Am I letting his ex mess things up?

Little update

According to his sister, she has been having a hard time lately and claims she has started to "miss" him. She actually tried to orchestrate some meet-up over christmas by showing up to one of his friends house that didn't happen because I guess he just left when he saw her, so she felt a little desperate. You will not believe this, but...The secretary in my department gave her my number! She claimed she was an old friend and the moron gave her the number. I shouldn't be suprised because they have given my personal number to patients before but geez. I guess I was so frazzled I didn't think she knew where I worked, but she knew that he met me at work and obviously knew were he worked since he started there before he moved out.

I actually asked him about the blocking number and how pissed he was. He just said, "well, how would you feel if someone from your past who you were not too fond of deliberately was trying to hurt someone you love and mess with your live?". He didn't want to talk about what went on in their relationship, he just said that they both were not very nice to each other near the end. I understand that, I don't really want him knowing how I acted in prior relationships especially since it's very different from how things are now. You know what, that was enough for me, his sister has been friends with this girl for years and has no loyalty to me so she has no reason to lie and he has given me to reason to doubt. I appreciate everyone's comments, it really made me kind of pick apart the facts instead of being hysterical.

I'll keep you posted if there is any more nonsense, I hope my sixth sense is right and he's the good guy I think he is.

Well, I am glad to hear that.

How did this girl know your last name?

How did you get the sister to open up like that?  I am assuming that you talked to her yourself.

How did this girl know your last name? How did you get the sister to open up like that?  I am assuming that you talked to her yourself.

She didn't need it, I'm the only kelly in the department of surgery unfortunately. I am listed on the website of the hospital as well last name and all so that doesn't help, but my number is the department - which was "nice" enough to give my cell out when she called. This part actually makes me feel bad, the sister is feeling some guilt because she encouraged the ambush meeting over christmas so she feels like she may have had a hand in all this nonsense since she didn't discourage that. My boyfriend is pretty angry with her too. I don't get the impression she doesn't like me, I've helped her out with some personal medical stuff before, she just has been friends with this girl since they were little kids so she feels like her loyalty is split. The sister is also a HUGE drama queen and loves to be in the middle of everything, so that probably added fuel to her fire.

See? there is nothing to worry about
 
People, just switch places, what would you do if one of your exes tries to contac your boyfriend to mess up a pretty good relationship? would not you all would be mad at the ex? would not you all would ask the boyfriend to please not listen what the ex has to say and if he can block his number is better?

Yikes, too much drama for me.......
 
Here is some advice....the sister does not like you......trust me.......[]

Um, I'd be really concerned that your work gave out your personal information more than once.  I'd think those people would be FIRED.  Heck, if my electric company has to maintain the privacy of my personal information...
I agree w/snownose - sounds like sister is either doesn't like you that much (to discourage her friend from trying to invade your relationship), or she's simply getting USED by ex.  Either way, I'd stop asking her for any advice, whatnot.  I also think Cathy is right - if this ex wants to cause more trouble, she will.  So, steel yourself and your relationship against that kind of crap.  Don't let her antics corrode what you've built.  It's already at a disadvantage being apart from eachother, and she's trying to capitalize on it.
 
Here's hoping ex finds a new man/hobby to occupy her time and thoughts...

ORIGINAL: miranadobe

Here's hoping ex finds a new man/hobby to occupy her time and thoughts...

 
You should get her a toy activated by batteries []

She actually tried to orchestrate some meet-up over christmas by showing up to one of his friends house that didn't happen because I guess he just left when he saw her, so she felt a little desperate.

 
I would make it very clear to BF that you want to know about anything like this in the future.  Hearing about it after the fact or from someone else, is just the kind of thing that sends the BS radar into overdrive.  It also gives the ex a tool to use and she doesn't need any advantages.  You will need to be careful not to react if/when he tells you something though so that he feels safe sharing any info with you.  That doesn't mean you give your blessing that they get together to have lunch or anything, but if she's trying to make contact with him, he should tell you.  It removes some of the "drama" from it all too and you clearly don't have time in your busy life for any more of that [].