Just another manic Monday chat

I agree, it is definitely all about the tone and context! 

Here's a story: My dad had leased me a car right out of college - I made the payments but the lease was in his name. Anyway, it was nearing the end of the lease so I went to the dealer to talk about purchasing the vehicle and what kind of deal they could make since I was over on my miles. Well, the dealer says to me "sweetie, why don't you have your dad come in and we'll talk." Well, by now I had been working in the automotive industry for 3 years and knew my stuff. I looked him straight in the eye and said, "you can take your sweetie and shove it up your...". Well, you get the point.

Went home, told my dad what happened.  Went to a different dealer the next day, bought a brand new car and turned in teh lease and THEY ate the mileage.  Then took a picture with my car and sent it to the dealer principal, the district manager, and regional manager along with my story.  Needless to say even after repeated apologies from the sales guy, dealer, etc. no one in my immediate and extended family never bought another vehicle from that dealership again.

 However, our work security guard calls me sweetie pretty much everday and it doesn't bother me

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IMO, "hon" or "sugar" is far better than ma'am. Way to make a chick feel old, call her ma'am.

Great story, Lisa!!

My favorite pizza place is really small, and when you're waiting to pick up your pizza, you sit/stand very near the counter.  One time I sat down and starting reading the paper, and I vaguely became aware of someone calling, "Miss!  Miss!"  I tuned it out and kept reading, but they got more insistant, so I looked up and realized the guy (maybe aged 30 or so) was calling me to get my pizza.  I told him I didn't think he was talking to me because no one calls me "Miss" anymore.  He said, "Why not?"  I said I'm too old.  He said, "No you're not -- you look like a Miss to me!"  I laughed and told him I'd always be a loyal customer now! 

I had a nice visit with my friend yesterday, but I was wiped out when I got home.  It was non-stop talking from the minute I got in our other friend's car at 10am until I got out of her car at 6:30pm.  We hadn't seen each other in at least a year.  I actually had a headache from talking/listening too much.

I better go check out Luke's photos and Bugsy's video link. 

 Lisa, I would have paid money to see the look on their faces when they got that photograph!

Why must I get raging heartburn (complete with belching) just before I'm supposed to interview someone?  Here's to hoping it settles down before they arrive!  

 My brother and I lived w/ a relative in MS for about a year when I was in middle school.  I got in trouble A LOT at first b/c of the ma'am/sir thing.  Apparently the words yes and no can NOT be uttered alone, and MUST be followed w/ ma'am or sir.  Also, you are not to say "what?" it should be "ma'am/sir ?"  It took awhile for it to sink in for a certain hardheaded girl   It didn't help that inevitably when I would get it right and refer to someone as ma'am they would say not to.

But now?  It slips out on the phone ALL THE TIME.  Especially if the person I'm talking to is a female.

We do the Miss thing w/ Hannah and Aaron, his babysitter is Miss Meagan and the other day we had dinner w/ Miss Sarah.

Hannah told DH this morning she was talking to her mom over the weekend and that at 13 she could pick who she wanted to live with.  She wanted to know if he would be mad if she picked there   Thankfully we have a lot of time before that is possible, but there are so many reasons that isn't a good idea, but its hard to know what we should and shouldn't tell her.   


When we got the car we have now, we were trading in my truck.  The sales guy was ready to go look at it and said something like, "Sir, if you want to come out, you're wife can stay here while we look at it."  Apparently the look I gave him got the message across loud and clear, and he started back pedaling immediately.  Same crap happens at hardware stores.  Very annoying.

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Hannah told DH this morning she was talking to her mom over the weekend and that at 13 she could pick who she wanted to live with.  She wanted to know if he would be mad if she picked there   Thankfully we have a lot of time before that is possible, but there are so many reasons that isn't a good idea, but its hard to know what we should and shouldn't tell her.

