Pill Thread Got Me Thinking....

One of my (nearly 82 year old) grandmother's favorite stories is of when she was 14 or 15, and she was at a roller-rink, and a boy came up behind her and grabbed her boobs, and she was CONVINCED that meant she was now pregnant.

She's also said a million times she didn't even know the word "vagina" until she was married. Meanwhile my barely 3 year old nephew runs around saying "She's a girl because she has a vagina." Definitely a different time, eh?

I mostly picked up sex ed type stuff from my older sisters, cousins, and TV. I didn't go to school past first grade, so no help there. Supposedly my Mom had "talks" with all of my sisters, so I dunno, maybe she forgot by the time I came around? lol. We had this set of "Life Cycle" books, and one of them was pretty helpful... I'll tell ya though, the internet is a scary place to look that kind of thing up, even 10 years ago. Heh.

I think the only time my Mom and I ever really talked about sex was when I was 10ish, and heard "69" somewhere, and I asked her what it meant. Boy did I regret that one!!! I also regretted telling her when I got my period, LOL. I swear she immediately ran around and told everyone (I was 10, and I guess she was...surprised?). I'm still kinda mad at her for that, lol. I've only NOT gotten red-faced pretty recently when talking about periods and stuff.

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I spent the rest of the school year worrying about who I might be sitting next to on the bus and whether or not I'd find a baby in my book bag when I got up in the morning.

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One of my (nearly 82 year old) grandmother's favorite stories is of when she was 14 or 15, and she was at a roller-rink, and a boy came up behind her and grabbed her boobs, and she was CONVINCED that meant she was now pregnant.

Stories like this would be hilarious if they didn't put so much stress on young girls.  It also increases the chances of males taking advantage.

I can just see a guy saying "Well, you are already pregnant and we have to get married, so why don't we do ....?" 

When my great grandmother got married and pregnant for the first time, she knew nothing about sex ed.  She asked her mother-in-law where the baby would come out of and her MIL answered "the same place it got in." 

When I was the age that 'the talk' was required, my dad was a single father (maybe why I'm concerned about paternial rights?) so it was akward.  It went something like this:

Me:  Dad, I got these papers from school in health class.  (Mumbles)Says we're supposed to talk about it.

Dad: Uh...ok...well do you have questions?

Me:  (very quickly) No, I get it.

Dad: (relieved) Ok, well if you ever wanna ask something that's fine.

and then later after I'd been dating DH for awhile:

Dad:  So how serious are you two?

Me:  If you're trying to find out if we're having sex, we're not.

Dad:  Ok, good enough.

Now, I don't think he really wanted the conversation to go that way, but he deffinitely wasn't prepared for it.  I'm sure in the initial plan, that was supposed to be mom's job.  Too bad life doesn't work that way.  Now that he's remarried and has more step kids he's much more able about it.  But it's still not the most comfortable subject to bring up between him and I.