Sick 2 year old. HELP!

its the same with my cousins. the younger one will go up to anyone and throw something at them, usually aiming for their face, then he grins... parents just roll their eyes and threaten to spank him. my instinctual reaction is to actually beat the snot out of him.... but thats kinda illegal i guess..... even when their mom was home all day she spent her time on the computer playing games and chatting to people in other countries. she has two large shepherds in a dog run (plus a litter of 10 puppies now) she has two grown female chihuahuas and two male chihuahua puppies she keeps crated for most of the day. you cant get internet access from kids and dogs.... and yet she considers herself a breed. [>:] no training, no papers, no time. and now shes gone back to work so chiahuahuas are crated ALL day, shepherds still stay in the kennel, and kids go to a sitter during the week and then to grand parents on the weekend. the oldest acted out big time last week. took a dump in the sitters laundry basket, kicked his brother, then tried to put his winkie on another girl.....
i think my cousin has gotten her priorities skewed quite a bit. the oldest should be talking a lot better than he is, but he hasnt got much of an understandable vocabulary. it doesnt help that his parents both talk like lazy hicks either. he calls his dad "Baby"... the other doesnt speak at all.....[8|] and when my kid is around them they both gang up and take his toys. my kid doesnt care, he doesnt have that "Mine!" instinct yet.. and he is a loner anyway. but it makes ME mad!

I saw Jennifer and Angela both today.  Angela is looking better but she has lost about 3lbs and my grandma said that she could only get Angela to take 2 bites of food today.  I think that something is really wrong with her.  Jennifer was in her normal mood(mad at the world)  She is so cross with Angela.  She screams at her for being a typical 2 year old.  I don't know what to do.  I feel so lost here.  Jennifer is my big sis and I love her with all my heart but I don't know how long I can deal with her acting like she does toward Angela.  Hell, Angela didn't ask to brought into this world.  To top it all off, I think Jennifer is cheating on Chris.  Our aunt has been with this guy for about12 years now and they got married 3 years ago but he is always after Jennifer.  I think that Jennifer has given him reason for his advances.  She is always wondering where he is and makes it a point to be "noticed" when he is around.  I'm at the end of my ropes with her and I am ready to blow up.  Jennifer is the type that if we have a little argument, she will stay mad for weeks.  I don't want that but I do want her to act right.  She is a mother, she needs to act like one.

The sad part is this may rub off on her daughter. how does Angela's dad act? is he any better? if they do split, this kid is going to need some kind of support and nurturing. i cant stand it when parents take their troubles and missed oppertunities out on their kids. like you said; it isnt the kids fault. they didnt ask to be here.
my cousin,the one with the two toddlers, actually had the nerve to ask her sister if she would take the oldest for a little while and teach him how to act and talk becuase her three kids are regular geniuses.... she said sure, but she wouldnt do it unless she would sign adoption papers. i dont blame her for saying that either. you snatch a kid around like that too much you make then nuts. once you get them out of a bad routine and into a good one where they are thriving why would you let them go back into chaos and an unstable environment?

i feel for this kid, i really do. i hope at least one of her parents straightens up their act. she is only two now, so she IS going to be a handul.... she has her own mind and desires but she cant communicate them to anyone which makes her frustrated.. which is where the terrible twos come from. my son has started that already..

Doesn't grandma have permission to take her in for medical treatment if she's babysitting her? If so then do it. This just isn't right if she's still not eating, has sunken eyes and lost 3 pounds.

Mawmaw cannot afford to take her to the Dr.  When I say that I mean it.  Jennifer and Chris could take her but they are both in thir own little worlds.  Chris is the meat department manager at Food Lion and he makes right at $20/hour.  His car is paid for, their mortgage is almost $200 less per month than our's yet, they "can't afford" a Dr. bill.  WTF?  I just don't see how anybody can let their child go through something like this.  If it was Maddy, she would have already been to the Dr.