Steph -- welcome once again to the parental world of "It doesn't matter -- you can NOT win here".  *sigh* 

The whole topic of "address" and what is, isn't polite, what may be construed as rude - here, there and everywhere all comes under 50 different topics in this day and age.  Folks move around more -- some of this is colloquial, some of it has to do with your ethnicity/cultural background (like my little w.a.s.p. roots in *very Small Town-ville* western NY State.)  And yet at the same time it easily becomes something that creates an instant judgment in our minds about someone. 

But in honesty I think a lot of this is one of the things that can make online conversation as difficult as it is -- simply because what is unforgiveably rude & pushy to one person may, to another, be how they were reared to be polite.

I think this is  good & interesting and Deb thanks for voicing it.  

Lisa -- then *grin* there are stories like yours of just plain male chauvinism.  He would have been a match for the woman I worked with who could have just called him "honey-bunzels" - they deserved each other!! LOL

I hope everyone is feel ing well today -- Spring is creeping up on us!

 I'm also finding this whole topic of addressing people fascinating.

I have an interview coming up, likely this week (ironing out the details). I feel like a fish flopping around when it comes to my employment, but after a blow out with the boss (it was civil but pointed due to a certain incident that I won't get into) and having my hours slashed to 24 a week - the writing is on the wall. The interview is for the university admin asst. position I initially passed on, but they haven't found a person yet for the job.

 sigh the fact that I didn't sleep well last night is certainly catching up with me. I want to stay up to watch the basketball tonight too so I wish I could nap!

its been a busy day so I didn't get to enjoy the weather very much but it looks nice out

I'll take B for walk #3 in a bit hopefully he doesn't find it too hot

My older sister keeps asking to come visit - I finally gave her some dates. This may not be in my best interest. We'll see

DH made an elaborate meal yesterday - just the two of us but he made enough for about 8 so we are on leftovers tonight. Which is great in my book

Bugsy, don't wear your mom out during your rehab.

I'm done with jury duty and didn't get called to a panel.  It's torture to sit there for the entire day but hopefully that will be my last call for jury duty for a while.

There was a very strange couple there who were so odd everyone was keeping far far away.  I wondered if they'd both gotten called for jury duty or just one and the other came along to keep the other company.  They were all over each other and really loud.  We all heard the woman on her cell phone at one point cussing out her son in such a loud voice that everyone could hear.  They were a real class act.

My co-worker tells me that my computer at work wouldn't start this morning.  I can't wait to find out what that's all about.  Please let it be something silly.  I may drag my DH to the office when he gets home from work to see what's what. 

As for terms of address, if it's meant kindly, I don't let it bug me too much as it's pretty common here to be called dear, sugar, honey, sweetie and m'am by men and women.  

I left there and went grocery shopping, came home and unpacked it all and then took Shane up the road for a walk. We left there and I picked up his heart meds at Walgreens and came home. I made potatoes, turkey meatloaf and broccoli for tomorrow and then went outside to clean up some of the branches laying around. The winds have been horrible and I keep expecting to hear a fence or tree come down. There's been a lot of damage and power outages but so far, things are good here. Hopefully it'll die down when the sun sets.

The colt I'd been watching and worrying about passed away this morning. Such a heartbreaking thing to wake up to :(.

 Thanks Jewlie!  The interview is for tomorrow at 12:30.  I could have made it for Friday, but that would have given me more time to get all anxious and worried lol.  The only part I'm worried about is the skills test.  I'm so beyond rusty in excel, it's not funny.  Oh well.  

 Good luck Sharon!!

Cathy that is so sad!

I spent as much time as possible outside this evening - just wonderful, except for the pollen LOL

I went over to the mill with my camera and at first saw nothing - then I noticed that the turtles (yellow sliders) were mating. Then I saw two muskrats doing the wild thing. Then I saw a beaver swimming very quickly towards 'home' aka the lodge. I was so excited as I've been trying to catch a glimpse of them for a couple of years. I also saw a ginormous snapping turtle - shudders. I love turtles and almost everything about the natural world but I do not love snapping turtles!

Karen - that sounds like a dream come true photo op. How cool for you!