Helpless? Don't know what to do!!!!!

    • Gold Top Dog
    I don't know if you are up to this, but being that the fence has an open side....
    could you maybe rescue the dog and bring it to a no-kill shelter a few hours away?


    As great as I'm sure this sounds, I'm sorry to say that taking a dog that one has no permission to take is not rescuing a dog - it is stealing a dog. Not to mention trespassing. I wouldn't go that route, personally.

    Would calling animal control (if they won't agree to give her up) be a viable option? Annonymously of course.
    • Gold Top Dog
    Ack. Praying she's smart enough to give her up. Like others said, get her if you can and then go from there.

    You can always use the angle of her having a 1-year-old and knowing that she doesn't have time for the dog.
    • Gold Top Dog
    To tell you the truth, I would have instantly called humane law enforcement, just based on the filth factor and chained to a tree thing.
    You are a better woman than I if you can stand to be friends with such an ignorant and inhumane individual.  Are you sure you want your kids exposed to that level of irresponsibility?
    I think I would have to call her and tell her why our friendship was ending.
    • Gold Top Dog
    Well, I don#%92t want to sound pitiful but to be honest… I don#%92t have any “friends” here and she#%92s pretty much the only person my age that I know in this town (or country).
    It#%92s not like we#%92re best friends, we send each other e-mails every now and then and see each other on birthdays.
    I honestly had NO idea what was going on with Kalli until this past weekend and now I feel horrible!!!
     
    Alright, here#%92s an update…. I#%92ve been feeling like s#$# for the past couple of days because I#%92m stuck in this situation and have NO idea what to do! We can#%92t take her, I REALLY want to, I am already in love with her! Our situation doesn#%92t allow us to take another dog in right now, my landlord is NOT very happy about this and for the past 2 days I#%92ve been trying to figure out how to deal with this financially. I sent a few e-mails to the humane society and a local no-kill shelter to see if anybody could help with vet bills. She needs to be spayed, wormed, tested for heartworm, put on heartworm prevt., she needs flea treatment and I don#%92t know what else is going to come up?
    We are not eligible for the humane societies spay/neuter program because I am NOT unemployed. I haven#%92t heard back from the shelter yet but I doubt that they would be able to help us out, we#%92ll see. DH is still in school and will be until the end of this year so he won#%92t be making money any time soon.
    There is hope in sight though… DH got out of military service last June and we are currently in the process (almost done) of filing a claim with the Veteran Affairs, if the claim goes through we#%92ll be receiving money from them monthly, that would help SOOO much! This can take another 2 months though, paperwork [:@]!
     
    The good news is that my friend is willing to give Kalli to me! This is part of an e-mail she sent me yesterday:
     
    I talked to **** last night he said if you guys want Kalli, you can have her.  You just have to promise we will still be able to see her.
     
    That means I can#%92t take her and then find her another great home though. This is seriously driving me insane!!!! I cannot stop thinking about a way to deal with this!
    I would find another job to pay for extra expenses but I already work 2 and don#%92t have the time for another one.

    Sorry guys, I know I#%92m whining, I need to figure this all out, thank you all for listening!
     
    • Gold Top Dog
    It's great news that they will give her to you. You can either find her a new home yourself or try to see if there's a rescue that will take her and do it for you. I'm so glad she's getting out of there and will have the chance at a wonderful family life...she's so young.

    But...and I don't mean to be a killjoy...everyone please pray that these people don't just get another dog to replace her and start breeding again. I have seen that happen before. It's SO SAD.
    • Gold Top Dog
    Nadine, it sounds like a good news/bad news situation for you.  The way I see it, you're one step closer to getting Kalli.  I don't know where you live but in some areas there are vet clinics that can help you if you don't have money.  All they ask is for some volunteer time.  OR you could ask your friend for some $$ to help with her care especially if they want to be able to visit her.  As far as your landlord goes, I have no advice.
     
    My heart goes out to you.  I know how hard it is to see a dog that's not being treated as we would treat it & not be able to do anything about it.  Hang in there!  There IS an answer out here.  I'm sure the combined brains & hearts of i-dog will help you save Miss Kalli.
    • Gold Top Dog
    I get a monthly enewsletter from somewhere (I can't remember) and one of the articles this month was a fund that helps pay for healthcare for pets when owners can't afford it.  However, I deleted the email and cannot find the info.  So, I did a google search on help with vet bills.  A lot came up.  Here's one site with a bunch of ideas: [linkhttp://www.hsus.org/pets/pet_care/what_you_can_do_if_you_are_having_trouble_affording_veterinary_care.html]http://www.hsus.org/pets/pet_care/what_you_can_do_if_you_are_having_trouble_affording_veterinary_care.html[/link]
     
    This was a link from a message board I found in my search.
     




