cakana
Posted : 4/11/2013 4:55:24 PM
tacran
Cathy, I can understand your friend's need to ruminate and bounce things off you about a potential job. I had a very unusual job opportunity come my way a week or so ago -- and to say I've bent the ears of some friends about it would be an understatement. I pretty much knew it wouldn't be ideal for me, but there were many pros and cons, and I couldn't get my thoughts straight to make a clear decision either way. I felt I had to keep talking about them. I'm sure your friend appreciates you being a sounding board, and being honest with what you think she should do.
Tracy - I'm 100% sure your situation is different. She's been out of work for a few yrs now and over-analyzes many of the ads she sees. I always tell her apply and if you get an interview and a job offer, but hate the company, you can decline it. She was married for 20 yrs to a very dominant, controlling man. Not surprisingly, she then married someone similar. She has no confidence in even the smallest decisions. For example, she said they were asking for references. Yeah, so? She said she doesn't have any. I asked why she couldn't use her past employers (I said to contact them to let them know first). She hemmed and hawed and then agreed she probably could. My husband can be the same, indecisive way. Sort of like "this is too hard for me to think about. You do it for me, k?" *sigh*
I hope you were able to make a decision you can be at peace with in terms of your other opportunity. Changing jobs absolutely comes with a lot of questions regarding the pros and cons.