Jennifer
Posted : 1/23/2007 7:13:07 PM
I guess I'll be another with a possibly not popular opinion. We're just now starting to look into adoption (I was diagnosed with infertility almost three years ago) and what's really hit us is the cost. For a domestic adoption, you're looking at $25,000, easy. There is a $10,000+ tax break, but you've got to front the money first. International adoptions (China, before they changed their regulations) can cost as little as $10,000 (not including travel costs).
I think the biggest reason people go international or consider it is that the chances of the birth family trying to take your child are reduced. I'm not saying it happens often in the U.S. (I don't have statistics, I'm almost scared to look for them) but it does happen. Courts often side with the birth parent(s) in these cases, and that just doesn't seem right to me as a prospective adopting parent, you know? Another reason that friends of ours went internationally (China) was that they felt that their daughter would be killed if she wasn't adopted.
As far as a uterus transplant...I wouldn't personally take it that far, but I can understand the desperation of someone who does it. It's a difficult thing, having to let go of that dream of having children. Adoption is a wonderful route, but it's not for everyone and every situation.