    2/13/06 at 01:39 AM
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    Here is some help for those who need help with emergency vet services. DO NOT let your pet suffer!!

    [linkhttp://imom.org/fa/]http://imom.org/fa/[/link]
     
    [linkhttp://www.aahahelpingpets.org/]www.aahahelpingpets.org[/link]
     
    [linkhttp://www.thepetfund.com/]www.thepetfund.com[/link]
     
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    [linkhttp://www.help-a-pet.org/]www.help-a-pet.org[/link]
     
    [linkhttp://www.imom.org/]www.imom.org[/link]
     
    [linkhttp://www.handicappedpets.com/]www.handicappedpets.com[/link]
       
     
    I hope these help!  Maybe the woman u take the dog from could split the costs since half of them are her fault and others are just annual needs she'd have to pay for anyway if she kept the dog.
     
    Do you have someone else you know who may want the dog?  That way your friend could still see her and you'd be able to also and know she is in a better place!
    • Gold Top Dog
    Would it be possible to move (or buy a house) when DH's paperwork is done?
     
    Also, find some new friends.  [:)]  For a start, do you live near any i-doggers?  Or start doing a dog sport.  I can't even count how many people I've met by competing with my dogs.
    • Gold Top Dog
    ORIGINAL: agilebasenji

    Also, find some new friends.  [:)]  For a start, do you live near any i-doggers?  Or start doing a dog sport.  I can't even count how many people I've met by competing with my dogs.

     
    Oooh, ooh... also, check meetup.com and see if there is a beagle group or some other group of people you'd like.  In my area, I belong to a dachshund meetup group (we get together monthly) and a 20 something woman's group.  They have book clubs, movie fans, rescue dog ppl., knitters, artists, basically anythng and everything.  Just go to [linkhttp://www.meetup.com]www.meetup.com[/link] and type in your zip code or interest to see what is near you.  Maybe someone in a beagle group could help the dog!
    • Gold Top Dog
    I am really glad to read that they are willing to give the dog up, but I am also concerned and wonder if they are going to replace her with yet another dog that ends up the same way. That would be awful.
    (Not to be too nosy, but it sounds that you may be stationed outside of the U.S. I immigrated to the U.S. and it was difficult for me at first to find friends. Still don't have too many in the town I live in, but several I have met throughout the years and that live in other states and countries and it helps to be able to talk to them occasionally or being able to e-mail).
    That is just a note on the side and I agree: try to find people with the same interests you have and especially love dogs the way you do. That is a great common ground to start a friendship.
    Some vets are absolutely great about helping with the costs when you get a new pet. Our vet sets up a payment plan.
    I know you want to be honest with your friend and I don't believe in dishonesty, but I think I would put it on the line if it comes to helping this dog. You could take her and to me that means she is officially yours and it's up to you what you do with her in the future.
    I have to say thou that I had to give up a dog once and only did because I had a verbal agreement with the new owner that I would get him back if she was to die( she is my husband's elderly greataunt) and also that I would be able to still see him. I did a lot in the beginning, but over time not as often. B
    ut I was there last week when he had to be put to sleep at age 12.
    I would have been very upset had she told me in the beginning that I could not see him or if she had ever given him away.
    I saw after a while that he truly was her dog thou and even thou we watched him when she was in the hospital or whenever she went on a trip...he missed her just terribly. He loved her more than he loved us.
    Okay, sorry this is so long. I hope all works out for you and this little dog. I think you just have to put her first and her well-being. She can't help herself. She needs someone to speak up for her.
    • Gold Top Dog
    Oh, how frustrating!  ... so many "ifs" with this one.  It's hard to be nosy (eg, you saying something like "OK, friend, now once you give me your dog you can't get another one...")  that just does't fly in normal social settings. 
     
    I hope it works out and you can get Kalli, I wish there were more that we could do.  Are there any idoggers near you?
     
    Youre in my thoughts, goodluck.
    • Gold Top Dog
    Here's a thought... have you asked her why she doesn't keep the dog inside?  I think you said she used to before?  Maybe something as simple as that could get her thinking more about the welfare of the dog until you have the means to take the dog for good.
     
     
    • Gold Top Dog
    QUOTE:
    "That means I can#%92t take her and then find her another great home though. This is seriously driving me insane!!!! I cannot stop thinking about a way to deal with this!
    I would find another job to pay for extra expenses but I already work 2 and don#%92t have the time for another one. "
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    At least your friend agreed you can take the dog! And your CAN find another great home for her. Once you have the dog, chances are your friend will not be interested in visiting her anyway. (After all she is tied up outside with very little care as it is!) You can always look at this as a fostering situation. Take the dog, and have her vetted, Then start interviewing new potential owners. Ask the new owner to reimburse you for vet expenses as an adoption fee.
    • Gold Top Dog
    wont animal control check into the situation and take the dog from them?