calliecritturs
Posted : 4/24/2006 10:51:20 PM
The operative term isn't "second" -- it's "dog". As in the WRONG dog and you'll regret it.
Ok, sitting right at home -- how many of YOU have moved in with someone (spouse, significant other, college roommate, best friend, etc.) and just DID NOT get along and regretted it. Do I see EVERY hand go up? Yep, thot so.
So WHY do we assume that all dogs gotta get along? They won't. They can't. So we do research, we try to get them at the 'right' time, but even so, SOMETIMES it's a disaster.
Things that make it worse:
"We're gone a long time and he's bored, he needs a PLAYMATE" (groan)
"Dog A is my dog, and my bf (so, gf, dh, dw, etc.) wants a dog that will bond with THEM but no matter what they want a ________ breed."
"My bf (so, gf, dh, dw, etc.) has fallen in love with a dog but I haven't met it"
"I've always wanted a ________, but my bf (so, gf, dh, dw, etc.) doesn't like them, so how can I talk him into it??"
YOu get the picture -- if you aren't BOTH in agreement, it's not gonna work. This is a decision that will affect your lives for the next 15-20 years.
You are right to be concerned -- and if it 'feels' wrong to you, it likely is. Sorry, had to play devil's advocate here.