prior to the actual barking and lunging. Abbie showed some of these too (freeze, cheek puffing, disengage, looke away) with the tech when they were working with the head halter. They are very subtle and you'd hardly know it if you weren't really watching.

    We spent a lot of time going over some modifications that she wants us to do with our training. For example, when ever we see another dog abbie gets treats while the dog is present and no treats when the dog isn't. Up until now, I have been doing that but abbie also had to do something for the reward. Like look at that, sit, etc. So we will take all of that out for now and just do rewards without having to actually do anything except for being seeing another dog.

    however, for the next month we are supposed to avoid high anxiety situations while we wait for the meds to kick in. We can still go to our control unleashed class but she wants us to stay in our box and add no pressure of doing anything but being there.

    Other than that, we are to work on making the heald halter a good thing (this is a tough one as she hates that thing).

    For meds, she's back on prozac, but at a higher dose than before, plus the dap collar and some supplement I don't remember the name of, that has shown in studies to reduce anxiety. The supplement and dap collar will prob be maintained for 2 months then we will prob drop them (depending on results).

    The vet normally has a follow up in 4 weeks but because we are already doing what she would have most do she thinks we can go 8 weeks. Thankfully!

    I got the impression we were one of her easier patients because she doesn't have to modify my behavior that much along with abbies lol. Oh and she did say that she originally thought my goals for abbie were too lofty (sar) but after seeing us, she thinks it is attainable. She did make a crack that not everyone she sees wants their dogs to be the next president of the us. (Kinda funny and true).

    She thinks that abbie will always be an anxious dog but that we will be able to train away the leash reactivity and teach her that the world around her is not always a threat. That made me feel like the appt was worth it right there. That and validating her severe anxiety tendacies. I was almost thinking that I somehow caused the anxiety or that I was making more of it than it is. So it felt good to hear from a professional that I am not delusional. (At least not with this)

    Anyway, we went through some exercises and they gave me a bunch of reading material and websites to visit. There's probably a lot I'm forgetting but this is the gist of it.

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    (((hugs))) I'm VERY glad to hear you're staying strong!

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     Thanks guys!

    His voice and way he acts drives me crazy and crazier every day it's like finger nails on a chalk board.

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     My on call weekend is over. Tomorrow is my day off, yay :)  Have a doctor's appt (has anyone established why one has to go in monthly? Nothing is accomplished aside from my developing the art of peeing in a cup gracefully)  and then we're going to a late lunch/early dinner, I think.

     Mainly I'm looking forward to sleeping past 6 am. 

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    Do you ever get that strange urge to....clean?

    I've got it. I've been cleaning, dusting, throwing things away.... I'm sure my family has mixed emotions about this one... on one hand, I am cleaning. On the other... it's midnight, and I'm sure they could do without the vacuuming!  Surprise

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     I do get those urges too - rare and I try to ignore them but they can be pretty helpful too!

    (That's one thing I aim to do better after the move: organization and keeping things clean vs having to periodically do a major purge lol)

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     So my mom and sister are being nutso at the moment. We're not entirely sure where my sister went to at the moment. I can't wait to go to class this weekend, and be away from these whackos. 

    In better news, I went to the fair, which is always great. Though it was very hot, and we got too hot to ride stuff after 3 rides. I didn't win at bingo, but my mom and friend did. I got snacks galore. Funnel cake, fried oreos, brought home some cookies, rice krispie treats, and cotton candy. I can go back and ride more all week since I got the wristband. 

    Tomorrow is supposed to be hot again, which makes me think my daytime activity tomorrow will involve a pool. 

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    The urge to clean???  Nope, never happens!

    Erica, if you still have the urge to clean tomorrow, you can hit up my house.  I have an extra bedroom, & I live in a very fun city, so you can clean and/or party to your heart's desire.

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    Is the urge to clean contagious? I hope I don't get it.

     

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    Thanks, Amanda. 

    Erica - I get the urge to clean at odd hours, too.  (I just finished organizing/packing/moving my bedroom into the room downstairs, but it's only 10:30 here.)  I'm a late-night cleaner/organizer, but I don't run the vac until daylight hours, even if everyone is awake - like I don't mow the lawn until after 9am, either.  I also get the urge to go out for a run/walk late at night, too.  In other cities, I could just go and do it - not here.  Particularly now that it's summer and the drunks and homeless are out instead of inside someplace to keep warm.

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    haha... it all started with an innocent urge to get the aussie-fuzzies that were poking out from under the bed... next thing I knew, the bed was on the other side of the room - and I was in full cleaning mode! I even vacuumed the fan blades.

    That said... I think the urge has passed, and I'm now on the hunt for something to eat! cleaning always makes me hungry.

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    erica1989
    Do you ever get that strange urge to....clean?

    Yes, right around that time of the month suddenly I cannot bear to live in such a "mess".