Need a push.

Candace, I tried to PM you back but it says you don't have PMs enabled anymore!

I'll try again when I get to New Mexico, I'm getting on a plane this evening...won't get there until tomorrow!

Ooops Jean I pm'd that guy that posted those nasty threads the other night to tell him I was going to report him.  Then in hindsight I decided to disenable my pms so he couldnt pm me back.  He seemed like the kind that was just trying to get a rise out of anyone.  Then I realized I could just block him.  And of course I forgot to re-enable my PM's.

Amy, sounds a bit like Borderline Personality Disorder w/ your aunt.  A person can have a personality disorder aside from ADD or ADHD, depression, etc.  Personality Disorders are much harder to treat because there isn't really any medicines that can complement therapy.  Trish and Jean have said a lot of accurate things about the illnesses they've dealt with.  My son has all of these issues as well as the personality disorder.
 
Candace, as far as your b/f, he has to want the help.  Your best bet would be to take things slowly.  Also talking with someone who can provide objective ideas will help you.  Boneyjean's advice was also excellent - you have to decide what you are willing to deal with.  Coping?  Well, there's always chocolate!  I go to therapy myself.  I spend time with my pets, read, exercise, take an occasional bubble bath, or call a friend when I need a break from my son.

I agree my aunt has some serious problems... elevated by the fact that she wont admit any of it and just thinks were making it up to be mean to her.